Date: 7/10/2004 8:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
personally I think sooner, but that's just me  |
Date: 7/10/2004 8:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 11341
13 is not too soon.  |
Date: 7/10/2004 8:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 36537
when they get their period  |
Date: 7/10/2004 8:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 24319
Wouldn't you like to know, Eddo...  |
Date: 7/10/2004 8:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 61013
I think 13 cause that's bout the teenage time  <hugs> Love, Keri  |
Date: 7/10/2004 8:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 62599
ASAP  |
Date: 7/10/2004 8:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 61966
I think it's important for young people to learn about sex..13 isn't too young. I think around 12 would be a good age so they can understand it. I think it's great that you talked to your cousin about it! It's better that she no now instead of later.  |
Date: 7/10/2004 8:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 54968
I think 13 is the right age.  |
Date: 7/10/2004 8:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 53157
i dont think 13 is to soon i think they should be told around 11...i remember i knew by the time i was 13 because i had an older cousin who told me about it..and i also like that i have her to talk about that because i dont like talkin to my parents about it that much.  |
Date: 7/10/2004 9:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 56840
SOONER!! Girls can get their periods ealier than that age. I would say kids should start to learn about that stuff around age eleven. Though half of the anatomy stuff I learned before then because I read the encyclopedia for fun when I was 10. :P  |
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Date: 7/10/2004 9:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 56840
sorry, that should be earlier* |
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Date: 7/10/2004 9:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 56840
Personally, I'd love to be told all about the period and sex stuff before I'd even started my period, because then not only am I prepared for my period, but I know what it means and the resposibility that comes with it.. Yes, there is responsibility that comes with it. |
Date: 7/10/2004 9:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
I was told in 5th grade :-) It sucked but I had to go through with it LOL I think sooner is better  |
Date: 7/10/2004 9:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 60992
lmao.. I learned in g.k at school. 2 hours of the sex talk..geez.. So tired of it. I've had the sex talk for 8 years for 2 years each time. They dun just talk about periods and sutf they talk about all the boy parts and the sex organs and all of that and the girls sex organs and all of that and what happens when one get's happy so to speak! And what happens when u do what = babies and all of that.. I'm an expert as far I am concerned. They also talked about how you clean urself and abotu sweat.. I was an expert by g.4.
*canuck Hugs*
-des  |
Date: 7/10/2004 10:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 24003
Depends on their maturity.  |
Date: 7/10/2004 10:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 19460
I have an older, much wilder, sister, so it seems I was born knowing about the birds and bees J/K I overheard stuff going on with my sister and my cousin and just decided that I would behave until i was ready for sex. I intend on talking to my daughter before she starts her period. I think 11 or 12 is a good age...shoot she is 5 and these days... well maybe we should talk now LOL I am so scared to do the talk...my son is 11 and I test him from time to time. I played dumb and asked him how the world our cat had kittens. He said "From her stomach, Mom!" I said I know that, but how did the babies get IN there? He said "I dont know but I bet it was gross." So far so good LOL Whew!  |
Date: 7/10/2004 10:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
I think as soon as they start asking questions that sound alarm bells in our heads is the time!!!I'll never forget when my grandie asked me what a condomn was, and she was only 9yrs old, some girls at school in a grade lower than hers which meant they would have been about 8yrs old were discussing it, well! I felt cornered, and before I could answer her, she yelled.."The Simpsons are on" and ran out of the room!! whewwwwww!!! she never mentioned it again for a couple of years and was I relieved, she is now turning 12yrs on Tuesday and we both talk quite openly about such things, and have very sensible conversations about whatever she wants to know....hugs  |
Date: 7/10/2004 11:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
When my mom finally gave me "the talk" her head would probably spin on off if she had knew how much I already knew and come to think of it I think I was 13 and had some life experiences already. Everything is so fast paced now. I think at 10 there should be a cartoon version told and then at 12 the afterschool special with pregnant consequences and broken hearts version. I sound old and crabby now, but after hearing things about bracelets and such.....kids are growing up TOO fast these days  |
Date: 7/11/2004 12:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
ok if she trusts you she would ask you about it is one thing. I am 16 and have noticved that in teenage magazines they now have more issues in them about sex all stuff. if she reads them then she probbly if more aware. and they now talk more openly about it at schools. if you 2 are that close then it is safe to tell her if you think it is time.  |
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Date: 7/11/2004 12:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
sorry about my reply I sou8nded to blunt I was trying to say she trusts you by the sounds of it she is probbly going to ask you pretty soon anyway. and she has been educated already anyway. because people are more open about it now anyway. |
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Date: 7/11/2004 12:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 24319
Thanks for the replies. After we had the conversation I was kicking myself because I didn't know if I should have said something. But, I think if we didn't talk and something horrible happened to her, I would be kicking myself even harder for not saying anything. |
Date: 7/11/2004 1:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 53961
I think it was about 11 when I got a video from the library and my daughter and I watched it together and then discussed it. I didn't enroll her in the class at school because I felt it was my place, as her parent to teach her what she needed to know. Many don't teach abstinence and I think that is so wrong.  |
Date: 7/11/2004 1:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 28190
