Hey everyone it's been a while since I have posted. I have been in reunion with my brother for over a year now. When I saw him for he first time after ten years. It went great at first, or so I thought. He went back to boarding school last fall, and eeven though he promised to keep touch he stopped calling after september. So being the sister who is persistant, I called, text messeged...even sent cards. NO response. I purchased him a cell phone, and pay the bill every month (even thought my dad pays me back, it takes a while) and he knows I wanted him to call me but I guess it didn't dawn on him. NOw it's July. He hasn't called me in forever. In late may early June he called my husband at work and asked him for a 100 bucks. He then went on to say he would call me, that he wanted to re-establish a relationship with us. He apologized to my hubby saying he had been in rehab, and clean for 60 days or whatever. I believe him becuase I see who he calls on his phone. I guess what I am wondering is am I being a door mat, and not seeing what I need to see? He dissed me for so long I don't know what I believe anymore. My mom says to leave him be, that he's busy. His bday is coming up soon, and I wnated to send a card. But I don't want to give him anything he won't care about anyway. Any advice?
Date: 7/17/2004 12:11:00 PM ( From Author ) From Authorid: 15279 Thank you so much for your kind words. I am so upset. My mom and I talked a few days ago. The story is long but we were all separated for ten years because I called social services on my mom. Well...when my brother Sean and I met up after all those years he still loved me, at least in his way. Or so I thought. He was good to my sons, and to me, for a short while. My mom says he thought about being connected with me after those years and decided he couldn't associate with me after all, becuase he still had issues. He has been on drugs for a long time. I run into his friends or whatever they are, even some of them who aren't involved with drugs. They all say what a great guy he is, but that he is a user in more ways than one. Last winter I was told by someone that dealers were looking for him and even talking about breaking into my parents house for the money. I was so scared. I called him but he never called me back. He doesn't seem to care about anyone but himself. I raised him, and I think about what we had when he was young. He was my world like my kids are my world now. I can't imagine my life without him again. I know he used me, and I am willing to leave him be. I just don't know how I can take his callusness and coldness. I was in tears to my mom about it, and she understands, but most of his anger is because my mom refuses to own up to her wrong doings in this. (past wrong doings) My brother can't stand our mom. He is always so mean to her, and I hate that. I know I was bad once, but I am not the same person and they refuse to forgive, and I mean true forgiveness. Sadly, they were way too young to understand anything. My brother had his own hand in getting taken from my parents, by telling them things he regrets now, but even now he doesn't have the man in him stand up and take ownership. My father has worked so hard for everything his whole life and I would die for him! My brother just takes and takes. He never gives. My dad is going on 68 this year and I don't know how long I have with him. I wish things would just get better!! Thanks for the ear!! hugs Amanda Aka.....Crystal You can join Unsolved Mysteries and post your own mysteries or
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