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Date: 7/25/2004 1:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 62682
hmmm...Good question. I am not old enough to asnwer this question...I am only 21 so I remember very clearly all that I went through as a kid..so Id say that I understand. But I dont know about the older adults.... ~~~Humming Bird  |
Date: 7/25/2004 1:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 62599
I wouldn't think they do (At least not as well as they think they do), but then again.........how many kids understand what kids are going through these days?  |
Date: 7/25/2004 1:20:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61013
good point autopilot I understand what some kids are goin through with divorce and stuff. cause my parents are divorced and bout not being liked but I dont care how well people like me.  |
Date: 7/25/2004 1:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 22308
sometimes i don't they do cause today is a whole lot different from when they were our age. so many things are brought to kids when they are with their friends and on tv and everything like that. i think that if parents would give us a chance sometimes to explain ourselves in what we do and why we do it, maybe they would understand but then some parents just don't want to hear it and that's what really irritates us. they sometimes dont' take the time to listen. i think parents needs to listen a little better sometimes so they know how we feel.  |
Date: 7/25/2004 1:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
Personally yes, I do know what you're going through but that's only because I teach kids aged 11 - 18. For the majority of parents that I speak to no, they don't quite understand the full picture.  |
Date: 7/25/2004 1:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 4144
yea, we get it. the reason we get it is because we have already been 12-13-14-15-16-.......so, it's like been there, done that. and when we were there we thought there was no way our parents understood what we were going through! it's like this weired little cycle that keeps spinning out the same stuff over and over and over.....  |
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Date: 7/25/2004 1:40:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61013
yeah but things are different these days then back when our parents were little. |
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Date: 7/25/2004 1:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
...and when your parents were kids they were saying exactly the same to their parents....LOL! It's an everchanging world we live in. |
Date: 7/25/2004 1:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 56297
no i dont think adults know what we are goind thru now days, maybe a few do, but most dont. Because back then yeah there was pressure to drink and do drugs and have sex but not as much as there is now, and most adults dont remember how hard it was to be a teenager so if they hear a teenager complain or something there just going to say "they have it easy" or "they dont know what a hard time really is"..but in reality we do know, probably more then they do, because of the things we go through and the mistakes we have to make to learn. Great post btw! :O)  |
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Date: 7/25/2004 1:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61013
Thank you Tina. ~*~hugs~*~Love, keri |
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Date: 7/25/2004 1:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 4144
how are things so different? drugs? we had em. booze? had that too. sex? oh yea, it was around!! the biggest difference is there is a little more of everything. but there are more people in the world now so it all sort of evens out! |
| Date: 7/25/2004 2:11:00 PM From Authorid: 62519 I think parents are totally wrong when they say they know what we go through. i think it's difficult for parents in particular because they are so blinded by love and they want their children to live up to their expectations. And they may or may not have been as mature if they did go through certain situations. teachers do have a good grip on what we're going through, we'd be lost without some of them.-bymyself |
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Date: 7/25/2004 2:12:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61013
I agree John... Some parents might have been more mature or less mature then someone of us and their parents could let them do what ever or be totally strict. |
Date: 7/25/2004 2:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 40979
No , I don't think they do . A lot fo them didn't half the pressure that we do to have sex and drink and all that other jazz ... things change a lot .  |
Date: 7/25/2004 2:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 31765
A lot of the things aren't all that different. We went through peer pressure with smoking (tobacco and other things) drinking, drugs, sex. *None* of these things were new. Even school violence. Granted, in my school kids weren't shooting each other, but there was violence. Every generation has its rough patches to get through, and we get through it. Good post   |
Date: 7/25/2004 3:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 17081
Kids definately have it harder today than before.  |
Date: 7/25/2004 4:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 53558
No. I can't say that I do..(",)..  |
Date: 7/25/2004 5:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
I have to agree with Mama bug. Of course my children are young but my daughter announces to me the other day at the ripe ole age of seven, that she kissed a boy at camp because she and the other girls were playing truth or dare and she HAD to. Everything she has come home,...things like girls go to jupiter to get more stupider, yadda, yadda you all know the rest, is pretty much all the same junk that we did as a kids. The difference that I see is a lot of what we did as kids is being done a LOT sooner than we did it!  |
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Date: 7/25/2004 5:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
Okay forgive me I have that all backwords, the girls go to college to get more knowledge and the boys head to jupiter.....my bad...LOL |
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Date: 7/25/2004 5:58:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61013
lol yeah I see where y'all are coming from but I think things are getting worse for kids and teenagers as the years come but I'm not saying y'alls opinions aren't wrong. |