I was told when I started my monthly cycle at age 10. My mother sat down with me and explained it, because quite frankly when it happened, I was in school and was scared to death that I was dying. lol.. I, personally, handled it well and from that I waited until I was ready. I think as soon or maybe before a girl's monthly starts, they should know what is going on, why its going on, and the responsibilities that come with it. It could even deter some from making an uninformed decision that results in pregnancy at an early age. I think you did the right thing, and probably have helped her more than you know. *huge hugs*  |
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Date: 7/11/2004 2:01:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 24319
When I was in 6th grade we watched the "period" video. That summer I started getting my monthly friend. I was SOOO mad. I still get mad when I think about it. I remember calling my mom in and said "Don't tell dad", she goes back to her bedroom and my dad says "What happened?" and I hear her say, "Oh, Carrie got her period." Thanks for nothing mom. |
Date: 7/11/2004 3:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 58308
Alicia and I had "the talk" the day she got her "woman thing" (age 11) as I have a cousin that got pregnant at the age of 12.  |
Date: 7/11/2004 6:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
at 13 i knew it all already......  |
Date: 7/11/2004 6:29:00 AM
From Authorid: 42792
I agree with Adrienne. It depends on maturity but from what you have said about her; the conversation was overdue. You did the right thing, it seems.  |
Date: 7/11/2004 7:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 53900
Heck no 13 is not to young. I have been talking to my kids wince they were old enough to talk about the facts of life. Just a little here and a little there. I dont think you should have "the talk" all at once. To much information for a young child to retain. Even at 12 or 13 it is to much. My kids know that I feel waiting is the answer(well not my 6 year old) but if the time came where they felt they were ready they can also come to me with that information. Of course my kids wont be dating until they are 16. Now my six year old has been talked to about where babies come from and that sort of thing and why males and females have different parts but that is about it. I also think it depends on teh child. You have to sorta gauge each child and see what they are able to understand and talk to them in a way that isnt embarrassing for them. Not to scientific and not to babyish I guess. And allow them the chance to ask lots of questions. But at 13 they are getting at that age where they will be noticing people maybe even trying the going out thing and are ging to be feeling lots of things and if they are they may be very confused if they have never had anyone talk to them about what they are feeling and how to handle those feelings  |
Date: 7/11/2004 7:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 15394
my rule of thumb has always been... old enough to ask, old enough to know the facts... age appropriate of course as my kids asked when they were very very young... so the answers have to fit their mentality... and I don't think that one "Talk" is enough... it should be an on going dialogue imho  |
Date: 7/11/2004 8:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 15228
13 is way to late! You should begin when children are young enough to understand. Of course you gear it to their age, but when you begin early, you can work your way up to the big stuff and both feel comfortable. In your cousins case, I think now would be a really good time to have an honest talk, find out what she knows and answer any questions she may have.  |
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Date: 7/11/2004 8:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 15228
By the way, it really does pay to be open and honest..my 14 year old asked me what an aphrodisiac is yesterday (she heard it on a cooking show of all places)..she asks me stuff like that all the time and it makes me feel good that she comes to me and not her friends. |
Date: 7/11/2004 9:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 62753
depends on the kiddo - but definately by the time a girl gets her monthly flow, and perhaps boys should learn around the time girls do - since it will explain why woman are soooo grumpy! Lizard-1  |
Date: 7/11/2004 9:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
i think 13 they should already know.. like you said your sister? was 13 and got pregnant... she should have known earlier... they should learn the basics of sex very young.. then slowly introduce more and more as they get older  |
Date: 7/11/2004 10:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 62682
I think 10 years old or Earlier even!! You can not talk to your kids about sex too soon! The earlier you start talking with them about sex more open they will be with you on it the older they get I think! I think there is no age to to early.
~~~Humming Bird  |
Date: 7/11/2004 12:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 6860
I think kids should know even before they're teenagers. I started asking questions when I was about 9, but that was just because I curious. But kids are starting to experiment and be sexual at a young age, so its very important that these issues are discussed as soon as possible. I wouldn't wait until it just "comes up" because by then, she will have heard things from her friends or whatnot. Definitly start now.  |
Date: 7/12/2004 7:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
13 is a good age. i know 14 year olds with babies.  |
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Date: 7/12/2004 1:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 59531
I know i never had "the talk" but as far back as i can remember i knew about sex and all that. i must have picked things up at school and i suppose it helped that my two older sisters got pregnant too early. you did the right thing, 13 is definately not too young. -meltedspoon- |
Date: 7/12/2004 2:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
I have always been open and honest with my children, they see so much stuff on tv and in school that waiting until they are in their teens is just not possible. I know its odd but since my son was 9 he has known "wrap your love in a glove" my daughter knows it as well, they know all about AIDS, HIV and STDs. Before my daughter got her period she knew about it and what it was all about(so did my son) they are totally comfortable asking me anything and I wouldn't have it any other way. (they are 13 and 14 now)  |
Date: 7/13/2004 10:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 62704
13 is definately not too young to learn about sex. I have seen girls as young as 12 years old who have been pregnant. It's shocking to see a little girl that young having a baby. These children need to know about sex to possibly prevent them from making the mistakes they make. I don't know how soon is too soon for these kids to know about sex now in days. ~Chely~  |
