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Date: 7/22/2004 4:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 16000
your best bet is to remember "hand off" when we were younger my bf's friedns had this motto bro's before ho's,,,,which is friends first. maybe they wont last and then u can talk to your friend see if she is ok with it and then u can proceed until then try and find a guy of your own |
Date: 7/22/2004 4:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 8024
good advice Dont go there ...  |
Date: 7/22/2004 5:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 11348
I haven't been in that situation luckily. If I were you I would just stay away from your friend when she's with her boyfriend. Just cut him out and then you don't have to think about him anymore. That is definitely not a good situation.... make sure you don't act on your attraction unless you want world war 3.  |
Date: 7/22/2004 6:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 47218
don't go down that road-- not only would it be completely wrong to act on your feelings for him, but, if he returns your feelings, it's almost certain to end in complete disaster for everyone involved! People act like love is something that just happens and is completely out of everyone's control, and this is SO not true. There are many things within your control-- first of all, you can avoid your friend when she's with her boyfriend, and you can avoid any other contact with him as much as possible. And, when you absolutely have to be around him, just cool it-- smile, be polite, but do not flirt with him or get too friendly. Pretend you're talking to your brother. I know you're probably thinking that you want to try to be friends with him, but because of your attraction to him, this probably isn't a good idea. Maintain your distance. It's up to you to set the proper boundaries-- if you don't, then you have yourself to blame, not your heart or some uncontrollable fate.  |
Date: 7/22/2004 7:23:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Oh you poor thing. How hard it must be to deal with this. The best thing you can do is to keep your feelings to yourself, maybe not hang around him as much as you are now, and start looking really hard for someone else to take your mind off of him! One thing to remember is that a private dream can always be your secret, but in reality it will ruin friendships and cause much much pain. You cant do this. Just stay away from them its that simple.  |
Date: 7/22/2004 10:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 13897
wow.. well my only advice is to distract yourself with something (or someone) else. i was actually in an interesting situation recently.. my best friend and i were both interested in this one boy that she worked with.. and we hung out together with him a few times.. i reaaally liked him.. well, we both did. but then they got together without me.. and he started to like her.. a lot.. i was a bit hurt but when they started getting serious, i knew that i needed to forget about him.. so i distracted myself with my art and other people around me. when i really concentrated on making him just a friend in my mind, it got easier.. i don't even see him the same way that i used to. just remember how much you care about your friend and try to be happy for her. it's difficult.. but if you concentrate on having a positive attitude, good things come your way. =) positive people attract positive feedback.  |
Date: 7/22/2004 11:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 24003
A year from now, I bet you will look back on this and realize that it was not love you were feeling. Dont act on it. You will only lose a good friend. What your feeling may be just infatuation. I think that happens to alot of us from time to time. Its all about wanting what we cant have or arent supposed to have.  |
Date: 7/22/2004 12:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
Falling in love or falling in 'infatuation'?....Love is a 2 way thing and if he is not reciprocating your feelings then it sounds like infatuation.  |
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Date: 7/22/2004 12:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
Al...LOL...green Eyes got there first |
Date: 7/22/2004 3:40:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 39272
thank you all for ur comments..i wasn't planning on acting on it but this made me confirm my decision  |
Date: 7/22/2004 3:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
are you sure its him you want and not just the relationship that they have? it happens alot more than you would think.  |
Date: 7/22/2004 7:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I've never felt like I was falling in love with a friend's boyfriend, but I have been attracted to a couple of them, and it is an awkward situation. I think that you need to put a stop to it all before something even has the possibility to happen. Basically, stay away from him. Friends are worth so much more. There are sooo many other guys out there, you do not want to ruin it with your best friend for a two week fling. Seriously  |
Date: 7/23/2004 2:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 56063
yes i have been in this situation and it sucks but you have to think that this is your friend and that just would not be cool  |
