Date: 3/25/2004 1:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 62367
The best thing you can do is be her friend. You have a right to maintain your own friendships. Do not worry about what others may think. I would be very careful about monetary help or inviting her to stay with you, but be there to spend time and listen to her. Maybe you will find out why she has these problems. If she needs professional help, steer her in that direction. No one is beyond help unless they are dead. Do not let your boy friend make this decision for you. You control this part of your life.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 1:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
The people that you surround yourself with can be considered a reflection on you and how you value yourself. I understand your feelings but the reality is she is not a nice person. I don't really see how she can be a positive influence in your life. Your friends should reinforce the good qualities in you and your life.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 1:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 12216
true friends help each other no matter what other people think. your boyfriend needs to take a chill pill. she's important to you. if he can't see that, then he has some acceptence problems. You should go to a doctor's office and see if you can find a rehab group that your friend could go to  that's all I can say. I hope things go better.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 1:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 58611
Sometimes it takes for someone to hit rock bottom before they decide to change for themselves no matter what you do to help. Just be her friend and try to steer her in the right direction. But seriously sweety, dont put your whole heart into this because she will break it into a million peices before she ever tries to help herself. She has to help herself first before anyone can help her, and if she is still partying like that then she obviously does not want to change yet.  |
Date: 3/25/2004 1:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
Kudos to you for wanting to help her when noone else does. Don't let her freeload off of you, but do be there for her. She obviously has alot going on in her head for her to have made those decisions. People shouldn't be worried that she will rub off on you, you seem like you know better  |
Date: 3/25/2004 1:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 55297
Hun- there is always hope, not matter how bleak the situation is, there is always hope. SOmetimes it takes a hard shove in the right direction to show them how to be better. Or a swift kick in the head  I prefer the first one. Give her some tough love, we all need that every now and again!  |
Date: 3/25/2004 2:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 36079
I have the same problem with my husbands best freind. 1 you can't save her she needs to seek help. 2 as long as you don't start acting like her or taking any advice etc your family needs to back off, especially ur bf. This is your freind until you decide otherwise, he can voice his opinion but it needs to end there. Fighting with you over it is a means of control to get u to do what he wants, becouse you think conscously or subconciously if I do what he wants he will back off. You need to let him know where you stand, as long as she is not hurting you or imposing, and she isn't dragging you down then he just has to swallow it.  |
Date: 3/26/2004 8:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 53054
Stay friends with her if you want to...and i think that leaving her son with the grandparents was the best thing, considering her living conditions and lifestyle...Just stay her friend, your boyfriend cant say who you can and cant be friends with! Good luck!  |
Date: 3/26/2004 10:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 25483
Is this the same girl who's having the problems with her grandmother dying?  |
Date: 3/27/2004 1:44:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62585
No this is a different friend than the one with the grandma dying....I would go through all that trouble for this friend. the bad one is Megan. the one with the death in the family is Courtney. I was afraid people might think it was the same person.  |
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Date: 3/27/2004 1:45:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 62585
I meant to say i would NOT go through all the trouble |
