Date: 6/1/2004 8:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
Let's see...that's when my younger sister was getting married (we have the same biological mother just different fathers) and my sisters future inlaws asked my biological mother if there were any brothers or sisters she wanted in the photo and my biological mother replied NO..which left me out of all the wedding pics  |
Date: 6/1/2004 8:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 3688
nothing i could repeat here...  |
Date: 6/1/2004 8:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 11341
Worst thing is not G rated :/  |
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Date: 6/1/2004 8:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
and a few other things that my biological mom said to me..but i can't say here...it isn't very nice...she has done a lot to me....some things I don't think I'll ever forgive her for...and if she died tomorrow.....I wouldn't miss her. I know that's harsh...but she has done some things..that she will just never be able to make better |
Date: 6/1/2004 8:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 52337
When my friend Kellen told me I must not like this one guy because he's not in shape. Which made me mad because that wasn't the reason and why would he think that? He should respect me more than that.. I would tell him that he's the one who's always dated the beautiful girls..  |
Date: 6/1/2004 8:42:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
The worst thing my stepmother ever said to me was when she told me I looked like I was dying of AIDS. I have always been thin, and self conscious about it. She hit me where it hurt-- I was a teenager at the time, and that really KILLED my self esteem. I have always been able to blow off any comments people might make about my intelligence...etc, and I have been lucky not to have to endure some of the heartache that many people have-- so while this one thing may seem minor and silly to some of you, this was one of those things that I will never forget and that will always be in the back of my mind.  |
Date: 6/1/2004 8:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 28193
I can't say either..it's not G-rated. Yes, it stuck in my mind, and I wouldn't say anything to them, because I don't talk to them anymore. It opened my eyes, as to what kind of a person they were.  |
Date: 6/1/2004 8:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 3648
Well I'm not sure what I would say really....since the person is related to me....They have in fact said a few things to me in my life that hurt my feelings.....but I guess I've grew a thick skin over the years and let go it....cause honestly I don't think it's worth mentioning it to her now....  |
Date: 6/1/2004 8:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
One night I went into his room crying and told him I was sexually abused as a child. He told me to stop crying and to get over it. He told me I was too sensitive and that it shouldn't even be bothering me. I was 15 at the time and had held that in since it started to happen, which had been since I was around 5 years old. That's just one of the things I've been told. There are many others that is worse but it hurts too much to think about. You learn from your experiences and your mistakes, and from then on... I've learned to keep many things to myself.  |
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Date: 6/1/2004 8:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
Whoops. I was talking about my dad ^^^ |
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Date: 6/1/2004 8:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
I can't believe he just told you to "get over it" Bethann. Wow. |
Date: 6/1/2004 9:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 15675
Well its hard to pick but one that comes to mind is one I can only remember after reading it in my diary. When I lived with my mom one of her lovely quotes during a fight with me was she 'wished I would commit suicide.' That diary also refrences an incident where one of my best 'friends' told me no one would ever love me 'because I'm fat and ugly' and I remembered it after reading it and she had said it totally random and in a calm manner, no fight or anything. Theres a lot others from my school days that I know happend but honestly there hard to remember! I've blocked em out and thats probably for the better...the few I can remember arent g rated. Ya know what one of the biggest insults ever was? BOTH my parents SEVERAL times in different seperate occasions have called me the umm curse word for a female dog...yeah real mature! Oh one final recent one comes to mind too; I was at home and on the phone with my sisters friend and she had to be home by a certain time and I was sayin okay but if its only gonna be like an hour (from the current time tell when she had to leave) we might as well forget it. Anyways dad interjected with 'well I can see why you have no friends...' I mean come on! Okay I'm better Im goin to bed...night  |
Date: 6/1/2004 9:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
I was really good friends with these 2 girls for 3 years and we done EVERYTHING together, I mean every waking breathing moment one of them was always around me or all 3 of us together. We were like sisters and we were always saying that and every summer we would just freak out because we all lived so far from each other (we met at college) Well when they didn't want to be my friend anymore it all came out all of this terrible stuff that's the stuff you have to rub your eyes in disbelief for because you just can't believe it, these girls that I shared my hopes and dreams and most importantly TIME with were saying everything under the sun about me. Like the others here most of the things were not G rated and I think it hurt so bad because they were my best friends and at the time I had nobody to share my feelings with because they were the ones that I would share such things with. It still hurts even to this day and I think that time will pay them back.  |
