Date: 9/2/2004 12:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 609
But then there are the people who touch you and make an impact on your life. It is hard when some people hurt you especially when you give them a chance. Basically I feel the way we get treated in life serves one of two purposes, it either is trying to give us a taste of our own medicine if we act the same and trying to make us more empathetic OR it is trying to help us learn and grow. Some people do pretend. they are false to others and usually thats because they are false to themselves. As I am often saying to a friend of mine, play the devils advocate and consider there may be something in that persons life that you have no knowledge of that accounts for their actions. People upset me too, deeply, you don't know even half of the negitive and sevear hurt I've suffered at the hands of others. But I love life, because there are lessons in it. What I take from these experiances shapes who I am. No matter what people say or do to you, you are the only one who has control over it. You control how you let it effect you, what you take from it. If you choose to let their negitivity tear you down then it will, but there is always the alternitive. Life is beautiful, people are not always so, but people are transiant.  |
Date: 9/2/2004 12:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 62506
Stop...take a deep breath...count to 10...exhale slowly.A rant is good for the soul.Especially when the anger involves friends.Let the anger subside and never never never stoop to their level.  |
Date: 9/2/2004 1:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 22308
its sad to think people are like that. i have gotten the unpriviledged opportunity to know people like this and i don't know why i ever met them sometimes. however it did make me learn.  |
Date: 9/2/2004 2:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 36079
lol, well, You r trying to make a point about some particular people huh? lol Well you can be like me and trust no one and have only one true freind but many freindly acquantences. I think that's the best way anyway. I'm really picky about who I choose as a freind, and even if they are my freind it doesn't necassarily mean I trust them, and after they lose my trust it takes awhile for them to gain it back. The thing is too, no one is perfect, people make mistakes, and sometimnes people are just too niave to know any better. It's not that I don't trust people, but that I trust that people are going to screw up, it's the human way, no one is perfect. That's ok, we all live and learn. So guard yourself, look for people to earn your trust, and don't give anyone too much credit they don't deserve. I think we are all just stupid humans, fumbling and feeling our way through this unpredictable, unforgiving world, and no one really knows what the heck they are doing. long story short, choose wisely, there is nothing wrong with setting limits on trust, or not fully trusting everyone you consider a freind.  |
Date: 9/2/2004 4:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 62876
Hi, Emi! I am new to USM and for some reason I feel compelled to respond to your message. I am from OH, too. I hope you will find that as people get older they do seem to not be so petty and it gets easier. Either that or we learn to harden ourselves a little, then when someone turns out to be special we are pleasantly surprised, but like Phe said, which she did very well BTW, you will meet those who are wonderful and don't miss out on those opportunities. ....HipChik  |
Date: 9/2/2004 4:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 62801
Forgive people they are weak, trust God. *LoveisAll*  |
Date: 9/2/2004 4:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
venting always makes people feel better...so vent away =) i am so sorry you feel this way. i know how it is and, in all honesty, i do not trust anyone very easily. it takes a while for people to earn my trust. because of things that have happened in the past, i always have my guard up. i believe it is better to have a few really good and trustworth friends than to have a million fake ones. i hope you feel better soon
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Date: 9/2/2004 5:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 37101
Trust, love and friendship. The single most rewarding things on the planet but on the flipside, they can be the single most heartbreaking things on the planet. When something so involved and sacred is being enacted, you have to put yourself out there to experience it... it's good times and it's bad times. You'll experience both many times throughout your life. -  |
Date: 9/2/2004 6:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I know you are very angry, but trust me, there are lots of people out there who think just like you. I have often said the same thing, "Why do I even trust people? They just end up hurting me in the end!" You can't take it personally, it happens to all of us. Don't give someone your trust until they have well earned it. And don't look to other people to fulfill any need you may have. The only person who can treat you exactly how you want to be treated is YOU  |
Date: 9/2/2004 8:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
WOW!!! I can't say that I blame you if you really feel that you can't trust people, but believe me..nothing that anyone does is worth taking your life or even considering it. While there are many, many untrustworthy souls..there are just as many who CAN be trustworthy and are just waiting to meet you!! Don't give up hope sweetie..  |
Date: 9/2/2004 9:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 28767
I agree, it took me meeting thousands of people and out of all those I only found two people I trust. Peace Out..  |
Date: 9/2/2004 10:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
In this life we trust. Eventually we learn which people we can really trust and which ones we can't, but we can't let those people stop us from trusting again or we would miss out on so many friend ships that grow and grow through out the years. I've met many here on usm in the soon to be four years that I've been here. Some eventually I learned not to trust and I won't go into it, but there are many here that I trust with every fiber of my being, they know whom they are, but see if I would have stopped trusting because of those that proved to be untrustworthy then I wouldnt have these dear sweet people in my life that I have today. Keep on trusting , believe me, the good will out weigh the bad.  |
Date: 9/2/2004 10:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
I think we all get burned now and then. I don't know what particular post your referring to or who your referring to but if someone has hurt you, I hope it wasn't intentional. There are still good people out there but one of the problems I see a lot in my personal life, is that people often choose the wrong people to trust. I'm not referring to your particular situation or those involved but one example that I'm using is with my sisters and mother. They continue to try and trust each other and then they come to me complaining about how they've been betrayed by them once again. I just sit there and listen and think...."why do you go back for more?" I often wonder why with my two sisters they talk behind each others backs to me but then talk about me to one another and continue to leave me out of everything. It's a strange world. People often choose to trust others that they know they can't trust from past experience and neglect to go to those who have been true. Maybe it's because some people enjoy the excitement and drama of it all and that being around or entrusting those that truly are trustworthy is just boring? I don't know but some people practice some pretty self-defeating behaviors...PLEASE no this isn't in regard to you or your scenario. I'm just speaking about those I know in my life. Good luck to you and I hope things get cleared up soon and that you can once again be friends with those involved.  |
Date: 12/19/2006 3:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 16376
I agree with everyone else here.  |
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