Date: 8/24/2004 5:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 62246
I have a cousin like that. Did you tell her mom about her misbehavior? Well, when my cousin, or anyone else I'm babysitting starts acting like that, I know this is wrong, but I manipulate them like heck. That's how I was raised. Now, even though I know most of the stuff I was told as a child isn't true (like candy will put hair on you palms) it still made me behave when I was a child. Though, my teachers feared that I behaved too well. Now I don't think that have that fear at all. ;D  |
Date: 8/24/2004 6:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
Oh man, I really dont know :-( Im sorry!! Good luck! *huggs*  |
Date: 8/24/2004 6:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6860
Thanks for replying, Got Bubbles.   |
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Date: 8/24/2004 6:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6860
Her mom has said in the past that she didn't not want to hear about her behavior if any problems were resolved during the day. I finally came out and told her mom today that I've been having tons of problems, but she didn't say anything nor did she act surprised. There is no doubt in my mind that she acts the same way with her mom, so I'm sure the problem won't be fixed by mom. I don't want to manipulate her, because things I tell her might be carried on with her later in life. Thanks for your advice though. |
Date: 8/24/2004 6:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 7952
Don't take it... quit. Lets see who the Mom can find then, maybe it will give her a wakeup call that her child needs to be disciplined. You don't need to put up with that garbage.  |
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Date: 8/24/2004 6:13:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6860
I would have definitely quit by now if I didn't need the money. I only have 8 days left, so it is a little late to back out now. I just want to keep my sanity the remainder of the time. Thanks for replying, DW. |
Date: 8/24/2004 6:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 28767
I would say just try to stick it out. After you get paid tell the mother waht you think. Peace out..  |
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Date: 8/24/2004 6:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6860
Thanks, KSM. |
Date: 8/24/2004 6:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
I babysat for 5 children....12,11,7,5,3 I had full parental rights as long as those children were under my care.....now I never ever spanked them....I don't belive in that to begin with...I found that I could actually talk to them....and it worked.....however the 5 year old decided to be like her 11 year old sister and started to lie to me.....so what I would do is I would put her at the diningroom table and she would have to face away from the tv.....while her younger brother got to watch his shows...now this was only 5 or 10 minutes at a time...and it worked....she was totally cured within a week.....the kids were great....and I understand that all kids are not that well behaved...but come on they are kids...however.....I would start taking stuff away from her that she enjoys....only for a few minutes at a time....see if that works......  |
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Date: 8/24/2004 6:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 62246
Paddybear, that's a good idea. |
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Date: 8/24/2004 6:53:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6860
Paddy, I do try and talk to her. When she's in time out, I tell her why she is there, and I tell her that she needs to listen or she won't get to do things she wants to do. Apparently, this isn't working. I'll try taking things away from her. Thanks for the suggestion. |
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Date: 8/24/2004 7:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
my biggest thing was Wade the 3 year old and Kayla the 5 year old and Chaise the 7 year old..well they like to go outside..and I always says if you go outside you must tell me where you are...i fyou leave from there and want to go someplace else..then Imust know before you go.....they liked to try to sneak away but I was always one step ahead of them.....if i found then somewhere else than where they were supposed to be..they were pulled back into the house to sit on a chair for 5 minutes........it worked after a few times. |
Date: 8/24/2004 8:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 22308
talk to the parents and tell them what's going on. even though her mom doesnt' really discipline her, maybe if you tell her what happens, she might realize that things need to change.. good luck! *hugs*  |
Date: 8/24/2004 9:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 62588
I have an idea no one else has brought up. Tomarro, when you go over, tell her you have a plan. Sit her down and explain to her that she has been misbehaiving, and tell her if she can behave all day long then half an hour before mommy gets home you will do something special (she can help make a desert, you will take her to the park, etc.) Try positive reinforcement. There are only eight days left, so you can deffinately come up with eight fun things to do with her. I have a problem with my nephew respecting me (this is not about listening or obeying - deep down it is really about this child not respecting!) and this works with him. On a really bad day, I have to do something like this, take away sugar and give him time outs. On a horrible day, he has to stay where I can see him, but I won't interact with him a lot (he can ask me for something to eat, but if he wants a playmate, forget it!)  |
Date: 8/24/2004 9:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
I have more control over other people's kids than I do my own, simply because they know how and when to take advantage....LOL My best friend's daughter has one of those little tudes, it's not anywhere near horrendous, but she can pop right out with a "No" like that's going to fly. I give her no tolerance, I only tell her once and if she doesn't listen to me, she's all done. For example, if she's not playing nice with the other kids, I only warn her one time and if she doesn't listen I pull her out of the room and make her sit. Given the fact that she knows not to even bother testing me twice cause I will and have had to pull her out again and sit her in the chair. With the child you are minding, if it takes 20 times that you have to stop her and sit her down. Do it every single time and it will start to sink in that she won't be allowed to do it. What it seems like now, is that she is continuing the same behavior because she knows if she keeps it up, you cave. My own kids do it to me all the time...LOL.  |
Date: 8/24/2004 11:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 13609
Running Wolf!!! Hey sister wolf! heheh. Ohh I sooo know that feeling, i babysit for these 2 kids, one 3 and the other one is 5, and omg, i bbysat them one night, and they just wouldn`t go to bed!!! i swear they were still up when the parents got home at like 11:30, it`s just like u said, they are not displined, they are spoilt! The 3year old was kicking me even, lol it was kinda funny. But just try to bribe her, and say stuff like "Obviously you don't like me, so i won't come and babysit for you again" - Coz usually they torment you so much coz they love u! lol Good Luck, tell me what happens Luv,  |
Date: 8/25/2004 12:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 52489
Tell the Mother flatly that you won't babysit anymore unless you're given permission to punish the child. Unless you have that power, you are going to stay on an inferior basis with the kid you're supposed to be in charge of. Until you have carte blanche to spank that kid, you will get no respect. Frankly, if I were you, I'd walk away from this whole thing. That Mom is raising a hellion, and she knows it.  |
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Date: 8/25/2004 4:38:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 6860
Thanks everyone for replying. I'm on my way to work now so I don't have time to reply to each comment, but I will when I get home. Thanks again everyone! |
Date: 8/25/2004 5:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 26363
What parental boundaries? Start taking away the priviledges, like television, toys, playtime, etc...Reward when she does something kind or does as she is told. If she pitches a fit, then put her in her room and ignore her. She will soon learn that you won't play up to her antics. Don't listen to her if she starts yelling or badmouthing, just calmly walk away and busy yourself with something else. If her mother doesn't want to hear about the crime then she surely isn't interested in the punishment. There are just ways of disciplining a child. Seems to me its all attention seeking anyhow. Only give her attention for good behaviour. Good luck  |
