Date: 8/23/2004 4:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 14780
Be yourself...if they are your friends they will respect your decision.  |
Date: 8/23/2004 4:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 27534
My very best friend just quit.... but only after a doctor diagnosed pulmonary infasima.....I triend to encourage the no smoking... it did not change our friendship....and I could not change the smoking...the doctor did. I am glad that my friend never smoked directly in my presence out of respect to me and my health.... maybe your friends as individual will recognize your proximity to them....and finish a cigarette early to enjoy your friendship.  |
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Date: 8/23/2004 4:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 62862
I agree, if they really are friends then poisoning you shouldn't really be a priority. Tell them that you don't mind if they wanna do that to their bodies but to respect you and your wishes. I make a couple of my friends go outside to smaoke round my place, if i did get lung cancer i'd hate to be always wondering if it was their fault, you'd go mental. Well, hang in there- Down To Earth |
Date: 8/23/2004 4:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 10245
whatever you do... don't start just to fit in. It's not worth it in the long run. Quitting is hard and nearly everyone who has ever started wish they hadn't.  |
Date: 8/23/2004 4:23:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61013
Thank you I also think i'm gonna write this one friend of mine a letter bout how he lied to me and tell him goodbye until he can keep his words.  |
Date: 8/23/2004 4:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 62739
Take a deep breath and count to ten. You can, they can't. Doesn't that feel good? ~Russel~  |
Date: 8/23/2004 4:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
Well, on the one hand you have the right not to be exposed to the secondhand smoke..but on the other hand, if they are in a public smoking area or their house, car or what have you..then you really can't make them promise anything. If you choose to continue hanging with them and being where they are then you (sorry to say) kinda have to deal with it. I only say this as when I used to smoke, I would be sitting at the smoking table outside at work and my friend would come out and sit and when I lit up she would start hacking and waving her hand and telling me to "put it out" and I would politely remind her that she chose to come to the table that is designated for smokers and that if she can't take it she could leave anytime she wished. She would also try to tell me to go outside on the porch when we were in my own home..a real no go!!  |
Date: 8/23/2004 4:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 62424
no matter how left out it may make you feel..all I can suggest is to walk away when they're smoking...the best alternative is to give them a big talk and risk the friendships but if they do quit you'll be healthier and so will they. If they dont quit then they arent good friends..cause' good friends care about each others health. Good Luck  |
Date: 8/23/2004 4:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 27705
Then everytime they smoke around you walk away slowly and tell them not to do it in your face type deal...maybe they'll catch the hint...peace and love Regina  |
Date: 8/23/2004 4:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
don't start.....that's not a way to fit in  |
Date: 8/23/2004 5:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 7849
thats ok we like you!!  |
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Date: 8/23/2004 5:15:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61013
thank you all for you kind advice |
Date: 8/23/2004 5:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Get some new friends. Cigarettes aren't called "coffin nails" for nothing!  |
Date: 8/23/2004 9:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 16373
If they are true friends then they should respect you enough not to smoke when you are with them. Good luck in the decision you make. BeeBop  |
Date: 8/23/2004 10:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 49889
Stand your ground! They will see you keeping away from it and eventually admire you for it- maybe itll even change their mind!  |
Date: 8/24/2004 11:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 56630
I highly agree with what Katasho said, just be yourself. Thats how I got all my friends. A couple smoke, but they respect my choice to not.*hugz*Love Ya!~Luke  |
Date: 8/24/2004 12:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 23101
Stand your ground. Don't smoke, you will regret it for the rest of your life.. Just say something like "I dont smoke that kind" or "No thanks, I dont feel like it now" or something like that..  Just don't give in, don't.. *hugs*  |
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Date: 8/24/2004 12:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 23101
OMG! Fiery Angel, I can't believe it, we both said Stand Your Ground. *huge hugs* |
Date: 8/24/2004 7:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
Well, they won't like you if you don't like yourself, and you won't like yourself if you start smoking. I felt the same pressures at your age, all my friends were smoking and I didn't. I tried it, but never started. Thank God for that! All the smokers I know are now desperate to quit, and can't thanks to addiction. They now look up to me as a nonsmoker! They all tell me, "You are so lucky that you never started smoking" It is expensive and dirty and ruins your health and your looks. Believe me, they won't think it's cool in a few years. And there are LOTS of other people who don't smoke around you, you are just not looking at their crowds. Get involved with people who are more caring towards their bodies  |
