Date: 4/26/2004 3:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 46530
"I Just Feel Taken For Granted". You said it yourself, and a lot of people in families or any kind of long term relationship begin to take it for granted that people will be there for them when they need them, but don't often think that the kindness shown may need to be reciprocated. People are complicated animals and don't always think about what their actions will do to other people around them, I know I've been guilty of this myself in the past and may well be again in the future. I would hope that this family member was only being thoughtless as to your concerns and that they weren't being outright malicious. I hope you get it sorted soon  |
Date: 4/26/2004 3:19:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
Thank You Ad>>>I Appreciate that>>>lol...no, They Actually Threatened me too>>>lol....Bodily Harm...in a physical sense...not shoot me....At least I hope Not !...but the words Cut deep>>>I hope it can be sorted out too....if not I am afraid I will have to sever ties...and the bonds of family I thought were unbreakable....but apparently I am the Only one who thinks so in this case...Thank you for You Advice>>>>Take care>>God Bless....T/C...  |
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Date: 4/26/2004 3:25:00 AM
From Authorid: 46530
Well I can tell you now that the ties of family are NOT unbreakable at all, and can be severely tested, but this may be nothing that YOU have personally done, or even done recently. If it comes to it then severing ties can be for the best |
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Date: 4/26/2004 3:31:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
But Why....Why would this family member treat me like this...maybe I could understand if I had done something...but I haven't done nothing to them...the other family member I feel just uses me...but this one...I don't know what it is I did to make them resent me...talk to me the way they do |
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Date: 4/26/2004 3:33:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
It just Breaks my heart Ad...because at one time we were so close |
Date: 4/26/2004 3:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 30229
I had a counsellor tell me once that people treat those they love the most the worst, and it makes sense to me. Not sure why though, guess they think that the ones they love will forgive them where their friends wont?  |
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Date: 4/26/2004 3:40:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
Yes LadyLuck...I've Always heard it said seems we hurt the ones we Love the most...but seems this family member doesn't love me at all |
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Date: 4/26/2004 3:42:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
But it seems Both family members have "Better" things to do then call ocome to visit on occassion...but boy when they Need Help...look who comes running to You know who.. |
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Date: 4/26/2004 3:47:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
And I wanted to add....the family member who "finally" showed up...I live 45 minutes to an hr away from them...and they only stayed about 20 minutes...this one family member had her boyfriend with her...and I don't know they just behaved strange.....I don't understand it at all |
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Date: 4/26/2004 4:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 46530
Maybe something has happened in their lives that has changed their outlook. It could be that this thing is something they would usually discuss with you and because of circumstances beyond their, and your, control they are unable to do so. They may resent this fact, and therefore resent you in some way. As I said before, you cannot always rely on family to be stable, and they shouldn't rely on your presence and comfort to live their lives. |
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Date: 4/26/2004 4:51:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
You are right>>>>maybe something has happened>>>in their personal life>>>>and you are also right that they shouldn't be so dependent on me to the point that they become angry with me that they begin to resent me when I don't have all the answers>>>or always be there for them....I have always felt if you cannot count on your family who can you count on>>>>But It Leaves A Rather Empty feeling Especially when the feelings do not seem to be reciprocated...Thanks Again Ad...Appreciate You! |
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Date: 4/26/2004 5:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 46530
You cannot rely on ANYONE. I know this is a sad thing to say but you can't. Even the most trustworthy and reliable person will let you down at some point in their lives, even if it is in the act of dying and leaving you behind. The only thing you can rely on is that your life will go on. People will come and go, and in the end only you will be there your whole life. As I said, sad, but true |
Date: 4/26/2004 5:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 7952
Because perfect strangers don't know what i'm really like, lol!  |
Date: 4/26/2004 5:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 24924
Blue, even when I just saw the title of this post, but especially after having read it, I know that it could have been written by me. I know exactly where you are coming from. Is taking the time; NO, *making* the time, to say a kind word, give a warm embrace, sit down with, and or hold the hands of a loved one....and or just LISTEN, is that asking too much? Apparently all I, or my mother, gets is excuses. "I'm too busy" seems to be the number one excuse. Why can't they SEE that we aren't blind? We notice that they sure do have all sorts of time for something that THEY want, need, or is of interest to THEM. And, you can't say anything. It only makes it worse. Ah, but you can be rest assured, that one day, when that day comes, the day which we all will face, you can be assured that those people who "don't have time" now, will stand at your graveside, and give you "flowers" then. They'll say such lovely words; and all sorts of sweet statements that begin with: "I wish" . Blue, you are not alone. {{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
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Date: 4/26/2004 5:38:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
LOL Dolphin>>>is that right??? *Wink*...Well Ad I Have lost Loved Ones In My life>>>>The fear Of losing someone else through death...is a very scary thought...but to be afraid to love..even because of a fear of losing again....to me would be sad in itself...in fact tragic...I would rather have loved and lost then to have never loved at all....But opening Up Exposes Certain Vulnerabilities....But None of us are an island unto ourselves...although we might like to think we are at times...I think it is a Basic human need to "Need" And Feel that we can "Depend" Rely" on Someone..Sure it is good, even great to acquire Independence...But even The Greatest Of Independent People Even Loners>>>Desire The Company And The Feeling Of being Appreciated Not Taken For Granted>>.Neither Used, But Needed.....T/C..... |
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Date: 4/26/2004 5:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
Thank You Thinker *Brings Tears To My Eyes*...It hurts so much!...seems when they need something from me...they are there..and I Help them Give them encouragement...would do anything for them...but I am Invisible when I need something ...But you know when I am gone I don';t want them to even bother bring me Roses then...I won't need the "I Wish" "If Onlys" Thank You So Much!! God Bless You...Take/Care |
Date: 4/26/2004 2:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 61920
My family is kinda like that too. I never treat them badly, yet they sometimes bother me and get me hotheaded (especially my brother), because I tell them to stop like a million times, yet they never listen. It's mostly my brother, but I guess it's just how family works. Family is complicated and has it's complications, and sometimes, you might not know how a family member is doing, so he or she might treat you badly. They're just angry, and are taking the miracle of family for granted. I think that might be the problem, because these kinds of things happen to me and everyone else I know. Man, it's so confusing!! Anyway, if you need to talk, Big Sis, I'm right here!  *Hugs & Love*  |
Date: 4/26/2004 3:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Some strangers are willing to be courteous, or give you the benefit of a doubt. Your family has known you for years.  |
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Date: 5/11/2004 2:09:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 48250
Thank You Little Brother Epox, I Appreciate that...Yea Seems Life itself is a mystery sometimes... Thanks Arion For Your Comments...lol seems Strangers Care More For You At Times Though Doesn't It? Maybe It's Just Me, Feeling Taken For Granted...Thank You Everyone For Your Replies, They Are Very Much Appreciated....God Bless...T/C... |
Date: 11/19/2014 9:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 67326
The wisdom and insight came to me that sometimes strangers cross our paths to remind us of the love that still exists in the world. We can't choose our families when we are born, nor can many choose their situation. Think of those who are abused from early childhood, then a wonderful stranger comes along and shows them that their is still compassion, love, and understanding in the world.
The point is that people cross our paths for various reasons, and many people in a wonderful way and others in not such a nice way...but every person who comes into our lives leaves their own special mark. It is what we take from them and those lessons that becomes our own personal wisdom which leads to our overall growth. |