Date: 6/1/2004 9:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
a few years ago i made the mistake of getting involved with a male friend .... it was nothing too serious we just kissed a few times but i always told him that i wasnt sure if it was the right thing to do but he always pushed it and said that i had to learn to let go someday. Anyway i ended up finishing our 'thing' and he got extreamely mad and told me that i was stupid and thought i was too good for everyone (he had seen me turn down a number of guys before cause i didnt want a relationship) and that i would die a lonely old woman all by myself and i would only have myself to blam. This crushed me and scared the crap out of me because that was one of my biggest fears ~ of ending up alone. Anyway, now i've been with my current bf for 18 months and we are looking at houses so there ....... i am not ending up old and lonely! i think i just hurt his pride and he knew what my weakness was. i believe i just hadnt found the right guy. and i was right cause now i have  |
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Date: 6/1/2004 9:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
oh yeah this is stupid but I wanted to add it in, I have Multiple Sclerosis and one of them had spread around that it was initially a STD and then she had told everyone that I had Muscular Dystrophy (sp?). I saw her at Wal-Mart and I said you have done a lot of crappy (I didn't say crappy....) things to me, but is one of the biggies, do you even care that I'm sick are you that much of a snot (I didn't say snot...) that you have to go and spread things about me? I said I may be sick but I hope that I'll never be as ugly as you, put on as much makeup as you like and you make sure to put on the most expensive clothes too and your thongs (they made fun of my underwear choice, thongs just aren't me) and you make sure you put them on real nice because you will always be the most ugliest piece of crap I have ever seen may you rot in (well you know) That is the last thing I have ever said to her. |
Date: 6/1/2004 9:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 6867
Worst thing...I was told to have an abortion by the father of my child. He said if I went ahead with the pregnancy he never, ever wanted to see me or that child in his life. Then proceeded to say he would rather die than dirty up his family w/a child that was mine.(he is white, I am black/mexican)That one has stuck w/me til this day, and it still very much hurts. What would I say now? I have no clue...Maybe I would have reacted in a different way...I sure would not have let him see me cry...that is for darn sure. I am still horrified when I think of that whole situation. HUG-A-NURSE,  |
Date: 6/1/2004 9:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
I worked with a woman who everyday commented how thin I was, it got to the point that I cried everyday and dreaded going to work, and I might add, that I was 26yrs old...so one day after her insulting remarks I dug up the courage to comment about her acne scarred face (and I hated doing it also) she told me that I could go forth and multiply (putting it mildly)but she left me alone after that...I often think of that person and how she affected my self esteem, it took years to build it up again......good post  |
Date: 6/1/2004 10:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 53427
The worst thing I can think of was said by my husband. We were having an argument and he made the comment that if it weren't for the kids, he would have left me years ago. That really hurt. He apologized later and said he never meant it and only said it because he was angry. But its hard to take something back after its said.  |
Date: 6/1/2004 10:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 4995
Wow...I kinda liked this question..in my case there were SEVERAL over a LIFETIME..*laughing*..the first bad one is when my boyfriend at the time told me that being 107 pounds meant I ONLY had ten more to lose..*got rid of him* and the second is when my next ex boyfriend called me stupid "as a box of rocks" I had just gotten back from my kickboxing class and well..needless to say..knocked him off his feet with a swift suckerpunch and two weeks later LEFT. I have learned through the years words are only that WORDS...you make your own reality here and now..by choosing to accept them or dismiss them every man and woman is beautiful smart and unique in their own way. When you still brood over things said to you from time and years before..you give these losers control over you. I chose long ago NO ONE would have that right. This was a great post and made me think. Thanks.  |
Date: 6/1/2004 10:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 36901
An ex-boyfriend of mine told me I was getting fat. That was right about the time I started gaining weight. He started monitoring everything I ate and drank. It set something off in me that led to years of eating disorders and low self-esteem. If that was said to me now, I would just tell him that if he doesn't like it, he can leave. I still can't believe I let anyone influence me like that.  |
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Date: 6/1/2004 10:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 4995
*TO EVERYONE THAT POSTED HERE* I read a lot of these and ashamed mine seemed so trivial. Its sad that some people build themselves up by tearing others down by what they say. May peace love and light find you all who post these memories and know you are ALL so special no matter what people have said in the past that hurt you. Blessed Be. |
Date: 6/1/2004 10:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 52155
wow @ the replies this has gotten here...  |
Date: 6/1/2004 10:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 12216
