Date: 5/14/2004 9:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
sorry to hear about your mom and your brother, I hope things get better for you  |
Date: 5/14/2004 9:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
*Shrugs* I haven't noticed much change!....well wishes to you and your family.  |
Date: 5/14/2004 9:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 3688
We all lash out when we're hurting and scared, both of which would be very valid feelings in your circumstances. I'm sure you will be forgiven for any comments you make that are a bit off.  |
Date: 5/14/2004 9:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 31255
I am sorry to hear your going through so much Brenda. I think USM is pretty understanding especially when a person is going through a difficult time.. I will keep you in my thoughts though.  |
Date: 5/14/2004 9:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time with your brother and your mother.  I hope that thinks turn out better.  |
Date: 5/14/2004 9:52:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 12341
Thanks Base, I'm not sure how I'm going to handle all this. I've seen death so many times, but losing my Mom is becoming more of a reality every day. She isn't getting better. She has pulmonary fibrosis, and she just can't get enough oxygen in her lungs anymore. She's back in the hospital again, in and out for the last six weeks. She just can't last much longer like this. And she has never smoked. It makes me crazy.  |
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Date: 5/14/2004 9:56:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 12341
All of you, Thank you for being here! Becky, Toodles, Dreamer, Punk Star Chik, Base. Thank you all, for just caring. I'm a nurse, and I'm not coping very well. I watched my first husband die, so I know what's coming. Lately, I live in dread. |
Date: 5/14/2004 9:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 49910
Brenda, you haven't offended me.. but I really don't know you all that well. I hope you start to feeling better. But it's hard to lose family members...the pain is always there...surrounding all the memories. God knows what has to be done. **HUGS**-ERHIT  |
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Date: 5/14/2004 10:05:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 12341
Erhit, the hardest thing is they look for medical advice, and I don't want to give it, I hate my sisters asking, I hate knowing. I hate feeling the lumps all over my brothers throat and reading his reports and JUST knowing. He is so trusting. He carries his Bible everywhere. I just cry thinking about it. I'm older than him and I keep thinking, why not me? And my mother, I know many folks here have lost their Mothers, but the seeing her get weaker every day and knowing how hard it is for her to keep living is very hard. I know she wants to but the body is wearing out and the effort is harder every day. |
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Date: 5/14/2004 10:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
it would be hard for anyone to go through just one of these things with a family member, to go through both at the same time would be hard on anyone, I'm so sorry |
Date: 5/14/2004 10:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 62367
I am so sorry that you have two loved ones so ill. You know as well I do a time comes when all you can do is accept what is happening. Its the hardest thing in this life to accept that a loved one is dying. I'll pray for you and your family.  |
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Date: 5/14/2004 10:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 12341
Thank you Peridot Cat. My mother is just not getting better and neither is my brother. I appreciate your thoughts and prayers. |
Date: 5/14/2004 11:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 21435
It's OK, Brenda. Hard things to go through, indeed. Your family is in my prayers. Stay strong, my friend....  |
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Date: 5/15/2004 12:52:00 AM ( Admin )
I lost my mother and brother to cancer and my sister has it now too. The only thing that brings some comfort is knowing I will be with them soon. In the blink of an eye we will be together. We all die, of that you can be sure, some earlier than others. Love who you have left and open your heart to all the love you can put in there. Nothing will stop the pain of loosing someone, only over time can you start to have longer periods of where it doesn't hurt so much. Remember you have others to live for and they need your love more than ever. Don't let part of your self die, live for them by being happy, that's what they would want for you. |
Date: 5/15/2004 12:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 57232
:0) hope things get better soon  |
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Date: 5/15/2004 12:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 57232
Oh no, you are one of those humans aren't you |
Date: 5/15/2004 1:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 62649
I'm sorry to hear that Brenda. We all have them days where we don't act like ourselves, even I have been having them lately, but I don't think that I can compare to your pain. I'll pray that God will bless you and your family. I think I'm going to post a prayer for you. I'm sorry if I acted the same towards you. None tooken Brenda. We still love you. ~Aradia~  |
Date: 5/15/2004 1:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 52489
I don't think we've ever met, Brenda, so I've not been touched by any acid. I know what it's like to lose a family member, though. Go slow, give yourself time. Remember you've got friends, so lean on them if you have to. That's what they're there for! A good book to read is, "When Bad Things Happen to Good People", by Harold Kushner. It helped me!  |
Date: 5/15/2004 4:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 62570
*Hugs* I hope your Brother and Mom get a big miracle and I hope they get better. I haven't heard you offending anyone. *hugs* *Alexa~Angel*  |
Date: 5/15/2004 4:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 22992
Sorry to hear that, i truly hope that everything works out for you   |
Date: 5/15/2004 5:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 17417
Dearest Sis,I'm soooooo sorry for your hurt ...I will keep your Mom and Brother in my Thoughts and Prayers ...Brenda just remember All those who know you, Know your Heart  ...We are All here for you ...Much,Much Love In Spirit,Sis  |
