Date: 12/30/2003 12:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 57579
a cheap I mean cheap of the cheap would be at a courthouse it's free!!   |
Date: 12/30/2003 12:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 58334
you're only 15, isn't that a little young?  |
Date: 12/30/2003 12:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
Is it really, Misty Spirit?! That's perfect! Thanks!! And, yes, Nimi, it is young... but... well, its complicated..  |
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Date: 12/30/2003 12:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 58334
but I agree w/ Misty, on the courthouse, but since you are young you'll need parental permission |
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Date: 12/30/2003 12:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
We're going to ask for it as soon as we figure out exactly how it will all work out. That's how our parents are. |
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Date: 12/30/2003 12:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 58334
best of luck to you *hugs* :-) |
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Date: 12/30/2003 12:47:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
Thanks! *hugsss* |
Date: 12/30/2003 12:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
I got married a year ago Nov 8, 2002. But we out did ourselves and had alot of help from my parents. My parents paid for the reception and my husband and I paid for everything else and his parents helped some to. We had everything like top notch, best packages and 260 people were invited. I suggest you dont want to spend alot...keep it small, very small. If I had to do it all over I would elope. My day was absolutely beautiful and I wouldn't change anything about it BUT I dont think I would do it again....lol  |
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Date: 12/30/2003 12:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 58078
Well I wish you all the best of luck in the world and I know you said its complicated..but let me just say that I was 28 when I got married and I've been married a year and it is extremely tough. Enjoy your youth, don't rush to be married..trust me on that. There is no reason at 15 to get married...but its your life. congrats..if you want to talk about anything, I'm here. |
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Date: 12/30/2003 1:00:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
Wow, IP.. Top notch. Something I could only dream of >< Yes, I hope you never have to remarry. I hope no one does.. *hug* Thanks! |
Date: 12/30/2003 2:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 19460
i wanted to get married at a plantation, but since time was running short (we were having family problems) we got married at our church. my dress was used (500 dollars) and my parents and my inlaws shared the cost of nearly everthing but the dress. we had our wedding at 2 so we didnt have to serve food... i know that sounds mean, but it saved us a heap. my aunt did my flowers and his aunt did the cake. i made the decorations and decorated everything myself. mom made the bridesmaids outfits and they guys all rented their own tux's. we went to galveston for our honeymoon, which was like an hour away. so that saved us... we just stayed 3 nights at the days inn lol. you can do a wedding cheap if you do it right.  |
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Date: 12/30/2003 2:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
Awesome, Froggy! I hope your marriage is doing well! Yes, you can do a wedding cheap.. my brother in law and his wife did. They had a tiny ceremony, and his parents had the reception a couple months later (postponed because of family matters) in the backyard. Amen to that! That was the first time I actually got to meet my now-fiance. |
Date: 12/30/2003 3:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 62478
first off congradulations secondly I have not been maried nor have I looked into it much, But my opion on it is a cheap courthouse marrige is what I would go for. I know its not pretty, but the money could be better spent on things that you need to surive on as far as the age goes....a few generations ago you would be looked down on for not being married yet civilation is fluzie enjoy yourself and follow your heart may peace and joy be with you forever .....deathletgo  |
Date: 12/30/2003 5:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i'm in the middle of planning a wedding same with beckydewdrop and punkstarchik has just started... prices of weddings can varry you can do a desitnation wedding(have a wedding and honeymoon in one) you can go to a courthouse pay for the marriage cert and a JP and have a "shotgun wedding" i'd say the first thing you should do is talk to your family, they will probally HELP you foot the bill.... i just checked your bio... did i see it right? your 16??  |
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Date: 12/30/2003 5:37:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
Yes, you guys, I'm 16! Well, 15, but whatever. I was thinking about the court marriage, I really was. And he wouldn't mind it either. Neither one of us wants something big.. and right now, neither family can afford it. I've got enough money for the cert, and.. we just need a parent signature. *sigh* Thanks you guys.. your support is appreciated. And congrats Midnightly and the other two ladies! |
Date: 12/30/2003 5:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
I have no idea...lol I just started planning for our wedding. How long have you been with your man? Like the others said, 15..16...is kinda young and I guess you could do one of those court house things. Congrats!  |
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Date: 12/30/2003 6:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
may i be so bold to ask why do you want to get married at 15-16 years old?? your still a child yourself! |
Date: 12/30/2003 7:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 28190