my best guy friend told his friends that i was jealous that his new girlfriend wasn't me. Of course his friend told me and i was really hurt that he could do that but we talked it out and he apologzied and we're all gravy now.  |
Date: 6/1/2004 10:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
Worst thing that was ever told to me was when I was 13, my biological father said That I would never measure up to his standards because I wasnt born a male. That's something a parent should never tell to their child/ren. That will stay with me for a long time, still kinda hurts today, but I have dealt with it since. I did have my chance last year to tell him how I felt. It was a week or two after my wedding, and I havent spoken to him since. Not a real big deal there though cause he has never really been in my life consistantly anyways. There are other things that right now I cant recall, probably due to this horrible sinus infection I have. If I do think of anymore I will post. great post Dizzy.  |
Date: 6/1/2004 10:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 20750
When I was 10 my sister told me I was adopted! All of my family had dark hair & dark eyes! I was blonde & blue eyed! I always felt mom favored her! So I totaly belived her! For years I felt alone. I had no real family. One day me & my mom got into a fight & I said you hate me cuz I was adopted! She told me I wasn't & it took a couple of years & proof that I hadn't been adopted! Still hurts! Now & then.  |
Date: 6/1/2004 11:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
To be honest, I'm not really sure of the worst thing I've ever been told - but something rather recent ranks up there......being told by someone who I loved and always held their belief in me, that I'd lost it - that one's pretty high up there.  |
Date: 6/2/2004 1:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 21867
...yeah...know how that feels Jay. One of the worst things someone ever said to me was "You know, I think I now curse the day I ever fell in love with you". That kinda sucked.  |
Date: 6/2/2004 3:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 44321
"I should have put you up for adoption" was about 18 years old for this gem) and "You are the reason your father left,he wanted a boy" was about 10 years old for this other gem) there are plenty more but these 2 stand out the most. What I would tell my mother now for the first comment would be this : Actually you should have then I would not have had to live with you or know you and be the parent after Gram and Pop died. And to the second comment..Actually my father leaving us and not coming back after I was born ,was not due to me being a girl ,mom it was all YOU, don't blame it on me,trust that little tidbit. I have just last year started communicating with my mother after many years of me just not being bothered with her,it was healthier that way for me. It is awful how someone you expect to love you hurts you the most in your life by hurtful things that fly out of their mouths.  |
Date: 6/2/2004 5:20:00 AM
From Authorid: 18527
When someone was yelling at me and told me "You never loved your father" and otherwise implied I was a horrible daughter...  |
Date: 6/2/2004 6:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 1432
Something my mother in law said that I wish not to say here.. and if I ever saw her face to face again and say what is on my mind I cant say here its not very g-rated..  |
Date: 6/2/2004 6:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
Oh I got an answer to this one. It was my ex husband. He left me for another women about 15 years ago. We tried to keep it a civil seperation and remain friends. During one conversation we had in which I was trying desperately to understand why and how he could walk out on a seemingly happy 13 year relationship with absolutely no apparant warning, he made the following comments in all sincerity, not trying to hurt my feelings but rather being honest..."she is everything you're not" "I wish I had met her first" and my favorite "Don't think I'm with her because she can have children and you can't". We had lost 5 babies due to early birth and I was told I probably wouldn't have children. You can imagine his surprice when 2 years later I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy (not his of course). If he said these things out of anger, I could have excepted it. But he was being honest for the first time in his pathetic life and that really hurt. If I could reply to all that now I would say to him...As a husband you really sucked. As a "friend" you were even worse. Footnote: He and Ms perfect didn't last. I haven't heard from him in 7 years. I suspect he finally came to terms with his true sexuality and is probably shacked up with some biker dude named Bubba by now. (not that there's anything wrong with that)  |
Date: 6/2/2004 7:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 24856
When I was a young girl of about twenty-something, my dear, younger sister came to me to say she was going to have a baby and did not want to marry the father. Our family always had round-table discussions when family issues would occur. One day my sisters and our Dad sat down with Mom to break the news of my sister's dilemma. When my sister announced she was going to have a baby, you could hear a pin drop.....and then....my Mom turned to me and said "I always thought it would be you." I have never....ever forgotten those words and how much they hurt me. You see, my sister that had a baby was a honor student and the model child, so my Mom was disappointed it happened to her. I sometimes wonder if Mom even remembers saying those words, but I will never forget them or how painful they were to me.  |
Date: 6/2/2004 8:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 62624
