Date: 7/25/2004 9:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 62682
Well hon, I have experienced a simulare situation only it is with my In Laws that treat me like crap. Stick up for yourself. Dont ever let others put you down. The longer you bite your tounge the longer it is going to go on. You need to let her know that what she said or did whatever it was that it is not ok to treat you like that and you are not going to take it. Dont let anyone do that to you, cause the longer you do the more they will treat you like that cause they think it is ok to do so. Tell her it is NOT ok!
~~~Humming Bird  |
Date: 7/25/2004 10:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 22308
you should do what your heart tells you to do. i would just stick up for what i thought was right and tell her what i thought. i know what you're probably going to say is mean to her, but you've got to do that sometimes!  |
Date: 7/25/2004 10:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 11341
I might have missed something, but how did she use you if you stayed with her for 3 weeks? If she treated you like crap for 3 weeks its because you let her treat you like crap for 3 weeks. Dont let anyone treat you bad. I had a friend when I was younger who treated everyone bad. I called her on it one day, and like your friend she thought she never treated anyone bad. Some people just done see it. So you can either blow it all off or end the friendship. I hope you get it straightened out.  |
Date: 7/25/2004 10:22:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
DMK maybe I should elaborate so I dont look like the moocher. *SHE* invited me each time and it was so I could do something for her. I paid for my own food and I drove me and her around. I also asked several times if it was okay I was there and I was told yes. To top it off she ate both me and my bf's food (and neither of us have a lot of money) and yet she *at the time* (she just got one THANKS TO ME) had no job and no money. Even though she has a job now her fiance will continue to pay FULLY for rent AND food, etc... Also I've already told her off thats not the problem, the problem is what do I say to these people who I want for friends because they both know me and her and I dont wanna go around looking like the catty gossiper. Thanxies!  |
Date: 7/25/2004 10:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 23101
Kaja, I am sorry, but I dont understand what you are talking about. I think what I heard was this: Your friend is treating you like crap, and to be a good friend you are staying with her, but also behind her back telling others that you dont like her? Is that really being a good friend?? I dont know, but then again, I dont understand the story. Sorry.. *hugs*  |
Date: 7/25/2004 10:51:00 AM
From Authorid: 62682
aww I nuderstand. You took care of her already, but you dont know what to tell your other friends who are also friends with her when they ask. I would be very nice about it. Just tell them that it was between you and her, and its a long story. But everything is ok now, and I dont care to talk about it. I wouldnt go into detail or anything like that. Be extremly nice when asked about her.
~~~Humming Bird |
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Date: 7/25/2004 11:06:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
Little Jung noooooo almost complete oppiosite! Humming Bird got it right sorry if this post was confusing I just thought I'd explain the situation. I had this friend, she treated me like crap, I told her I dont care to be friends any more, and now what I need advice with is we are both in the same clique of friends and they think we're best friends and Im not quite sure what to tell them because giving the whole story seems catty. |
Date: 7/25/2004 5:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
situations like this are always hard. but, due to the fact that you are both friends with the same people, you may have to let them in on what happened. just explain it as maturely as possible. because they will hear about it anyway, and all they will get is her side. just explain that the two of you had a "falling out" but you don't care to elaborate too much due to the fact that the group is friends with the both of you and you dont want anyone to think you are starting rumours or bad mouthing her. best of luck to you  |
Date: 7/26/2004 6:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
Don't bring it up. If people ask, tell them you have your reasons for not wanting to be her friend, and that you couldn't handle the way she is anymore. You don't need to get into details, and I don't think you did anything wrong by calling off the friendship  |
