Date: 7/14/2004 3:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
If they wanted the surgery I would get it for them.  |
Date: 7/14/2004 3:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
if it was a serious issue,and they wanted it when they are at an age to understand what will happen i would do it... i've known people who's ears used to stick out really far and their parents had them fixed so they dont stick right out... it's such a minor thing though  |
Date: 7/14/2004 3:49:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
I would too Base...if it saves them from dealing with some major negativity in life, it's well worth it.  |
Date: 7/14/2004 3:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 25183
For the child with Down-Syndrome, I guess it would depend on the severity of their retardation. Would her or she KNOW that their is a difference. I don't think I would do it for my own benifit of having a "normal" looking child, but if the child wanted to have it done, I would. I guess it's the same for the other two as well. There are things that I would have corrected such as a cleft palate or cleft lip when the child was still and infant. My daughter has a cosmetic birth defect called Pectus Excavatum and it is totally cosmetic, but I will have it corrected. The surgeon won't do it until she's 8 yrs. old.  |
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Date: 7/14/2004 3:52:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Midnightly...you're right, it depends on the severity of the issue. I mean, if it was "all in their head" so to speak and they were the only one noticing it...I wouldn't give them the surgery. |
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Date: 7/14/2004 3:54:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Doodlebug...good point. I agree that the down-syndrome issue is controversial because in one aspect it could be the parent's discomfort with their child's looks that is the issue. If the parents are doing it solely for their comfort-level than it's wrong. It's wrong to put a child under the knife if they don't want it or don't even know or care that they are different. Thanks for commenting. |
Date: 7/14/2004 4:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
I would not do the second one. Kids are cruel these days and if my kid had big ears, I'd tell him/her that they are like that because God wantsthem to be and that they are special ears. No kid should have to deal with that.  |
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Date: 7/14/2004 4:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
I dont know about down symdrom. Cause most often they are at high risks for a lot of things. My cuzin had a down baby and hes still as adorable as any other baby. He was a very high risk through preg and still is for a lot of things. So I dont think that I'd have the surgery done. No matter if my baby is a down baby or not, I will still love him/her with all my heart. |
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Date: 7/14/2004 4:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
Now for the glasses, Id have the surgery done. Cause thats not only for the childs well beign as a lil one but also for his/her eye sight. *huggs* Good post :-) |
Date: 7/14/2004 4:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
I have to agree with Base..If they ASK for it I would try to get it for them..As for the child with downs syndrome..I dont think I would..The child would have to understand what was being done, and WANT to have the surgery done.  |
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Date: 7/14/2004 4:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
has a down baby, not had...typos! |
Date: 7/14/2004 4:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
I think it's a different issue when it's a child that has down-syndrome and when it's just someone that has low self-esteem. I know how damaging a childhood can be, and I would support my child 100% with whatever decision they'd make.  |
Date: 7/14/2004 4:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 62740
1. Yes
2.Yes
3.Yes
*MK*  |
Date: 7/14/2004 5:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 45630
2 and 3 I agree with. I don't agree with number one and this is why, I have met alot of people who have downs syndrome (notice I don't say suffer from because they aren't suffering). These people have more guts and dtermination than anyone I know and I feel that then resorting to plastic surgery to look "normal" would be detrimental to their way of life. They should be allowed to live like their is nothing wrong with them.  |
Date: 7/14/2004 5:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 29928
DS kids are the most special lil people there are..I probably wudn't with them..cause they are perfect just the way they are. As for the others, absolutely. A child's self-esteem is so important and if the surgery would help with that..then no doubt! Good post! Hugs,  |
Date: 7/14/2004 5:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 50434
If a child has a cosmetic issues that is really affecting their life as far as people go with teasing and stuff then yes I would allow it. As far as people who suffer from down-syndrome it would depend if they felt they needed it.I agree with "You Choose" If the parents are doing it solely for their comfort-level than it's wrong. It's wrong to put a child under the knife if they don't want it or don't even know or care that they are different.  |
Date: 7/14/2004 6:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 50678
I don't know, it depends on how old the kid is. If they are under 10 I feel they are to young for plastic surgery but if they are older then 10 years old then I feel it is a great idea.  |
Date: 7/14/2004 7:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 60426
If the surgery would benefit them and raise their self-esteem I would consider it. I couldn't say just yes or no because it depends on the situation.  |
Date: 7/15/2004 1:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 51070
It depends on the situation, I guess...  |
Date: 7/15/2004 6:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 62675
For that stuff no. For major life changing deformities definatly. Maybe the ears thing if they were older. And they won't do lazer surgery until you are over 21 I think cause your eyes still change until that point. If my child was seriously disfigured I would do it even if I couldn't afford it! -Sunni  |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
GotBubbles...thanks for sharing your opinions and you make some good points. :O) |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:08:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
LadyLuck...true, I do feel the same in the downs-syndrome case since that child may not actually know they're "different" and therefore may not be bothered by it. I guess it depends on the severity of their condition and capacity to understand the procedures involved. Thanks for commenting. |
Date: 7/16/2004 6:10:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Bethann...I do believe you would support your child. I feel the same, so long as I knew they understood the complexities and possible consequences. Thanks for your thoughts.  |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:11:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
MK...short and sweet but to the point! Thanks for answering. :O) |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:13:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Kurt...excellent point. I brought this scenario into the equation because I saw a documentary where the parents had surgery on their child with downs. I'm a bit torn on this one too, I guess it's like I said before it depends on their level of understanding and their desire for this. I wonder if that child in the documentary even understood why he was having surgery, they never covered that. |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:14:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
PammieRose....thanks for stoppin' in. I think most people feel that same as you and I know I totally agree that people with downs are beautiful people. |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:20:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Bright(author 50434) sorry I can't see the remainder of your tag...my dumb browser! Thanks for your comment and I'd hope most parents would be considerate about what their child truly wants before their desires. Unfortunately, the case I saw seemed to be more about the parents...it was sad. Thanks for your perspective. |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:21:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Spirits...yes prior to ten years does seem very young. I know I would consider it before 10 years if it was something that truly bothered my child and they were being harassed. Thanks for stoppin' in! |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:22:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
CreepyFreak...yep, once again...it does. Thanks for commeting. |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:22:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Diobolic...exactly, it really does depend on the individual situation and severity of the deformity or lack there of. |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Sunni, you do raise a good point about the laser surgery...I believe you do have to be 21. Maybe if they just needed surgery on their eyes in general though, for let's say a lazy eye. Then would you consider it? I know I would. Thanks for raising that point and replying. |
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Date: 7/16/2004 6:25:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
I'm going to revise the post since the last one doesn't apply for children. |
Date: 7/20/2005 10:18:00 AM
From Authorid: 16376
I have always believed in being happy with yourself the way you are, but if it can save them a lot of emotional pain, I would get it for them.  |
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Date: 7/25/2005 10:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34487
Yes, very true. |
