Date: 5/1/2004 1:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 51952
that's exactly right, those people probably are really insecure, and have controlling parents or what not, They put others down and laugh because it makes them feel better about themselves, higher than someone else. or they aren't in control of their life because of their parents to they feel the need to control someone else to fill that space. i deal with this alot at school and i council people on it. I'm the type of person who dwells on things and feel the need for 'revenge' and to put the rperson who hurt me in their place but i rarely do, i bottle it up then it all comes out somtimes and that's messy. sometimes it's good to walk away but the thing is, is that if people do that to one person they do it to everyone, it's rarely a specific attack on a specific person, it's a general personality defect, basically a superiority disorder. and if they are doing it to alot of people who are hurting and want to speak up but are to afraid. the best thing is is to stand up to the person respectfully, or tell an adult (if it's a kid) and figure it out. because really the bully NEEDS to have it brought to their attention that they can't do that. and once one person stands up others iwll and when the bullie sees this they will usually fight a littl and do some rather low things but they'll be broken. They need help. I could go on and on about the phsycology of this but it would take forever and no one would want to read it so i'll stop here lol
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Date: 5/1/2004 1:03:00 AM
From Authorid: 51952
INFERIORITY COMPLEX! that's the word i was looing for not superiority defect sorry lol |
Date: 5/1/2004 1:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 11348
I agree with you. I think when people have low self esteem, they strive to bring others down with them. Like you said, I think it makes them feel powerful, like maybe if they make fun of other people's flaws it will lessen their own. And to be honest, I haven't had to deal with that too much. Everyone has always been nice to me I guess because I'm such a nice person myself. On the rare occasions I have come in contact with people like that, I usually ignored it until it got out of hand... sometimes I can get a temper though.  |
Date: 5/1/2004 1:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 62649
You are right on that, they do say that because they don't have any respect for themselves. They don't like theirself, so they pick on people in order to make themself feel better about theirself. I use to get picked on when I was younger too. It was so bad, that I would go hide in the bathroom stalls and cry. Now everyone that use to pick on me, now wants to be my friend or date me. Its crazy, they are just immature. It use to make me hate myself. But when I look in the mirror, I think I am beautiful inside and out. Tell your daughter, what I said about bullies. I think everyone will get picked on in their lifetime. Tell her that when she gets older, she'll see that everyword that a bully has said was a waste of breath. They will start begging at her feet.  On the ground, where they belong. Much love, ~Aradia~  |
Date: 5/1/2004 1:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 54174
Yep I agree with everyone. I truely believe over half the time it means the person is jealous of who they are making fun of, or they just feel so insecure and bad themselves, making fun of people make them feel better. I HATE people that do this, and if anyone ever does it to me they're getting popped in the face. LOL.  |
Date: 5/1/2004 4:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 52746
I think it has to do with them having a low self-esteem and lacking confidence in themselves. They admire the qualities in certain people but are uncertain of how to achieve those qualities themselves, so they diss the other people in order to make them feel bad about themselves thereby raising their own egos.
It's the wrong way to do it, because it doesn't solve how they feel about themselves. It's like a temporary buzz. Meanwhile, they could very well shatter someone else's self-confidence which is diaboloical.
Yes, it may seem wise to simply ignore this person but I wonder if we'd be better off suggesting to them tht instead of dissing other people, they need to take a long, hard look at themselves in a mirror and put right what they feel is wrong about themselves. Just really, something to make them think inwardly rather than dissing everyone else.  |
Date: 5/1/2004 5:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 10798
Some people do these things to make themselves feel powerful, or to look "cool." But, it's cruel and causes irreparable damage to the person who is being picked on. People used to say, and still do in some areas that "it's just kids' stuff; they'll get over it", but this is not true. Being the target of harassment and bulling damages the victim for life. I'm glad that today society is taking a closer look at the bullying problem and moving in the direction of stopping it.  |
Date: 5/1/2004 5:27:00 AM
From Authorid: 54968
They have no self esteem and the only way that they feel better is to put others down.  |
Date: 5/1/2004 5:55:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
Bullies are all insucure I knew a girl once she was being a pain in the but so i called her something when she called me somthing not good (what she said starts with a B and what I called her has the enishells D S) anyway she turned the whole class aginst me and for lots and lots of tearms she keept reminding me of what she said and made a big deal out of it and everytime I would talk about a cute boy or somthing she would call me a........not so nice word that starts with S (same thing I called her) now ok the thing i did not get about this is she goes on about how she is better but ok if she really belives that she would not have gotten so insucucre about some thing she dose to people all the time. she has low self esteam this girl thats why she got so upset over somthing like this. a bit of advice don't lose your temper at these people i lost my temper at this girl and it was exactly what she wanted it gave her conferdence and made me look like the fool so she could really gang people up on me more so. I ave had many things liek this happen the ones that get all insucure when you do less than what they do to other have low self esteam. i have low self esteam aswell and I stil;l ahve no idea how it makes them fell good i always feel bad after I abuse someone I makes me feel even worse unleas the person did stuff to me to acctaully deserve it. some people are just hard to figure out.  |
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Date: 5/1/2004 6:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
One thing I have noticed about bullies is they say nasty stuff about you that they are themselves. I am like thinking to myself "don't compare me with you that dose hurt acctaully" LOL I lsoe my temper and hold grudges is the reason bullies love me. |
Date: 5/1/2004 6:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 3835
Lots of great answers here, and I agree with pretty much all of them (-:  |
Date: 5/1/2004 7:12:00 AM
From Authorid: 27558
I've been down this road, some people are just full of themselves, thinking they are better then the world. these kind of people have no respect for others, and they make the best out of it by putting other people down. it usually has nothing to do with feeling opposite or badly about themselves some cases thats true but unfortunetly some people are just ignorant.  |
Date: 5/1/2004 9:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 62503
im not exactly sure why people are like this. It makes me extremely upset because i take time to get to know people. I love how caring some people truely are, theres more to people than how they look, and often times the people that society rules as the most beautiful are the most unattractive to me. i hold personality as something very valuable. you can instantly become the most attractive and special person by your personality. The people who are harsh just need to open their eyes to just how much it hurts. but unforunately most never do, they feel like they are getting somewhere by being rude. I just feel its my job to make people feel as loved and special as i possibly can.  |
Date: 5/1/2004 1:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 42259
I don't know why some people are like that! They seem to thrive on making other people feel bad.I have a hard time saying mean things to people that really deserve it, or who were mean to me.I don't like to hurt anyone.  |
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