Date: 8/25/2004 9:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 7952
Why lie to Alex? Tell him the truth  |
Date: 8/25/2004 9:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 55386
Tell her she has to tell Alex. This IS too far. Alex deserves to know, and Dan should really back off if he knows what's truely right....Tell your friend what she's doing, point out the facts for her, this is not fair to you or Alex.  |
Date: 8/25/2004 10:01:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 60992
DW masha's my best friend.. Your right.. I give up.. I'm not gonna reassure him anymore. In the end it'll just hurt him more.. Masha can go hang herself.. I love her but she's just no acting straight.. Gothic Angel I tried doing that earlier but I was so confused at what she said. She's like I love him I'm not leading him on.. But before she said she said I loved him cuz he finaly shut up about me.. He doesn't deserve her..  |
Date: 8/25/2004 10:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
I have to agree with the others. Alex has the right to know. This has to end right now otherwise it might lead into something else..Bah, I can' get the right words out. Not that it'll lead to something else, I mean like if this stuff doesn't stop now things may get worse and it's killing you knowing that this is happening. Your friend needs to step up and tell Alex. It would be better to hear it from her than from anyone else.  |
Date: 8/25/2004 10:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 16373
If you and him are good friends then i think he has a right to know. He will thank you for it later but if he finds out from someone else and that you knew and didnt tell him thats gunna hurt him too. So i would tell him. Good Luck! *BeeBop*  |
Date: 8/26/2004 3:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
Tell Alex. I would.  |
Date: 8/26/2004 6:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 22308
i've been through this with one of my friends. she got herself into the mess, so she should find her way out of it. all she did was hurt people in the end and it was both people. eventually she'll realize she's doing wrong and then maybe she'll decide who she wants but for being a friend on her part, i wouldn't get yourself involved with it. yeah someone is probably going to blame you for not saying anything but if they do, you need to say that was not your place in saying anything. eventually something will happen and hopefully she'll wake up and know who she wants.  |
Date: 8/26/2004 7:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
Tell Alex the truth. Marsha is not your friend. She only cares about herself and it's about time she woke up and realized she can't do these things to people and get away with it. She's going to be mad at you but big deal. She's not worth stressing over. Tell Alex and then walk away from it all. Don't get in the middle any more than that.  |
Date: 8/26/2004 8:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 13119
I don't think you should lie to Alex but I also don't think that you should initiate a conversation about her. If you do that you will end up in the middle and may lose both friends. She will be caught it doesn't require you to put all your relationships on the line.  |
Date: 8/26/2004 4:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I've been in the situation where I knew a friend was being cheated on on two separate occasions. Like you, I was mad about it, and was torn between what to do. The first time, it was a close guy friend that I had been buddies with for two years. His girlfriend told me that she got carried away and fooled around with her ex. I was not close to her at all, so I felt the right thing to do was to tell my guy friend what she told me. I didn't want to get in trouble for letting the cat out of the bag, so I made him promise me that he wouldn't tell her I was the one that told him (she had told other people as well she had cheated) He did, and thanked me for telling him. Well, wouldn't you know it? He confronted her, she denied it, and it ended up coming out anyways that I was the one who told him. He apologized, saying that it was a heat of the moment thing that just slipped out. Well, it ended up that he stayed together with her, and she subsequently banned him from being friends with me! Our friendship was never the same, and I regretted telling him the truth. About a year later, my best friend of 5 years was dating this guy for about two months. I found out that he had cheated on her, and once again was stuck as to what to do. I ended up deciding not to tell her, because of the disaster the last time had been. I didn't want to get involved. About a month later, they broke up and she asked me point blank if I had ever heard of him cheating on her. I was hesistant, and she pressed me further, insisting that she would never tell that it had been from me, especially considering I was with her guy's brother at the time. I told her what I had found out, and again she promised not to say it was from me. I found out the next day that as soon as she dropped me off, she went to his house and ratted me out while confronting him. Nice, eh? I will never tell again if I knew someone was being cheated on. I think it happens all too often that you will get put in the middle, and will lose one if not both of your friends. My relationships have never been the same with either one of these people, and I have a feeling that if you tell on her, this will happen to you too. What Masha is doing to you and Alex both is extremely unfair. I think you should go to her and tell her that she has put you in a very rough spot and that she needs to come clean with her boyfriend. Also, if you keep covering for her and telling Alex that things are great with her and not to worry, then you are leading him on just as bad as she is, although I know this isn't on purpose. I would be way more mad if my friend was doing that to me over if they knew something and didn't tell me. Next time he comes to you for assurance, DON'T! Give him a hint that maybe he should have a long talk with Masha. Good luck, I know it stinks  |
