Date: 7/10/2004 5:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 42519
its a scarey situation that your mom should have gotten out of years ago, and not put you and your brother through this. its good she is going to do something about it, and this guy deserves to be in jail. It sucks, i know, but its what needs to be done, because if it doesn't it will just escalate to something more serious. it needs to be done now or yesterday. sorry to say, but being in this situation is a whole lot scarier than it is if he is behind bars. Love ya tonz  |
Date: 7/10/2004 5:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 62338
Being in jail is better than being dead,either your mother or your dad.I don't know if i would wait till he hits her again.I think if I was in her place i would pack up things and leave now.Better than being hurt or dead...  |
Date: 7/10/2004 5:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 61013
that is so scary hun  I hope you're ok <hugs> love, Keri  |
Date: 7/10/2004 5:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 24003
Oh sweetie. I dont know what to say. Im so sorry you are going through this. You guys will be fine and much better of without him there.  |
Date: 7/10/2004 5:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 55251
Yikes that is scary! Why would your mother wait intill he does it again? She should do it now! Because the next time it happens it could turn out really bad, and since he knows she will call the police, he might get even more volient with her  You should make the choice now, or who knows you may not have another time because it could be to late..Good Luck,  |
Date: 7/10/2004 5:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
This IS A Very Good thing Sweetheart....I KNOW You are scared right now Sweetheart...But Listen, Please...this is the BEST Thing Your Mama could have done...to STOP The Abuse now!!! Before anything else Happens..Your Dad will NOT Be ALLOWED To Come Around You, Your Mama and Your Brother....He WILL be Ordered by the Court to STAY AWAY From Your Mother, You , Your Brother....Please Be STRONG AND Be SUPPORTIVE...To Your Mama....This was a BIG Step For her Sweetheart, She Does not need to take him back under any Circumstances...and No do not get in any vehicle with your dad....he needs to get help...and I hope he does...but You and Your Family Cannot trust him...tell Your Mam to stick with her Decision...Please let us know How All of You Are...Tell Your Mama to get an Emergency Protective Order IMMEDIATELY!!!!! A RESTRAINING ORDER...If they are Available in Your Area...and A WARRANT For him Threatening to Harm all of You....You and Your Family are in my Prayers, Baby and If You need to talk I am here as well as every one here At USM....God Bless You and Your Family Sweetheart...T/C  |
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Date: 7/10/2004 5:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
Are You Your Mama and Brother there at the house?? Your Dads is incarcerated..in jail now right??? If he is not......Honey you, your mama and brother please leave the house any way you can...If your Dad is still there in the house with all of you....and your mama told him, that she would call the police...he will feel out of control of the situation...do you feel unsafe????PLEASE Leave the house |
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Date: 7/10/2004 5:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
are you there??? |
Date: 7/10/2004 5:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 49101
First things first, you need one of these >>> (((((HUGS))))) You should be proud of your Mom. It takes a tough one to finally break the vicious circle. And I am sure she needs a really big hug too. You are a brave young lady, and you have every right to be scared. But if your Mom is willing to stand up to him now, she will no doubt do everything in her power to take of you and your brother. You hang in there. Pray a lot. Or talk to your higher power. I have faith in you, and I will keep your family on my prayers and meditations. If you need to talk, just PM me. (((((HUGS)))) again. Love, MissC.  |
Date: 7/10/2004 6:02:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 60089
thank you everyone..my mom and my brother is at my hosue and my dad isn't in jail yet. when he hits my mom one more time then my mom's going to call the police. Until then, my mom will not do ANYTHING..  |
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Date: 7/10/2004 6:04:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 60089
are not is** |
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Date: 7/10/2004 6:05:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 60089
what I don't get is why she waited this long and she should have just called the police when my dad was trying to choke her.. I OFFERED to call the police for her in the past.. |
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Date: 7/10/2004 6:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
I WOULD Call the Police anyway,, but that is Your decision...I hope your mama stays with her decision and No I would have NEVER waited thiLong the first time, would be all it would take for me, sweetheart.....then I would take a Louisville Slugger and Practice My Swing!!!!! |
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Date: 7/10/2004 6:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 49101
I'm with KYBluebird. Next time, if she doesn't call them, do it yourself! Just be careful ok? |
Date: 7/10/2004 6:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 50678
Sounds like it is a demestic violence. That is what happened to my parents, after my father got out of jail, he was only in a day or so. Well I couldn't see him for months and my parents got a divorce!! I divorce can be a great thing, it is hard on kids, I know but in the end your parents can and will be happier. At first I hated the fact that my parents got a divorce but now I'm so happy they did. If you ever want to talk just let me know, I know what you are going through!!  |
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Date: 7/10/2004 6:56:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 60089
thanks everyone..check your msgs |
Date: 7/10/2004 11:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
Id tell it like it is...and if he does get out early ur mom can have a restraining order aginst him and the kids. He cant come near u guys, unless he wants to go back to prison. I'd get a cell too, if u dont have one already. Something just in case. A cell saved my oldest brother from hurting my dad with a knife. He swung at my hand when I went to grab the fone, so I used my cell and ran to the back room with my dogs n lil bro n called the cops.I did this 3 times...very useful. Stay away from him if he comes around. Scream if u have to...anything to get attention. Stay safe too sweetie *huggs*>>  |
Date: 7/10/2004 11:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 62779
it sucks that there has to BE a next time... I won't go into that, your scared enough as it is.... Remember that the higher power is looking out for you (whoever that may be for you) Even if your father goes to jail (where he belongs) Your mom and you and your siblings will be okay. in fact you'll be better than okay because you won't have to live in the fear anymore.. as for him getting out of jail eventually, talk to your mom and suggest taking classes for self-defense? That way.... if he does come after you by some chance, then you can call the cops and defend yourself while they try and get to you... I'm sorry that you and your family is going through such a hard time... your in my thoughts, hun. *BIG HUGS* ~Angel Wolfe~  |
Date: 7/11/2004 5:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 3835
sometimes, it is better not to ask if you can call the police, just do it.. just do it... you have that right at any age... so just do it.  |
Date: 7/11/2004 7:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 16671
Coming out of a abusive situation myself, I'll tell you why your mom has did nothing, because of love and because she thought he would change. It takes alot of abuse to finally cross over that thin line of love and hate and your mom is getting closer. I just pray that she gets him out of her and your life before he DOES kill someone. When you see anything go on, YOU call 911. I know I"m glad my kids did. Dont worry if dad is out of your life, mom will figure out how to take care of you.  |
Date: 7/11/2004 8:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 15394
what a tough spot to be in I'm so sorry for you... like others said, if you feel that mom is in danger, or you are in danger or other family members, make the call yourself. Safety first!!! Its a rotten spot to put a child in for sure, but you are very mature sounding and know right from wrong... another thing, although you worry about mom caring for you without his help, you all may find that life is a bit easier without the threat and fear of violence... might be a lot better than you or she is thinking... best wishes to you in a very tough spot...  |
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Date: 7/11/2004 10:31:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 60089
thanks sarah, angel wolfe, firstborn, jungabel. check your msgs |
Date: 7/13/2004 11:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 62704
Oh angelflowers, that is so sad that you have to go through all of this. It's a good thing your mom has been able to stand up and try to put an end to it by telling him she's gonna call the cops. If he does end up going to jail for hitting your mom don't worry. I know it's going to hurt you but at least you, your mom and your brother will be safe and you won't have to go through that again. I hope everything turns out well. If you ever need anyone to talk to you can message me. ~Chely~  |
