Date: 7/25/2004 6:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 55344
When she gets back have a long talk with her and try to tell her that you would never do anything like that, and your friends were just being silly.. :/  |
Date: 7/25/2004 6:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 56297
hmm sounds like ur moms a lil over protective, first off your right she shouldnt have been going through your personal property, second of all she should have talked to you about it first instead of freaking out, and third if she thought you were having sex she shouldnt have handled it in that matter, because i no if i wus u and my mom would do that i wouldnt even consider talking to her when i did become sexually active for real. What I would do is wait for her to come back and explain the situation to her and hope she has calmed down by the time she comes back *hugs* hope everything goes good for u!   |
Date: 7/25/2004 6:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
My mom did something similar to this to me. I had soccer practice, but forgot, and went to the mall. Well I had to be picked up with my stuff and get ready in the car. Well when I got home I threw my stuff on my bed and closed the door then went n got in the shower. When I came back, my clothes that I bought were all over my bed and some personal clothing was missing. She had not only gone through my bags, but she took my things. So when I asked for em back, she yelled at me and said that I was turning into a "dirty ----" and that I wasnt getting them back. THEN she yelled at me for spending MY money. She held onto em for over 4 months, then finally set down rules and said I could have em back....it was totally unfair, but she said her house, her rules :-( I still dont think its fair. Cause its my room my money and my clothing :-(  |
Date: 7/25/2004 7:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 22308
I would sit her down one day and tell her that they were a joke and also state that you wish she wouldn't have gone through your stuff. i have a big issue with privacy and my things with my parents. they have been pretty nosey in the past but since i'm 19 now they've let up on the issue. you just need to tell your mom straight out about that and also let her know that she can trust you from now on. boy what a situation you are in!  |
Date: 7/25/2004 8:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 62740
i'd talk to her and tell her that she should not have gone through my stuff and that my friends were just being goofy. *MK* (Hope it helps!)  |
Date: 7/25/2004 9:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 49536
If I were you I would tell my mom, it's not my fault my friends were messing with me, and I would never do anything like that. My parents don't go through my stuff but my friends parents do, and they get mad to. Their parents say that it's their buisness what their kids have or do. Hope that mad sense to yo. **GuitarPic**  |
Date: 7/25/2004 9:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 43214
Thanks for the advice everyone. I think that's what I'll do. I'm kinda worried about talking to her though, because I know she won't listen to me. Do you think it would be a good idea to write her a letter in reply???  |
Date: 7/25/2004 10:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 53558
Welcome back home. I am sorry but I don't how to answers your question...(",)...  |
Date: 7/26/2004 9:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 62682
If it were me that had gone through my daughters stuff and I had found something like that...I think I would have jumped to conclusions too. But you are right, she didnt have any right to go through your stuff. I dont think she is being over pertective...just a loving conserned mom. You have to understand where she is comming from too and that will help you to talk to her about this. Sit her down, and explain what had happened...as to why it was there. Also explain to her how going through your stuff hurt...explain to her how that made you feel. Tell her your ethics and reasure her that you have good moral judment and were taught good ethics and ask her to trust those....I hope that helps.
~~~Humming Bird  |
Date: 7/26/2004 9:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 5252
that is what parents are for. my best friends parents think that we are on drugs and they search her car every day. well now my parents started doing that too. it gets very annoying, but she is just worried. have a talk with her, explain to her why you have it, and tell her that if there ever be a time that you need birth control, you would talk to her about it first, just reassure her that you aren't growing up too fast, and that you aren't going to do anything that you may regret later on in life.  |
Date: 7/26/2004 4:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
well, i have a son who is only 9, so luckily, i dont have to worry about this yet. lol. but if i had a daughter and i found birth control in her bag, i would probably think the same thing. parents usually assume the worst. I know i would not go through my childs things unless i was worried that he was involved in drugs or something. my father use to go through my stuff all the time and it drove me crazy! i would like to think that i wont be like that with my son. i would also like to think that my son and i can have an open honest relationship where there is no need to keep secrets. the best idea would be to sit your mother down and tell her it was all a joke your friends did to you. let her know that she has no reason not to trust you and you would appreciate it if she could let you have a little of your life as private...but if you are ever in a tough situation, you will come to her. parents like to know that their children will come to them when they need us.  |
Date: 7/26/2004 6:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I absolutely think that it is a wrong thing to do to violate your children's privacy like that. I think a lot of parents don't realize that when they snoop on you, you don't trust them anymore and are less likely to go to them about your problems. I know that snooping really put a damper on my mom's and my relationship, and I am still hurting over some of the things she did years ago that violated me. When I was 15, my mom heard I was having sex, even though I totally was not, and was not even into guys really, and she said similar things, and even tried to get me into a doctor's office to "test" my virginity!!! Yeah, really. I would tell your mom exactly what you did here, except do it while you are not mad and are not going to freak out on her, in which case she will turn off her ears automatically. Tell her calmly that you are not having sex, and that she can trust that when you are, you will come to her. Oh, and find better hiding spots for your personal stuff  |
Date: 7/26/2004 11:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 19625
I think it was wrong of your mom to go through your things, but she probably just thinks she's looking out for you, after all, you're her baby girl, she just doesn't want you getting into trouble. I think you should have a talk with your mom, about privacy, trust, and how even if you were having sex at least that proves you're using protection. Somtimes moms just don't get it, but you should let her know that your friends were joking with you and that you're sorry she finds your friends "sick," they were just being goofy, and that she should take a little more time before she passes judgement on your friends. Good-Luck. Erin-  |
