Date: 12/27/2003 9:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 22852
Sadly I do not think there is anything you can do as she does not live with you and to be honest she sounds to me like a typical girl. As for her staying up to all hours as long as she gets up in the morning and is doing well in school then it should not be a problem but if it effects her school.. then the TV should be removed as a timer does no good.. because when it shuts off she will only turn it back on again. I wish you luck.  |
Date: 12/27/2003 9:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 11341
Thats a rough one Keth. Is she doing this during school too? If so that could really hurt her. Do they not notice she is tired? When you are over there why dont you mention that she looks tired and ask her if its worth staying up until 2 am to watch t. Make sure you say something while the grand parents are around. Talk to her but load enough for the grandparents to hear. I dont really know Keth but good luck.  |
Date: 12/27/2003 10:25:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18527
She does it every night, she gets really tired, but they don't notice, which irritates me... I ask her and she says she just can't sleep, she's been doing this for YEARS... but the TV she views concerns me
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Date: 12/27/2003 11:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 17275
Confront her on it and then bring in the grandparents so they can hear it for themselves.  |
Date: 12/27/2003 11:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 52337
I do that sometimes.... but I don't watch TV shows. I watch movies or stay up late on the phone with friends. My grades have been coming down because of this. I didnt realize what the probelm wuz for a while. You need to tell your step daughter that this can affect her futher, and you don't want her to end up working at McDonald's until she's 78. Sure McDonald's is a good place but do you really wanna work there?!?!?! She seems smart. Explain to her what she is doing and that it isnt the best thing in the world. Luv Alws, Lizz  |
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Date: 12/27/2003 11:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18527
Honestly I think the fact that she is on Concerta is affecting her sleep. |
Date: 12/27/2003 11:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 29532
Yeah, I would suggest taking the TV out of that room for sure.  |
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Date: 12/27/2003 11:48:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18527
Seriously, why would an 8 year old need a TV? |
Date: 12/27/2003 2:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
I don't know what to tell you..my daughter (who is almost 20 now) has had her own tv. vcr, dvd, and telephone line in her room since she was like 10...but she has NEVER let it interfere with her school work or whatever. She knows when to turn it off..oh ya I almost forgot she also has her own computer as well.  |
Date: 12/27/2003 6:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 42792
My kids have their own TV but they don't watch it after 9 on weekdays and 10 on weekends.  |
Date: 12/28/2003 12:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 62487
I have a step son the same way and my son who is 9 yr old also is spoilded by the grandparents, from one who has been there, I would definately approach the subject in a tactful, yet gentle way...and I would tell my partner how I felt and what I see as well as the grandparents. I would do it in a way that doesnt alienate the child yet allows the truth to come out, I would also tell the child that you were the same once, and you know that it is tough sometimes, but you as well as everyone else loves her very much and it is unconditional, she doesnt have to work hard to get it or earn it, it is just there and it is something that will never go away, no matter what...encourage her to be honest and to get to bed on time. AND definately get rid of the TV program....doesnt she have school the next day?
Let the grandparents know what is going on and what she is watching.....Keep me posted>>>>.tamara |
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Date: 12/28/2003 6:00:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 18527
I think this is more of an issue of the fact that boundries were never set, she wsa never told NOT to watch TV... |
Date: 12/30/2003 9:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 57579
You should ask from now on to see her grade cards. Tell her if she doesnt get a certain grade the TV will be taken away. That's one idea. About the whole turning the families against each other she'll grow out of it. I was the same way because my parents divorced. *hugs*  |
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Date: 12/30/2003 9:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 57579
Another idea on the TV is to turn on the parental control. It should block those shows out |
