Date: 6/3/2004 10:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 10754
There is no understanding to be found. The construct of human perception will accept what facts that perpetuate it, and ignore or discard others that contradict or challenge it, regardless of the notions of logic or common sense.  |
Date: 6/3/2004 10:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 9509
I have no clue on this one. But if someone tried to do that to me I wouldn't want them anywhere around me.  |
Date: 6/3/2004 10:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 4144
there is no explaining that one. i have seen friends and family go through the same thing and some get out and some don't. i used to let it bother me and in the past few years i have quit worrying about it. i know, that sounds cold and heartless but it's like this.....they call you at all hours beaten and bruised. you drop everything and go to them. you take them somewhere safe, give them money, food, clothes, whatever they need........and in some cases less than a week goes by and they are right back. and one of the worse things about it is they are smart women. they didn't just crawl out of the woods or from in under a rock. you wouldn't believe how smart a couple of my friends are and you would die if i told you what kind of jobs they have! but most likely, they (one for sure) will end up in a grave just because they won't leave and stay gone. i don't get it either.  |
Date: 6/3/2004 10:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 53052
the only thing i can think of is having the stability of someone else there instead of depending on yourself  |
Date: 6/3/2004 10:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 53558
We women are funny old creatures were love is concerned.  |
Date: 6/3/2004 11:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 24924
IF she is saying she feels secure; that is not really reality, but what she WANTS it to be. I've been there myself, so much, in the PAST. I was delusional, shakey, and insecure, even though on the outside, I presented this confident , seemingly secure FRONT. I saw only what "I" WANTED to see in the guy, and refused to accept what he REALLY was; refused to pay any mind to the abusive parts, but only the good parts. And, yes, many of us THOUGHT it was "love", when in reality (looking back) it was not. A lot of the time, it becomes a pattern, and if one does not get out of that cycle or pattern, they'll always be taken advantage of and or abused and used. Intelligence without common sense means nothing. I've known some really very intelligent people who had little or no common sense. I've also known some people that weren't all that bright, but they did possess a lot of common sense. Hope this helps a little bit.  |
Date: 6/3/2004 12:13:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 14909
Mamabug I hope death isn't the answer here. I hope she wakes up soon to see him for what he is.
Thanks  |
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Date: 6/3/2004 12:15:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 14909
Midnighty, we have offered her stability and security but we live 60 miles way and he only 15 miles away. She won't move because of her kids. |
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Date: 6/3/2004 12:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 14909
Thinker how did you wake up, how long did it take. Thank God you did. I hope she does. |
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Date: 6/3/2004 12:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 14909
The good thing is, is that she don't love him she is just seeing him if you know what I mean. |
Date: 6/3/2004 12:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 8817
us girls are weird when it comes to issues on love. I have been in your friends situation and honestly I don't know the answer.  |
Date: 6/3/2004 3:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 48809
I could never love anyone enough to allow them to beat me half to death and kick me around and then go back to them so they could do it all over again ... noway! I hope that the women you spoke of won't do it anymore either. How could any woman think a coward like that who beats up on them think that they are loved?  |