Date: 5/15/2004 5:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 58334
You haven't offended me hun *hugs* But it's perfectly understandable if you are acting different.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 5:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
It's every excuse to be a little short tempered. I am sure that everyone here will understand and love you no less. My sympathies are with you in this difficult time, hugggsss  |
Date: 5/15/2004 6:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 11341
Brenda Im sorry you are going thru this, I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.  |
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Date: 5/15/2004 6:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 22992
Aww admin what you said made me sad, yet it filled me with hope at the same time.. |
Date: 5/15/2004 6:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 48809
Brenda, I am sorry to hear about what is happening in your family. It is such a terribly painful thing when this happens to us. Some of us have been where you are now and so we know the pain you are in. I will send a prayer out for you and your loved ones , and I am sure others will do the same. Please invite your angels in to help you get through this sad time and they will come, but they must be unvited hon.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 7:41:00 AM
From Authorid: 62503
i think everyone can surely understand. My 21 yearold brother also has lung cancer. Well its spread but thats part of where it is. So i know what you are going through and its tough but You just have to keep your head up and support your mom and your brother as best you can while still keeping yourself sane  |
Date: 5/15/2004 7:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 53558
Brenda Dear, you have not offended me in anyway. You must be dreadfully worried. I will keep you, your mother and your broth in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you all …Hugs…
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Date: 5/15/2004 7:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 62633
This is very sad, but I think it is great that you have shown your strength and let it be known openley whats hurting you inside, (sometimes that can help in itself) I hope for you the best...~Your Huckleberry~  |
Date: 5/15/2004 8:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 18527
Awww Bren I know how losing a parent feels... ((HUGS)) I'm here for you!  |
Date: 5/15/2004 8:11:00 AM
From Authorid: 61013
I am so sorry Brenda  |
Date: 5/15/2004 8:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 58078
You need to worry about yourself. When someone has so much going on in their life thats very upsetting and stressful like what you have happening, it tends to take a toll on you. No need to apologize to anyone. Just take care of yourself and your family. I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time right now. *HUGS*  |
Date: 5/15/2004 9:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 29928
Brenda, I am sure none of us would handle all you're going through very well at all. It's always important to be yourself and we all need help at some point in life. My prayers are with you and your family. Tight hugs,  |
Date: 5/15/2004 9:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 14780
My thoughts and prayers go out to you...((hugzzz))  |
Date: 5/15/2004 9:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
Sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 10:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 32133
sorry to hear
that  |
Date: 5/15/2004 10:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 11240
Well, here's some good news for you, Brenda: You're forgiven. God Bless.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 12:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 16442
Brenda, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine the thought of not having my mom with me. As for you not being yourself, well, you are fully entitled to that I would say. And just for the resord, I havent noticed you being short with anyone.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 12:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
I'm very sorry you are going through so much>>>this is a very difficult time for you and I'm sure others are understanding of this>>>I will keep You, Your Mother and Brother in my thoughts and prayers..Take/Care...  |
Date: 5/15/2004 1:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 56489
Aww, Brenda I'm sure noone will hold it against you, I'm sure each and everyone of our hearts go out to you though your worst times. (hugs)  |
Date: 5/15/2004 1:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 62632
I'm really sorry. You and your family are in my prayers. I know how it is to just not be yourself--although my situation isn't anything like yours, I have the same feeling as if I'm just...not me. Best of luck to you. -CW-  |
Date: 5/15/2004 4:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 28193
I'm sorry to hear all of this. You've never offended me. Like B.Monkey13 said, you're only human, and you've got a lot on your mind. Thoughts and prayer go out to you.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 4:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 3648
My prayers are with you and your family members!  |
Date: 5/15/2004 5:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 50499
I'm sorry, dear. My thoughts for you and your family.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 5:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
Very understandable, Brenda. I feel guilty for not being around here as much lately to check up on how things have been going for you and your family. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to lose two loved ones around the same time. Stay strong Brenda, and know I'm thinking of you.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 5:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 7341
Hey...everyone goes through rough times...I'm sure that people will understand if you haven't been yourself. My thoughts are with you and your family....  |
Date: 5/15/2004 6:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
All is understood, Brenda. <3  |
Date: 5/15/2004 7:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 61977
So sorry that you are going through some rough times. I have not noticed that you have not been yourself. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. HUGS, (Mother Love) NOT>>>>  |