WOW!! Some of these are absolutely heartbreaking!!! I can remember being 10 years old...I'm 30 now and I had gotten in trouble for my report card. After a severe beating, my mom told me that she hated me. I've gotten over the beatings I use to get, but what she said scarred my soul. No matter how angry you get, watch what you say to people. One word can change a person's life forever.  |
Date: 6/2/2004 10:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 19092
A "Twit", that really hurt....  |
Date: 6/2/2004 11:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 27705
hmm many of things ive been told numerous times to burn in hell...called nasty names i cant post here...just things liek that hurt..peace and love regina  |
Date: 6/2/2004 11:17:00 AM
From Authorid: 47218
gee, I don't know...there's been so many. But the first two that spring to mind: I was nine years old and this yuppy couple was walking past me when the woman turned to her boyfriend/husband/whatever and said "that's an ugly kid!" Or, there was the time when I was 11 years old and was having a fight with next-door-neighbor/friend about my appearance, and when I protested that I wasn't funny-looking, she proceeded to point out all the things that were wrong with my face.  |
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Date: 6/2/2004 11:39:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 9130
Some of these comments bring tears to my eyes. |
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Date: 6/2/2004 12:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 47218
hey Dizzy, just thought I'd add that I've seen your pics and you're far from looking like a waif-- you're a babe! The same goes for Punkstar and Kaja. It always amazes me that pretty women can get cut down on their appearance so easily. It gives me chills to see willing women have their face and bodies cut up, plastic stuck into their chests, and fake hair tweaked out of their head so they can be paraded on national TV liked prized barbie dolls because they think it makes them better people. |
Date: 6/2/2004 12:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 10245
There's a couple. While watching a made for TV movie about prostitutes, with my parents, when I was about 15, my father turned to me and said "I hope you don't ever do that." It hurt to think he even thought it was a possibility and I told him so. He didn't get it. Many other hurtful things ended up being said by both of us that night. It was like we tried to out-hurt each other.... which was common in our relationship. Another thing that has stayed with me was the night my brother screamed at me, "You don't love Dad and you never have!" It was just around the time that my Dad was getting really (physically) sick from his alcoholism. I'd like to think that I proved otherwise to him those last few years... the years that I was there helping to care for Dad while he was out getting drunk or high or whatever it was that he did to keep himself busy and invisible to Mom and I.  |
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Date: 6/2/2004 1:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 10245
oh... and an entire conversation (which can't be repeated here) with my sister-in-law that happened while I was attempting to invite her to my daughter's first birthday party. She called me everything she could think of (and some things I think she made up on the spot!) Needless to say... she didn't have any cake with us. |
Date: 6/2/2004 5:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 62367
The most devastating and sheer aggravating comments I experienced came from a man who was my boss at the time. I was working very hard, getting to work at 7am and staying until 9 and 10pm to do my job and work on my graduate degree. The graduate program, offered free through the government agency I worked for a very demanding program. Just being accepted into the program was a great honor. I was working full time and went to school full time. My classes were held in the building where I worked and I had to do most of my school work at there because most of the courses were classified. A year and a half into the program, my boss pulled me out. He took me into a nearby conference room and accused me of putting more effort into my classroom work than into my job. He then said he did not see why I even bothered; it wouldn’t help me in my current position. I said that I did not want to stay in that job forever, I wanted to be an analyst eventually but the training would help in anything I did, including my current job. He exploded. He said that he would personally see that I would remain there until he retired if not forever. He said that the course was not necessary and someone else should fill the position in the graduate program. I needed to spend all my efforts on my current job and not on school work. I should say, I never did any school work during work hours and he never accused me of that. Most of my classmates were allowed to do their school work on the job or going to school was all they had to do, they were on leave from their jobs, so to speak. I was devastated and so angry I couldn’t even speak. This came out of a man that did not have a college degree. This happened nearly 10 years ago and I still remember the incident with a great deal of anger. That was actually one of the reason's I left government.  |
Date: 6/2/2004 9:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
Too many nasty comments...I generally try to forget about them. Can't pick just one and generally don't want to think about it to be honest with you. As far as replying to other's nasty comments...I usually do now but often didn't when I was younger.  |
Date: 4/8/2006 12:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 39370
Too many things to list here, but the most hurtful were harsh words from a person a child should never have to hear such negativity from. And as for what I'd say to him today, nothing. My silence towards that person does me more justice than words ever could.  |
