Date: 2/3/2004 8:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 49091
Awwwww Im so sorry hun!! I'll keep your family in my prayers and thoughts!! *huggs*  |
Date: 2/3/2004 8:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 50499
I've been there dear. I lost my mom to breast cancer that had matastisized(sp) last March. All these feeling that you are have are normal. I went through the same rollercoaster. The only advice I can give you is to pray for the strenghth to get through and God willing, your mom will go into remission again. My thoughts and prayers are with you...DragonFlyer
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Date: 2/3/2004 8:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
I'm sorry about the return of the Uterine Cancer I hope that you will be strong for her so that you can conquer this together.  |
Date: 2/3/2004 8:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49101
Thanks everyone. I am sorry to be so crybabyish. I am just so scared. I just got upstairs. I dodn't cry until my bedroom door was closed. And this was the only place I could thin of to find someone to talk to. I am so scared. I am tired and scared, and I think I need to lay down for a little while. I'll be back in a littlw while. I jusy need to lay down and think.  |
Date: 2/3/2004 9:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 53961
I went through the same emotions when my mom was ill with lung cancer. It is normal. The best thing you can do for her is to let her live her life like she wants. She may want different than others do for her self, but you have to let her make the big decisions. Good luck and God bless Sweety. Hugs,  |
Date: 2/3/2004 9:08:00 PM
From Authorid: 10110
Wow, this brings me to tears, I am so sorry...I can only imagine how you feel right now...well you described how did in your post. Just tell your mother how much you love her, and that is the best thing you can do. I hope things go ok...good luck to you and your mom! Best wishes!  |
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Date: 2/3/2004 9:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
You are NOT being crybabyish, if you weren't you'd probably be a robot. |
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Date: 2/3/2004 9:12:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49101
I can't cry in front of my mother. I don't want to scare her. And I don't want her to think I can't ahndle this. I am sitting in my room, holding my breath so I don't make anynoise. And typing is about all I can do. |
Date: 2/3/2004 9:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
I'm sorry. You are not a crybaby. Your Mom is YOUR MOM. Cancer is a huge disease to deal with. My brother went through surgery for lung cancer last summer and I Knew he might not do well, and he hasn't. His latest reports show new cancer cells. I'm with you, it's hard. My family keeps asking me, because I'm a nurse and I hate knowing the stats, I hate it. I've seen too many cancer patients suffer. There is no easy way to deal with it, just be there for her. My brother and I are closer than we have ever been. He has no one but family and I'm THERE, every step of way. Go with her when she needs support, let go of everything YOU believe in and let her beliefs become the the structure of what gives her the most comfort. But be there, hold her hand, and hug her. She needs your support, you have not let her down at all because YOU care. This post is proof.  |
Date: 2/3/2004 9:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 5940
My heart goes out to you and your mom, and hang in there. What you wrote about your mom in this post, goes to prove that you are good daughter and a good person. Because you care.  |
Date: 2/3/2004 9:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 62275
What I have to say might not help much, but please know that I only have your best interest at mind! It really seems that you're trying to get through this the best you can, which is all really anyone can do. All I can think to say is value everyday you have with her. Something everyone should do all along, but we all lack at doing so. You're only human sweety, and you've only done what most everyone else does, which is get caught up in everyday life. Sure sometimes it hurts when you take a step back and see where you stand, but it's at that exact point that you can actually do something about it. Only then will you know exactly what it is you SHOULD do. If you see what I'm gettin at, then you'll know where to go from here. Best of wishes to you hun! God Bless!  |
Date: 2/3/2004 11:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 27403
She does not love you for what you have or have not done; she loves you because you are you, her daughter, her special wonderful child! Just be optimistic and help her keep her faith, courage and hope alive! For that is half the battle! I will pray for her and you both! I am so sorry ! Love and Light  |
Date: 2/4/2004 12:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 11341
Dont think of yourself as a crybaby and dont dwell on things that you might have done wrong, that will eat you up. I did that when my mom was dying. I lost her to cancer 9 years ago. Its hard , I know but dont do that to yourself. I will keep you and your mom in my prayers. *hugs*  |
Date: 2/4/2004 3:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 47242
Be with her every minute you can.Let her now you how much you care.trauma momma  |
Date: 2/4/2004 3:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 1799
aww, i'm really sorry, MissC. I'm praying for the best... and if you need to talk, i'm just a msg away!  |
Date: 2/4/2004 7:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 22852
{{{{{Wrapping Blanket of Warmth and Love around you}}}}} I am sure your mother knows of your love for her and the best thing you can do is be the person you are for YOU, as you being truely happy with yourself would make you mother the happiest.. I am a mother.. I know this. I will keep you in my prayers dear one.  |
Date: 2/4/2004 11:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 42259
I'm so sorry.I lost my grandma a few months ago to cancer and it is the hardest thing in the world to bear.It is scary. But you never know what is going to happen. Our family knows a guy who was in remission when his cancer came back.The doctors said he only had a few months, and he is still living to this day.You just never know.And I think the mind is a powerful thing-if you think you can get better sometimes you can. They say my gran must have lived with it for years.But it was only after she was diagnosed and told there was nothing they could do that she went downhill fast.It was like she just gave up.I have to wonder if she hadn't found out,if she would still be with us today. I'm sorry, I'm going on and on about my grandma, I really just wanted to say I feel for you and not to give up hope.*hugs*  |
Date: 2/4/2004 2:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 62367
Please don't worry about the past at this point. If you think you needed to be a better daughter, now is the time to show it. Be there for your mom. I don't know if you need to hide your tears or your concerns from your mother. She is at least as scared as you are. Perhaps a good talk and cry together would help. I know its hard. I can't think of anything more difficult. I lived with similiar situtation with my father from the time he was diagnosed when I was 5 to the time of his death when I was 21. He was on chemotherapy most of those years for non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Concentrate now on being the daughter you want to be. God bless and be with you.  |
Date: 2/5/2004 3:19:00 AM
From Authorid: 42945
I feel for you sweetie, I know exactly how you must be feeling, we are going through a similar thing with our dear mother and I couldnt begin to think of my life without her, so yes, I know how you feel, just be there for her and tell her you love her and cuddle her every chance you get....hugs  |