Date: 7/25/2004 10:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 62787
parents dont know.. back then, most of the stuff was taboo..it is all open today. we have pressur put on us to look perfect in every way..girls wear skimpy cloths, try to look sexy. try to buy all the brand labels, get a nice car like the rich kids. if you havent lost your virginity before graduation in high school, you arer a loser..well, this is from the west side of america..might be different on the other side..well, i told you a teens point of view, even though i dont follow any of it..i am the total opposite. i HATE the pop culture..- Blade of the Samurai  |
Date: 7/26/2004 5:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 62753
I USE TO NOT THINK SO ----------- but YES they do =- in the 60's and 70's there were drugs, and drinking, premarital sex, and war!!! Yeah I'd say my dad knows what life is like.. Im only 24, and I know my son will go through a lot that I did! Parents are not dumb,,,, they know what life is like, they went through it. LIZARD-1  |
Date: 7/26/2004 7:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Yes parents do understand a lot of it. Its still the same old game, only difference is a few changes in the names. Most parents have been there and done that already so they see it from that point of view rather than the ohh its new and exciting point of view. And kids would much rather find out for themselves than be told that its all overated anyways.  |
Date: 7/26/2004 9:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 47218
y'know, I used to think my parents were totally clueless, too, but that's just the age. Now that I'm grown and have had a chance to discuss things with my parents, I realize that they did the same things as teenagers. And all the time, I thought I was pulling the wool over their eyes. Maaan was I wrong! Things change, but they really don't change that much  |
Date: 7/26/2004 9:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 62813
We still had all of the same problems back then as you are having now...it just wasn't talked about as much or as freely as today, if any at all !!!  Your USM Aunt, Slickchick :->  |
Date: 7/26/2004 9:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 47296
Yes we do know what kids are going through. We had it al back then. The only difference is today there is more education on most of the things than we had. Drugs were rampant in my younger days, pot, speed, coke, angel dust, and acid were all easy to get, and a lot of kids didn't know what the full effects could be, or how addictive they could be. We could buy cigarettes out of a machine for 75 cents without ID, and we paid no attention to the warnings, because our parents didn't. There were plenty of stores that would sale beer and liquor to teens, or we would take some of our parent's. The 60s was a sexual revilution that carried into the 70s, and we did not worry abour STDs. Pressure came from every angle to smoke, and a lot did. We even had smoking areas in schools for students. If someone had liquor, they ahared it with their friends. You could buy drugs almost anywhere, and it wasn't unusual to smoke a joint before school, and have another at lunch. All the guys knes which girls were "easy". We also had the added pressure of families who were afraid to divorce, because it was still somewhat taboo, although that was fast changing. That meant some had to face parents who were constantly fighting or were abusive. That led to an even greater desire by some to drink, do drugs, or engage in sexual activity, just to escape what was going home and feel part of something. Yes, we do know.  |
Date: 7/26/2004 11:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 16671
Of course we know what kids are going through, remember we use to be kids once also. Personally I think kids today have it much easier than we did. We had loads of drugs around too,it wasnt just booze or smoking. And yes there was still the pressure of having sex or not to have sex. about the only difference I can see today that is different with kids is the fact that we DID respect our parents more than todays kids. Todays kids think nothing of punching out a parent or stealing from them. We also has sexual disease back then, VD, STD's So we have the same problems.  |
Date: 7/26/2004 11:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
It seems to be the same things that were said when I was young. Drugs, sex, rock n roll... No one has a new set of hormones. Puberty still comes as a surprise to most people. Yes hormones raged back then, although you may find it hard to believe when you look at the oldsters. The war in Viet Nam was going full bore. Don't trust anyone over thirty was a saying. I guess I can't trust myself. Protest aginst the establishment were common. There was no education about smoking, dringking and/or sex. Things only change for the parents that make them change. The better you educate your kids the more prepared they will be to face the challenges in todays environment. So for some kids, they are much better prepared and find it easier to get through their adolescent years than those whose parents don't know what to do and as a result don't do anything.  |
Date: 7/26/2004 1:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 25183
I am a parent, and I can honestly say that I do understand. Just like everyone is saying, we had it all too. 30 isn't as far away as you think. I'll be there this year. I had all the pressures that kids today do, so yes, we understand.  |
Date: 7/26/2004 5:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
i can honestly say, yes, i do understand. i just turned 30 in march and, believe me, the teens weren't that long ago. the times goes by so fast and things really werent that much different than they are now. i feel like i have been through so much in my life that i can honestly say "been there done that" to most issues. so i do think, being 30, i have a very good idea of what kids are going through |
Date: 7/26/2004 8:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 11240
O.K. I do agree with all of the people in my age group about the growing up with whole "sex, drugs and rock and roll" attitude, but I also see what at least one young person here is saying. What society these days gloms on as "cool" or "sexy" or "glamorous", I think, is FAR REMOVED from what we grew up with. I admit I grew up in a small town and also admit that we didn't have a TV until I was 12, but what was the "norm" those days on T.V. compared to what IS the "norm" these days is worlds apart. Even what was considered "racy" in my day almost seems to be the "norm" these days. I see a definite shift in attitude, an attitude I can't believe a majority of teens today are even comfortable being around. And yet, that is what is around. I applaud teens today who are a bit more grounded that to just trying to "look the part" -- those that are comfortable with themselves and don't feel the need to "fit it" either in style or actions or attitude. God Bless.  |