Date: 5/15/2004 8:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 12581
Hey hon, no fretting We've all been there & I truly understand how lifes burdens can somtimes make us act differently than we usually do. I have found myself in a rough patch as well & I know I've been more neurotic than usual  & a little less patient with folks. I have felt like a dark cloud, all negative & bummerish & I have hoped that I haven't been to bothersome to people. But in a very real sense, USM is my family & we can both hope that everyone here loves us enough to understand that in life's roller coaster, you aren't always having a good time & we sometimes need the support of all our friends & loved ones here on USM. Thanks so much for sharing, you are very loved here never forget that, I am very truly sorry about your brother & your mom, it is heart wrenching to lose a loved one, I've lost my Grand'mama who was pretty much my mom, plus my great grandma (who was more like just my grandma)a year later, my Great Aunt a few months following that as well as my uncle, & last monday, I found out my other grandma passed away on mothers day, that my cousin was killed a few months ago, & that my aunt has cancer, all this, plus cutting ties to destructive members of my family, like my biological mother, one of my aunts, my sister, All this has transpried in a mere five years, is it a wonder that I'm not a lunatic, yeah me thinks LOL So, I have TOTALLY been there as well & if you ever need someone to talk to or to cry n rant too, I'm here for ya. I will keep you n your family in my thoughts & prayers, *HUGS* Take Care Sweetie!  |
Date: 5/15/2004 9:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
Sweetie, I've never heard that from you about being "acid" and even if you were, what you are going through at present is something that I fully understand about...hang in there hun...you are never far from my thoughts and best wishes...hugs for Bill and Mother....and here's some for you ((((((((((((((hugzzzzzzzzz)))))))))  |
Date: 5/15/2004 9:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 6867
oh man....I am so sorry to hear this. I'm sure anyone who may have been offended will certainly understand after reading this. I won't sit here and tell you I know how it feels, but my heart is heavy for you. My thoughts are with you and your family. Sending positive vibes in your direction. Keep your head up.  |
Date: 5/15/2004 9:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 44960
*Hugs* Brenda, I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I am here for you if you need someone to lean on. Much love to you my dear friend, Donna (((Huggzz)))  |
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Date: 5/15/2004 9:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 12341
Each and everyone of you, thank you simply for the thoughts and kind words. The last few weeks have not been good. Every time Mom goes in the hospital, and it seems like she only makes it a few days, I fear that this is IT. She is very weak and I just keep hoping she can hang on and live awhile longer. I appreciate each word more than anyone can know. I don't feel so alone. Everytime my mother goes back in the hospital, I become almost resigned. This has been going on for weeks, she just isn't getting better. I want to spend as much time as I can with her and it seems like I'm stretched to thin, between my job, and taking care of the little ones and visiting Mom as much as possible. Thanks to each of you, everyone of you, for your good words. And Zema, Bill is not doing well either, he has opted for treatment, no more surgery. I wish I could change his mind, but he doesn't want to go through anymore. He relies on God and his faith, and I support him with that as much as possible. That brings even more inner struggles, but he and Mom are what matter most to me, and I want them to have faith, feel strong in that, and I will do everything I can to support that. Their comfort and well being is most important to me. Thanks again. Mom's oxygen level was at 65% when she went in this time, I can't imagine how she survived this last episode. |
Date: 5/15/2004 10:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 20750
Huggs from my soul!  |
Date: 5/15/2004 10:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 3835
Everyone here has said it in a very true, and positive way. Bless them all, as I too, agree with the many things written here. It is completely understandable, and please accept my wishes for some kind of comfort and peace to ease the stress you must be constantly under. Please know that as many read this, will be, by spiritual intuition and personal subconscious effort, sending their best for the best to come. Bless your strength, may it continue to hold you as you walk through these hurdles beside your loved ones.  |
Date: 5/16/2004 4:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
Sorry to hear this. don't beat yourself up about this alot of people would be not feeling themselves after going throught this. I wish my words could take away your probblems but since they can't you have a freinds right here. send me a MSG if u ever need 2 talk I will not turn u down I swear.  |
Date: 5/16/2004 10:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 62445
No one is perfect ,and we are not in your shoes so you're forgiven . I'm sure no one is harping on anything that you might have said after your post. All you can do is leave this sitaution in Jesus Hands.You're in my prayers.."The Lord will perfect that wich concerneth me".Psalms 138 ~Charmlit |
Date: 5/17/2004 6:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 47242
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and take time for yourself. (((HUGS))) Trauma Momma  |
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Date: 5/27/2004 2:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 47242
Just wondering how you and your family are doing? I think of you everyday. Trauma Momma |
Date: 8/5/2004 9:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 16671
Sorry I missed this post, I was banned at the time. Your a pilar of strength even with all this going around you, one day your will break and crumble into little pieces and it will do you good to do that and then you will pull those pieces together even tighter and stronger than before, and you will go on and life will continue and you will only be stronger because of it. Love you girl.
deb  |
