Date: 2/16/2004 9:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 11341
If you sound anything its HONEST. Most people would never be able to admit they feel what you do. I dont have any step kids of my own, but I do have some advice. Do things with her and the baby, not just focusing on the negative. Make her be "part" of your family instead of a problem to your family. I wish you the best. *hugs*  |
Date: 2/16/2004 9:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 15677
Huuny I have 3 step daughters and get along great with two of them. The third is a bit older and drives me crazy. I love her to death but she thinks shes a grown women, bosses the other kids around, takes whatever she wants from the others and steals food all the time. I have tried doing things with just her but its really diffucult shes old enough to realize I am not her mom and will never be so she fights with me. I know its hard but I agree with DMK try doing things with just her Im sure she feels your tension also so it will be hard but try just being a friend to start and Im here to talk if you need.  |
Date: 2/16/2004 10:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 17275
When my step daughter moved in she was 13yrs old and already quite the game player. She loved to play the victim at school, mom's house ect. anyway we were close for a while but, she would always find a way to blow my trust! (stole my car, watch, wedding ring). Now she is 22 and I don't have anything to do with her. It is sad but, true!  |
Date: 2/16/2004 10:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
I dont have any step children, or even any children of my own yet, but when I read your post I felt like letting you know that its ok not to like her, and that you dont have to like everyone or anyone for that matter, you know, some people you meet and you just dont like them right from the start, and thats ok, you dont HAVE to...But do try to make her feel welcome in your home and accept her as part of your family, just give her the same courtesy and love you would for one of your own.  |
Date: 2/16/2004 12:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
Not mean at all, it's because you have a heart that you can feel this way and not tell her to her face...huggggss  |
Date: 2/16/2004 6:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 47930
thank you all for your wonderful advice, i wish i could change the way i feel about her but i cant. and i feel like that also where my house is turned upside down. things are sooooooooo different now, nothing is the same and i feel like a wedge is between me and hubby. we have been through so many hard times and i just keep thinking to myself is this going to be the one thing that will break us. god i hope not, life as i new it is over and i dont think it will ever come back the way i want it, but as for my step daughter i will continue to try for my hubby and hope that things work out for the best. i am the type of person that has to have control of everything in my house especially and now i have NO control cause we have srs and dcca and family press all in our lives telling us what to do and when to do it. so it makes me feel like i am out of control of everything. anywhooo thank you so much to all of you for everything..hugs   |
Date: 3/28/2004 5:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 49311
Thank you for being honest that is what I have need for all of this LOVE YOU  |
