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Date: 6/13/2004 5:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
Perhaps some external influence is coercing him to not be with you? Chruchy types tend to try to please their parents/elders....just a thought, from my own experience...  |
Date: 6/13/2004 5:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 29262
Tell him everything you just wrote in this post. I don't understand why he would break up with you... He seems like a pretty cool person other than giving you twisted messages. You should tell him about it and how you are thinking about all this. I hope everything goes okay.   |
Date: 6/13/2004 5:39:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36538
I've told him practically everything in this post. Still hasn't changed a thing. The only thing I guess I've yet to tell him is that I love him. Just won't go that far. I'm afraid that'll push him away that much more.  |
Date: 6/13/2004 7:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 62588
He either cares about you and is too afraid to admit it or is stringing you along out of fear of being alone. If he is scared to admit that he cares about you, you need to decide how long you will give him to make up his mind. If he is stringing you along, he will never admit it, and once again, you need to figure out how long you are willing to wait for him to make a decision. Life's too short to wait for other people. If you don't make some tough decisions fast, you may be waiting for the rest of your life for him to get comfortable. Remember, in life we always want what we can't have. As long as you are willing to make him the center of your world, you aren't giving him any incentive to declare his real feelings  |
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Date: 6/13/2004 11:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 62383
maybe he hasnt had a lot of relationships and he has fear of committing, or that it will make him seem one step closer to grown up? Who knows. A commited relationship is hard for me, not because of like cheating or anything, I dont even think that way... but it kinda changes who you are. It was hard for me cause I wasnt use to it. Maybe that could be it. Its a big change, but you get use to it... I love it now Got Mike? Got Mike?  |
Date: 6/13/2004 11:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
Melissa gave really good advice. Maybe if you back away from him just a little, even though it will be hard to do. When he calls, try not to talk too long on some days. Just get a steady distance from him, and if he is truly pushing you away because he cares, this will make him realize just how much he needs you in his life. He will start pursuing you again, if thats the case. And if its not, as much as it will hurt, you will know that he was stringing you along. Either way you come out knowing the truth about how he feels, and I wish you good luck. *huge hugs*  |
Date: 6/14/2004 8:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Three possibilities occur to me: 1) His parents told him something about you that they didn't like (and didn't tell you), and he's trying to follow their advice and break up with you--but he can't do it, yet. Or, 2) He feels nervous about committing to you--loss of freedom, being tied down, etc. The usual guy stuff. Or, 3) his last relationship has left him emotionally scarred, and he may not be able to commit long term anymore--at least not without therapy. The last one sounds serious, I know, but there are some people like that.  |
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Date: 6/16/2004 10:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 62766
Look i know from experience with guys sometimes they can be afraid of commitment But the bottom line is he can not play with you at the same time. even though he is still showing that he cares, Its not fair to you and you need to tell him that... Now this is what I would do : but this is me... I would seriously tell him "look if we cant be together then we can be huggin and kissin on each other" I would do this because to me its should be fair he may like the kisses and not the commitment But you on the other hand like both im quessing hehe and its just not fair you cant be with someone in a relationship then break up and exspect things to be the same-- only difference being is you cant call each other boyfriend and girlfriend and you never know it just might hurt real bad if he hooks up with someone else and says " well it was okay because we werent going out" If a relationship is what you want you need to tell him that. Sit down and really talk to him Maybe he is upset with himself Maybe he feels that you may not like him enough and he must to the breaking up first there are so many REASONs But ONLY ONE solution Be honest with him and most of all YOURSELF. and have good communication with him tell him what you tell the mirrow WORD FOR WORD and i would tell him that " YOU will never know if a relationship is going to work if you are afraid Forever "  |
Date: 6/16/2004 5:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
Don't let him string you along like this. It's torture for you. Tell him honestly that you really care about him, and that you two are either just friends or boyfriend and girlfriend. He can't have the best of both worlds, and you shouldn't let him either  |
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