Date: 7/21/2004 5:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 24003
Ive never been raped..but Im sure you could find some support groups in your area. You really need to start going to some sort of counselling. Take care and God Bless.  |
Date: 7/21/2004 5:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 46035
Sorry to hear about your terrable ordeal. I am the oldest of 5 childeren. And both of the youngest sisters were date raped. They just turned 29 on sunday.But you may want to go to therapy..And take it one day at a time... Yes this may scare you. But over time you should come to terms with it. It may be a long journey. But take your time do it one day at a time.. But dont let it scar you latter in life.You will eventually will trust again. Hope all is well as can be for now. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs Deborah ---AKA CHINABLUE  |
Date: 7/21/2004 6:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
I have never been raped, and I can't even begin to imagine what you must be going through. But, asking for help and someone to talk to is a HUGE step toward healing and shows that you are a strong person and that you will pull yourself above this. Check into counseling or groups of rape survivors in your area..I wish you the best!!  |
Date: 7/21/2004 11:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
I'd be willing to talk with you about it. I know that the guilt caused by it is real. It's bad enough that we continually ask ourselves how this happened and if we could've stopped it but when others do the same, it's worse. You must remember that regardless of what those who you feel have judged you say...they are clueless. They are merely assuming the worst about you or the situation. Rape is VERY common, often a woman doesn't even realize she's been raped since she's taught to feel responsible by being in that situation in the first place. What you did, in reporting this and getting medical proof...took GUTTS. I wish I would've done the same but I lacked self-confidence as so many do that are victims. Believe it or not, many rapists pick up on these things. They can often sense who's more likely not to call it rape and who is. Many rapists have been raping for years because no one had the courage as you did, to stop them. Remember that since you've taken action against him, you're not a person with a victim mentality. You need to focus on being as strong and confident as you can be and put yourself around positive people. I admire your ability to ask for help and take action, I wish more were like you. Another way to allow the healing for yourself is to help others. Many join rape crisis groups or work rape hotlines or they just reach out as you have. A big hug to you sweetie and stay strong. :O)  |
Date: 7/21/2004 11:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 25828
i can't say that i have but i do know there are support groups out there for you. i had a hard time when something violently traumatic happened within my family, and wished there had been a support group (because most people don't want to talk about it with you if they haven't been through it, it makes them uncomfortable)...so, check into your local support groups where you can talk to others that are willing to listen and share how they made it through it.  |
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