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Date: 7/26/2004 8:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 855
YES, i think we do...I'm 39,mother of 4 kids,one is 18,17,8,5..i could see what my older two kids saw, and it's the almost the same as it was for me, but i think now there is more stuff out there then there was when i was their age,and also much easier to get,but the pressure is the same, so yea i do understand what kids now are going through,it's tough for them but hopefully they can just walk away. Your point to about divorce is so true when i was young hardly anyones parents were divorced..now it's a common thing,so sad but so true Dawn  |
Date: 7/27/2004 5:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
my parents have somewhat of a clue because we actually talk about things and they dont judge really unless i like crook something. but i think they do, teenage angst hasn't changed much in the past 50 years, the only difference is we're more open about how we feel about things and such.  |
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Date: 7/27/2004 5:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 22080
also, a better way to put it is like this. my friends all turned their backs on my cause i hung out with my gf rather than them a couple nights in the past 6 months, i was kind of shaken by how retarded they were about it and my mom says to me "ive been where you have been because i did that with your father when i was your age. it may seem like the end of the world but in reality you would have lost touch with them when you goto college or just plain graduate from high school" and thats what everyone told me. so things dont really change, kids still think the world is based around how many boy/girlfriends you can have in a year and how popular you are. |
Date: 7/27/2004 12:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 13974
Kerri, I am an adult and a parent. I very much understand what kids are going through today. I can see nothing happening today that was not happening when I was a teen. Peer preasure has always been there. Drug use has changed little since I was a teen. Violence has chhanged little. There is practicly nothing I can think of today taht was not occuring a decade ago when I was in high school. All teens think their parent's don't understand. I thought it about my parents who came of age in the seventies. As I grew up I realised that they did understand most of it. As I studied their time, I came to understand they had most of the same issues that I dealt with in school. These problems are nothing new. Sure, my parents didn't grow up with school schootings, but they did grow up with violence in society, they grew up with gangs, they grew up with drugs. While they did not have the exact same experiences I did, they had many that I never had to see. My mother, and aunts and uncles were in high school in Louisianna during integration. That was no picknick. While there is racial strife today, it doesn't come close to what my parents saw. The difference is in how our society interprets the world today. It has changed, but not so much that many parent's cannot understand. Soon, I will have a teenager, and he will think I am ignorant, and as he grows up, and has children of his own, they will do the same. It is all part of the cycle.  |
Date: 7/28/2004 2:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 51070
No. I graduated a year ago so I'm technically still a "kid" and not quite old enough to say I don't understand what kids are going through these days. But I doubt anybody over thirty-five can really...ahhh...know what we're going through these days.  |
Date: 7/29/2004 11:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Believe me darlin when I say that I do know what younguns are going through today...the same as what I did when I was a youngun...I wasn't born at the ripe old age of 62, I know how things may be more open these days, if we were told we couldnt go out somewhere ...we didnt dare to question it, and there was the saying "while you live under this roof you'll follow our rules", I know I didnt have the choice of clothes and shoes etc..money was very scarce in our family, didnt get our first tv until I was 15yrs old, sex, drugs and rocknroll I remember only too well, and having to hide things from my parents....the only difference I can see these days is that everything is so much more openly discussed, I was raised with the old saying "kids should be seen and not heard" and I didnt like it one little bit, I could give you so many examples of how much BETTER in lots of ways that the younguns have it today, would take me a long time to type them... good post hunny...hugs  |
Date: 7/30/2004 1:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 57653
I'd have to say yes he understands. I'm 27 and things now aren't that much different then when I was a teenager. We had all the same pressures, drugs, guns in school etc. In response to one poster - we had to worry about looking perfect all the time as well, we had skimpy clothes and brand names ALWAYS mattered! It wasn't easy going to school in my clothes my mother got off of layaway at kmart/walmart while everyone else was wearing clothes from the mall. There isn't much of a difference from what teens go through now compared to 10 years ago.  |
Date: 7/30/2004 9:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 3836
The majority of adults don't. Even the ones that think they do, don't. You can't possibly know what its like unless you live it. And they aren't living it.  |
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Date: 7/30/2004 9:25:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61013
that is totally what i was trying to say M & M |
Date: 7/30/2004 9:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
It seems so much harder today, and maybe the time makes it so. In my time, it was okay to smoke. We saw it in the movies and on television, today the rules have changed. Drugs have replaced the smoking issue. When I grew up, we rarely married or had children outside our own race. My grandchildren are another race, and I have no problem with the color of their skin, it may be darker than mine, but they are mine. My own, and times change and so do people.  |
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