Date: 8/24/2004 8:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 11341
I dont think you should compromise yourself for anyone, but I also think that if you spend you like looking for your soul mate you will never find him.  |
Date: 8/24/2004 8:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
they sound like a waste of time. A RESPECTRFUL guy would not ask u those questions without saying can I ask u something personal or whatever. And he wouldnt hound u like they are doing. Id drop em both. You deserve sooooo much better then that sweetie!! Stay safe and good luck! *huggs*  |
Date: 8/24/2004 8:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 22308
sounds like what i've been through. about 90% of guys are like that. sorry to say but its the dang truth. i've had plenty of guys that were all about the sex and stuff and every guy that i have been with has either drank/smoke/done drugs, done 2 of them or all three or even just one of them. this world is full of that and if someone wants to do it, they've got connections, and you know that. but its hard to find guys that are not in to all of that cause all of that is out there and always has been. good guys come once in a while. i know how you feel. i've dated a lot of guys and there has only been one good guy in my life. the rest were jerks that i should have never been around but i learned from them! it'll take time. i still have to find 'the one' i wish you luck in your man search! *hugs*  |
Date: 8/24/2004 8:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 16373
Not all guys are like that. Most of them, YES! But there is still good guys out there that wanna be with you for you not just a sexual relationship. If thats all they want then its useless ya know?? Cuz they will use you and abuse you so to speak. If a sexual relationship is all they want then they are trash cuz if u dont give it up when they want it they go elsewhere to get it. And you sound like the type of person that wants a relationship that will last not just a one nite stand. The right guy is out there just be patient. He will come along. (((HUGZZZ))) Dont forget, when you find him he's worth all the wait. *Beebop*  |
Date: 8/24/2004 8:23:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
Got Bubbles the 1st guy did and since the call was at like 3am i dont remember but the 2nd guy might have said it too...I never say yes I say it depends (because apparently I had bad oversight on it LOL...no i dont think the 2nd guy did I know I woulda said no this time...) DMK I'm not looking for him I think I know who he is and I just have to have faith that if that is so I will get him when the time is right...however thats why I even tried with these guys; I didnt wanna seem psycho and 'out of this world' with that so I thought this might normal me down lol just made me want my soulmate more! Wow Fuel Girl I musta missed something then! Sad to say I dont much care for it if thats how its going to be...I have morals and I like it that way LOL!  |
Date: 8/24/2004 8:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 7952
You're wiccan and go to church?? Anyway, not all guys are like that.. you'll find that someone special some day  there is no rush.  |
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Date: 8/24/2004 8:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
hehe DW its the UU church...which makes it a lot harder to say my views on sex to some of the teens because obviously their not as 'hell fearing' as some people LOL! |
Date: 8/24/2004 9:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 62588
Everyone knows that first impressions last a lifetime, right? Are you giving out the first impression that you are not available that way? It sounds like you want a guy who is deffinately willing to be friends first, but you don't neccisarily cuddle with your friends - not in the first two days you meet them. With the last guy - it's over and there is nothing you can do about it. With the new guy, I think I would have a talk with him about respect. Come off as a jerk if you have to, but explain to him that no, he cannot kiss you - if he wants to talk to you on the phone about sex, he doesnt respect you and is waisting your time even if he only wants friendship unless he can respect you. I know that you didn't do anything wrong, and aren't leading people on. These two, though, are insisting that you lead them on - don't take the bait. In the future hang up on any guy who asks about your past (etc) or what you are wearing before he says he loves you.  |
Date: 8/24/2004 9:28:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
Well when I met the first guy I was doing the dishes and making comments about how much that sucked LOL didnt think anything about it and when I met this guy I was at the RE sign up area and him and the lady in charge came over and I kinda interuptted (polietly  ) if she could show me the info too so I dunno what the first impression is with those...Also I know I probably led the first guy on (I was just happy to have someone liking me) but with this guy I gave him strict warnings that this was how i was and how i intend to be so yeah. |
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Date: 8/24/2004 9:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 62588
Whatever you decide to do - don't let him push you around. |
Date: 8/24/2004 10:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
these guys sound a bit disrespectful to me. If a guy really cares about you, he would be happy to wait for you to be ready to further your relationship. TRUST ME, not all guys are like that. Just hang in there and you'll meet the right guy and it'll all just fall into place. good luck  |
Date: 8/25/2004 1:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 27741
You can't just say "you have a soulmate somewhere out there" and don't need these guys because if you never talk to people then you won't find your soulmate!  |
Date: 8/25/2004 7:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 60426
You know what you're after... keep looking...
Thonix, I have the same belief as you stated.. that there is only one person for me to love... I look around and talk and go out but that's because I haven't found the right one at all.  |
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Date: 8/25/2004 9:52:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
Thonix thats y I do talk to these people but honestly it seems any of the guys who come on to me aren't that great of guys to begin with apparently! Outside of that I've had crushes end miserably so I've been trying; but I can safely say I REALLY doubt my soul mate or anybody tolerable for that matter is from this state let alone the parts I/'ve lived in LOL! |
