Date: 3/25/2004 8:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 22188
The best suggestion I can give you would be to do EVERYTHING  Set up jars next to the cash registers in stores for people to donate change, have a bake sale or a car wash...have it announced at local churches and on the radio (most of my local radio stations will do that for free). I'm so sorry about your friend's loss, I know how difficult it must be. But everything will turn out for the best. Love and prayers,  |
Date: 3/25/2004 8:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
call your local TV station and let them know they might put her on as one of thier(grr i forget what they are called oh now i remember) Human interst stories, they are usually sweet or sad stories to tug as peoples hearts what can often help out finacially for the person involved  |
Date: 3/25/2004 8:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 25483
Well, I'd personally try to get ahold of Ginger, they did a thingy for somebody that had a hard time through the USM Fund Donation. I'm sure that everybody around here has a big heart and would love to help you and your friend. I'm not on here very much so my opinion doesn't count as much, but ask some of the admins and get their opinion. Best of luck and prayers to you...Peace  |
Date: 3/25/2004 9:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
sorry to hear about your friend, I don't really know of any ways to raise money  |
Date: 3/25/2004 11:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
Wow, I'm sorry to hear this. You could try messaging Ginger, like what Only Hippy had said. Are you a church member? If you are, maybe someone at church can help you out, they're always good with that. You could try having bake sales, sell stuff that you don't really need or whatever, call the tv or radio station.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 11:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 998
I like the suggestions that came in the comments to this post of yours. Try any and all of those ideas if you can. We do have the USM Fund that is usually set aside to help USM-ers that are having a hard time. I will leave this post near the top for a little while, and if anyone wants to donate to the fund, there is a link to PayPal on the left side of this screen. Or if you would like to send something in via snail mail, then make those checks out to Renasoft, 8554 122nd Ave. N.E. PNB# 28, Kirkland, WA, 98033. Make sure to specify that the funds should go to Charmed Ones Friend.  |
Date: 3/26/2004 4:02:00 AM
From Authorid: 10030
Could you offer your friend a home? Ask her to stay with you a while?  |
Date: 3/26/2004 5:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 49025
I think your friends best bet is get help from the state. There are programs to help young women with children get on their feet. She could find a half-way home type place that is for women and children only while she finds a job, daycare and a home. Support of her friends is what she really needs. Maybe you could help her look in to that stuff.  |
Date: 3/26/2004 6:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 40741
well when my dad died we had a nice memorial just we got him craemated and got together in the pack there was flowers friends and crying but it was nice so if hr grandmother is getting burried why not have a memorial afterwards  |
Date: 3/26/2004 6:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 53961
You can have a memorial with no expense. Call around to find a place that will let you have it in their building/church at no cost. I am sure you can find a speaker and a pianist at no charge. Check with the Salvation Army. Ask that instead of flowers that people donate to a memorial fund to help out the great-grandchildren. Hopefully that way the mother can't get ahold of the money. Good luck and God bless! She is so lucky to have a friend like you!  |
Date: 3/26/2004 7:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Froglady also has an excellent point, but also do what ever you can.  |
Date: 3/26/2004 9:04:00 AM
From Authorid: 40145
why can't she have a job? have state help her with daycare, such like that and her grandmother has been paying her rent.. well maybe she needs to start being responisble.. sorry it might sound harsh,, I have had my son and I have been a single mother for 4 years and I have had jobs to support my kid get some help not depending on other people..  |
Date: 3/26/2004 10:59:00 AM
From Authorid: 13119
If she died without a will then your friend will have to probate the estate because she is entitled to a share. I don't know if its like Canada but we pay into CPP which gives the estate of the dead person up to 2500.00 (depending upon how long they paid into it) this money goes into the assets of the lady and whatever money is spent on a funeral/memorial is claimable from her estate. LOOK INTO IT!!!! It helps a great deal.  |
Date: 3/26/2004 11:02:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62585
Panther lover, she does have a job..but she is also a full time student and gets absolutely no finacial help from her babys father.  |
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Date: 3/26/2004 11:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 40145
well i had no finicail help by my son's father either, well have her get some help from the state , such as food stamps, medcaid, welfare or whatever just to get back on feet, i guess.. |
Date: 3/26/2004 1:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
If she's lucky her grandmother changed her will and left everything to her and not her bitter daughter (courtney's mother). She should wait and see what is going on first before jumping to conclusions that she will be homeless. If you know for a fact that the estate is in courtneys mothers hands then follow the others advice. Maybe you can babysit her child for a while while she gets a little job and will be able to support herself.  |
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Date: 3/26/2004 1:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
Sorry I just read your comment about her already having a job. Does she not have enough to support her and her child? My best friend is a single mother and I know its hard..but it can be done. She does it herself with no help from the state or anything. Her daughter is older now though. She's 8 and in school. |
Date: 3/26/2004 5:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
Doesn't it not feel good to feel so defenseless. I've had this situation sort of happen to not a friend but an acquaintance, she finally found a family member help her out, but it meant having to go somewhere else altogether. I hope that there is a way. Umm have a yard sale w/ proceeds going to, buy Krispy Kreme donuts and sale those, or order some pizzas and some 2 liters of soft drink and set up shop outside a business establishment around lunch time to have a fundraiser for her and lastly I thought of maybe a carwash too.  |
