Date: 8/10/2004 1:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 50678
not at all, When my parents got a divorce I felt the same way, it was my fault but I came to realize that it was best for them, they are happier now, sometimes in life you have to step in and say something you feel is need no matter if it is good or bad, when and if they get a divorce I'm sure they will thank you for stepping in.  |
Date: 8/10/2004 2:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 48941
Well I come from parents that divorced, and myself am a divorce parent. I am so sorry that you are going through this and I am sure it hard on you, but keep your chin up. No matter what happens between your parents it is not you or your brothers fault, these things happen sometimes. I also understand what you are saying about your father, but deep down I am sure he loves you very much, he just might not be able to show it or say it. Keep your head up and look to good side of things no matter what happens, what ever it might be that happens.  |
Date: 8/10/2004 2:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 62779
I don't think it's wrong... I think it's hard living with parents who are always fighting. If your father loves you, I'm sure he'll get over it once everything has chilled out. I'm sorry you and your family are going through this. *hugs* ~Angel Wolfe~  |
Date: 8/10/2004 3:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 29199
Of COURSE it's not wrong. It's SO MUCH easier to get along with someone and regain respect for them and their opinions when they are apart. A divorce may be the best thing to do. It would make everyone happier, no more fighting, a distant respect for one another, and, most of all, you won't have to go through watching people fight like that. It's not right and doesn't set a good example for you when you wish to persue a relationship in the future. A divorce is a great solution for a lot of couples. Maybe some time apart would make them reconsider their love for one another and make them realize that they took advantage and eventually get back together. Healing takes time, and if you keep scratching a wound it will never heal. Good like. Take care!
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Date: 8/10/2004 3:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 62838
It's not wrong at all to feel the way you do. We all say things sometimes in the heat of a situation that we don't mean. If your Dad won't speak with you, maybe you could write what you need to say down on paper in a letter and leave it somewhere that he'll find it. Explain to him that out of desperation for them to stop fighting you said something you didn't mean, without thinking. We all do this sometimes. Tell him how difficult it is for you when they fight because you love both of them. If he still doesn't talk to you after this then try to approach him again in person. If he still won't speak after this then you've really done all that you can. Try to know that NONE of this is your fault. Like Lady Bug said try to keep your head up, you are not to blame for something that's between your mother and father. - Kokoro |
Date: 8/10/2004 3:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 62503
It wouldnt be your fault. When parents divorce its never the kids fault really. Parents will use that as an excuse because they dont want to admit that they werent strong enough to keep something together. You know you could have just said something that the both of them just didnt want to say. Kind of like when 2 people want to break up but neither person wants to say break up because it will hurt the other persons feelings.. You know what im saying? Your parents will know what they will feel is best for them and your brother and you. It sounds like your father and you have the same relationship my dad and I have. Its hard to understand but you have to understand that if they seperate its not your fault, thier problems go deeper than you saying something about a divorce. OKay? So if you EVER need to talk. My door is always open. I hope things turn out for whats best for your family.  |
Date: 8/10/2004 4:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62424
god Im crying so much...thank you all so much...you have helped more than you could ever comprehend...*hugs to you all*  |
Date: 8/22/2004 11:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 62135
Its not wrong. Not at all. Trust me. But its hard to that I'm strange to you and unknown. But I have friends that went through the same thing. Its not thier fault OR yours! Its a problem between your 'rents. Mostly to me it sounds like your father (no offense) has some issues to deal with and is taking them out on you. So try to give him space but let him know that its okay for him to not talk to you or anything. But its not okay to show disrespect.
Hope things get better soon for you.
KrazyZodiac  |