I spent a little over $1,200 dollars on mine.. Authentic Renaissance Themed Wedding.. But I made ALL the attire, most of the accessories, and got lucky and won the Renaissance Faire for Free to have it in the Faire in a BEAUTIFUL park *hugs*  |
Date: 12/30/2003 11:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
Ummm well....In the process of planning mine (five months to go!) and hey we JUST got our cake ordered today! Annnnnnnnnd I've gotten 1/5 of the favors we need done LOL I've got the time down to those under 5 minutes a piece go me!. Advice....give yourself PLENTY of time...hit the hobby stores when there are sales...do what you can by yourself or have friends/family help (IE don't hire someone).....like for instance I'm having my father and grandfather do the photography (trust them more than anyone) And we're havign a friend do the Dj'ing (he does it part time!)....the cost of a wedding TOTALLY depends on what YOU want etc...My parents went to a justice of the peace way back when and I'm sure they had it done for under 200....my cousin did the same with her loser ex and I'm still sure it was under 200.....if you go big the sky is the limit!.....  |
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Date: 12/30/2003 11:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
WHOA!....aren't you a bit young to even be thinking about marriage!?...hope you go for a long engagement.. |
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Date: 12/31/2003 12:16:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
Amanda, that all sounds so magical! >< Becky, thanks. I never knew they could be so cheap! And all you guys: we want to get married because we've decided we're ready for it. We've committed to each other, and feel very strongly about what we have. We've been together for five wonderful years.. and if our parents allow that, they will allow me to move in with him. That will solve a lot of pain.. Not seeing each other is hard.. very hard. |
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Date: 12/31/2003 1:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
how do you two expect to go to school finish your education AND also be able to pay rent? and bills?? please don't give up on your basic education, and don't get married just to get out of your parents house, that is not a good reason to get married |
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Date: 1/1/2004 12:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
We're not going to be living on our own.. I'll move in with him. His family could really use me around; they have so much going on, and they really appreciate me helping out.. I like it there too.. |
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Date: 1/1/2004 2:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
when why don't you just move there instead of getting married... getting married means being an adult and starting that next chapter in your life, being independant... are you sure you have the right reasons to want to get married??(i'm not trying to be rude, i'm just trying to understand why at 15-16 you feel this need to get married) marriage is alot of work an dit makes it only harder when you have other people around putting stresses on it |
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Date: 1/2/2004 12:29:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
Midnightly... this is all very complicated >< There are so many factors that go into it all, I don't think I could ever explain them to anyone. There are some little things I've tried to explain to other people, but only he and I seem to understand. My dad is a real butthead, and if he won't let me stay the night alone at Dave's house, I dont think he'll let me move in. If we get married, it doesn't have to be with his permission. One parent is all that is needed. Now, if we are indeed married, it will probably make him think twice about letting me do what I want to do. And that's to be with Dave. We will indeed have taken the next step, and that's the whole point. We are ready to do it. We've been talking about it for two years, but only now, after some very important things have been cleared up, has it gotten into serious discussion. I've had some problems at school too, that would likely end if we are married.. And his family has some things they could use another person there to help with, and I'm the perfect candidate. His parents have already said they love to have me around. Dave and I keep each other in line.. we cause small problems when we're without each other, so its also a problem there. Being so bound would ease that, being together for real would eliminate it. Its just.. so much that factors in.. I hope I don't sound too naive about all this... but.. |
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Date: 1/2/2004 2:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
being bound together(as you say) will open up a whole new world of issues that you havent even thought about...just becuase you two will be together doesn't mean the problems in your life and his will just disappear.. your still soo young... not even legal... yes you have been thinking about it for awhile(every girl dreams about her wedding) but just from an outside point of view things don't seem right... yes you want to help out his family but getting married is not a good reason to do such, it's a very adult thing to do it means starting your new life together not moving into his parents house... i know your looking at is as marriage is the only way to get what you want... but that is a serious thing and i don't think your at all sides of what your talking about... you have your WHOLE LIFE ahead of you...people change sooo much as they grow(your still growing!) expecially in the first year out of highschool... why not wait atleast till you graduate... discover yourself before you lock down on your life partner |
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Date: 2/16/2004 4:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
any updates?? |
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Date: 2/16/2004 7:58:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56410
Nope. No updates. |
