Date: 7/16/2004 8:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 24003
Your mom loves you and you are young...Ive been where you are and later in life you will realize that shes doing this because she loves you. Maybe she isnt going about it the right way, but Im sure her intentions are good. Why dont you ask her if the two of you could go to some family couseling?  |
Date: 7/16/2004 8:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 15677
I wouldnt call it abuse your mom has been the age you are an knows what can happen so she may be a lil over the top. Trust is a real hard thing for a parent to get on board with, they are always in protection mode. Try talkin about it with her in the am and see if its better.  |
Date: 7/16/2004 8:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
Well, you're very emotional right now and after thinking this over a bit you'll probably see where both you and your mother overreacted. As for this constituting abuse....NOPE. Trust me, this doesn't come close. It is merely a mother, who loves you so much that she fears for your future to the point of saying something impulsive. Yep, parents are entitled to say the wrong things once in a while too...none of us are perfect. Your mother said a few things that were nonproductive. For one...she shouldn't have reacted as harshly as she did because now you'll most likely be scared to tell her things. You would've been better off telling her that you're happy she cares about you but that you've been given better guidance than to act as irresponsibly as some of your friends. She got defensive and so did you and emotions ran wild. As for her threat to put you in Catholic School...why are you acting like it's worth killing yourself over? No offense but I wish I would've had parents that cared that much about my future and personal life to have made that threat to me. The grass is always greener on the other side but I can tell you that it can be even worse when you don't have parents that care about your future, health or feelings as a kid. Try to have a calm conversation with your mom about this. Tell her your sorry you overreacted but you didn't understand her concerns. Good luck.  |
Date: 7/16/2004 8:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 62787
well, whats your mom doing? is she stressed to the point of yelling? is she raising you alone? im not going to tell you that you will understand later because you wont. yes, counseling with your mom sounds good. you may not enjoy it, but it is better than getting hit on the wrists at catholic school...with a ruler...ow. anyways, your mom is going through something, shes not doing it just because. well, cya around..and DONT kill yourself...i dont want to see you in therapy.- Blade of the Samurai  |
Date: 7/16/2004 8:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 53157
I dont think you did anything wrong. Maybe she is under stress like shes working real hard or something. my mom will be like that once in the greatest while and its because of stress and she always ends up apologizing.  |
Date: 7/16/2004 9:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 6915
Oh no...not a catholic school  |
Date: 7/16/2004 10:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 13969
Your mom sounds like my parents used to. Just ignore them and they will learn to shut up and leave you alone. (Yes, it takes willpower but that's what I had to do)  |
Date: 7/16/2004 10:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 17081
Your mom cares about you. Only bad things happen when you are out that late.  |
Date: 7/17/2004 3:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
at least your mother is concerned about your well being hunny, some mothers couldnt care less where there kids are or what they are doing, I know I didnt always go about explaining things to my kids in maybe the right way and probably yelled as well, but I sure as heck cared about where they were and with whom they were with....and now they are raising their own and no exactly what I was on about..your mother loves you....hugs  |
Date: 7/17/2004 3:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
Your mother over reacted. Sounds like she has some kind of fear going on about you turning bad or something. I'm sure it all comes out of loving you but she's losing her grip on reality here. It's not her business what other kids do and she should realize it has nothing to do with you. Continue to show she can trust you and in time she will probubly lossen up. Unfortunately it sounds like you're going to have to keep proving yorself to this one until she comes to terms with you growing up.  |
Date: 7/17/2004 5:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 58308
awww.... i'm sure your mom loves you very much or she wouldn't care what you and your friends are doing and what time you/they are doing it. she knows that only bad things happen in the middle of the night to nice young girls and she doesn't want you to be a statistic. sometimes us parents, don't say exactly the right things but it doesn't mean that you are loved any less. I don't think what was said constitutes abuse.  |
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