Date: 3/25/2004 5:33:00 PM
From Authorid: 45630
Maybe it's time for kids to inform their parents so they can better deal with the situation. Remember that nothing kids do today is any different to what we did at your age. Maybe it was done in a different way but we did the same stuff and got into the same trouble.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 5:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 33573
Hmmm, I don't know but it does seem that if parents are real strict when your growing up that the children do stuff earlier than they should and do stuff that they shouldn't. But thats just a few people I know of.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 5:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 37101
I would say that some parents are clueless. Let's face it, the mindset between an 'adult' and a teenager are drastically different. Parents often forget what its like to be a teenager. Although, ultimately, its harder to be an adult, it doesn't seem so when you're a teenager and living it. Parents often forget this difference, this feeling which they once experience and that makes them clueless on a lot of things. The coolest parents, the most understanding parents, are the parents who do not forget what it's like and can really sympathize and feel for their children. -  |
Date: 3/25/2004 5:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 42568
I think it's really hard being a parent and I don't even have any kids yet. My mom wouldn't let me go to any school dances or to the movies. I come from a really strict Christian family, and I know that's why I rebelled a lot. That's pretty hypocritical of the parents though--to tell their kids not to do drugs when they themselves are using them. Really, it just depends on the kid. If a kid wants to hang around the "bad" crowd, that's going to happen. Pushing them not to makes it worse if they already are.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 6:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 62367
Sometimes kids will do drugs inspite of everything their parents do or not do. I grew up in a non-smoking home. I never tried drugs or alcohol. My brother started smoking at 12, drinking at 14 and has tried nearly every drug he could swallow or smoke. He drew the line at injecting drugs, he's deathly afraid of needles. My parents set a good example and were aware of his activities but could not stop it outside our home. My brother kept baggies of marajuana in his bedroom. The police searched our home once. After that, my mother searched my brothers room everyday. If she found something it was flushed down the toilet. My brother would never admit to drug use. He would have smoke coming out of his ears everytime his stash went down the sewer but would never say why he was mad. My brother came near to alcoholism. He stopped using drugs and alcohol in his 30's. Drugs are everywhere. Just because the kids are "good" or its a "good" activity does not mean drugs are not available for those who want them.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 6:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 7849
I live with my grandmother and Ive tried to inform my grandmother of her mistakes and she tells me to move out. She needs to get a life
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Date: 3/25/2004 6:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 61893
Raise them the very best you can, let them explore and be their own person, be there when they need you, always have time to listen, time to talk, time to let them learn and time to let go.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 7:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
What I've learned from these type of parents, when they try to conseal their children, they are more likely to become druggies or alcoholics. Because once they let them out of their bubble, they go wild! I have a friend like this, her mom has consealed her till her sophmore year and now she's on ALL KINDS of drugs, drinks like a FISH, parties all night and day, ditches school, gets arrested. And her parents come to me and ask why she is doing this and all I can say is, you had it coming. They kept her in a bubble for so long, now that shes out, shes a wild child. Literally! Its stupid what some parents do these days.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 8:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 6867
No, parents can only do so much...they cannot follow their children around 24/7. These kids you speak of know right from wrong also, they have free will, i don't think it is fair to put every single thing on parents. i used to think my parents were all screwy, but now that I am a mother, I see that as a parent you do your best to steer your kids in the right direction, you teach them responsibilty, teach them morals...the rest is up to them...in the end, what they do in life and what they become is up to them and no one else Love Yourself,  |
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Date: 3/25/2004 8:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 6867
Another thing I would like to add, if parents do not give their kids a little bit of room to breathe and make mistakes, you are pretty much creating that which you fear the most...a rebellious, wild and unruly teenager who would never consider coming to you when they have an issue in their life. JMO. |
Date: 3/25/2004 11:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 53689
I always laugh when a parent talks about making sure their children hang out with the "good crowd"...9 times out of 10, the "good" kids are the ones doing drugs and drinking. They just don't get caught. I know this because of my friends in high school. My mom wanted me to hang out with certain friends that she thought were good kids..and those were the ones doing all the drugs. But the friends that she didn't like, (for example, my friend Kristina who got pregnant at 16) where often the ones that kept me away from trouble.  |
Date: 3/26/2004 5:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 27046
This is why my parents didn't allow us to spend much time at other people's houses, or just "out" with no specific reason. She preferred that our friends come and hang out at our house instead, that way she still knew what we were doing and she wasn't really holding us back.  |
Date: 3/26/2004 7:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 26733
I think a lot of parents realize what’s going on with their kids they just realize they are going to do what they are going to do no matter what. Then again…some parents do think there kids don’t smoke and drink meanwhile they are party animals at the pastors kids house…. Matt aka  |
Date: 3/26/2004 9:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
But the thing to remember is that there is no absolute rule book that comes with babys on how to be a great parent. So you cant blame them for not being perfect, if they are at least trying to do positive things thats what counts.  |
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