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Date: 12/24/2003 3:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
Ok, I'm a bit lost. Are you talking about a speech impediment, a lack of articulation in your spoken thoughts, or something else?  |
Date: 12/24/2003 3:20:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
Stuttering. Its a speech problem. Words don't come out right.  |
Date: 12/24/2003 3:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 60052
My husband used to stutter when he was younger. They found that he didn't stutter when he sang, or was reading or singing along with a group of people all saying the same thing. It's a medical phenomemon, but it's very real. He found help, comfort and support through this college...http://www.mankato.msus.edu/dept/comdis/kuster/stutter.html hopefully you can find some resources there to help you. I wish you the best.  |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:23:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
All the resources and institutes are only available in the USA/UK/or Canada. I live in the middle east. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
Thanks for the link though. |
Date: 12/24/2003 3:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
Relaxing while speaking might help; speak a bit slower. Also, check the link TDF provided.  |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
Then check into on-line or at-home speech courses designed to address stuttering. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:26:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
There are no at-home speech courses. And if there are, they require money. I don't have a credit card. I tried all the self-help techniques and they're useless. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 60052
There are even links to chat rooms for people who stutter so you can get help and support from people like you. My husband says "Don't let it get you down, the more frustrated you get, the more you will stutter. Take it one day at a time and try to remember this YOU DON'T STUTTER IN YOUR MIND WHEN YOU THINK." |
Date: 12/24/2003 3:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 52337
I do that too. Not that much but I do it alot. I hate it too. I'll be at school and i'll say an answer and I can't get the words out and it's like this big sloppy mess all over the place and then everyone starts looking at me and giggling and whispering to their friends. I hate it. I just want to throw it out the door. Luv ALws, Lizz  |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:27:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
ToDieFor..Thanks...I might check the chat-room out. I'll probably get something from other stutterers themselves..Thank You.. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:28:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
PL, you have institutes where you live. If I were you I'd see a speech therapist. Something we don't have over here because of the society's ignorance on Speech problems! |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 52337
Where do you live at? Luv Alws, Lizz |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
PL, the UAE..united arab emirates. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:32:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
WoodenNickel sent me a link to a device called SPEECHEASY. BUT I just recently found out that it can be only purchased from states within the USA. Im not even sure about the UK. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
AHD, I think your first logical step would be not relax a bit, and not be so hard on yourself over this; the more the center on the problem rather than your goals, the more the problem will affect you. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:33:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
TheJay. Im trying my best to let it not bother me, but it does. I use alternative words. Even when Im relaxed..It gets worse when Im talking to an elder person. |
Date: 12/24/2003 3:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 30743
Absz, you've probably heard it all before. If people don't accept you for who you are, then to heck with them. I know you've most likely heard platitudes all your life about this. I have not personally had to deal with a speech impediment such as stuttering, but the frustration caused by it is understandable. I don't feel sorry for you, I don't feel bad for you. I know you have what you see as a problem, but that doesn't make you less of a person, less of a brainiac.. lol. What I see in you is someone who is so strong, she forges ahead so much that your thoughts may actually get ahead of you. Your words might get twisted or a stutter comes out because your brain is so much faster than your tongue. That's a gift, Absz, not a bad thing. I can't tell you that life won't be frustrating. It is frustrating, and getting your thoughts out on your tongue is sometimes the hardest thing to do in life. For me, it is the opposite. I cannot speak what I feel. If I talk face to face, I become tongue tied and twist my words all around so I end up putting my foot in my mouth. Then I discovered writing. I was never awkward there, I wrote with a fluidity that I had never had in spoken word. It was a terrible thing not to be able to stand up in front of the class and recite a report. I had it so bad I actually either vomited from being physically sick or I lied to stay home if I knew I would have to read aloud. The way I look at it, people who really want to know me will see me through my writing because I just can't talk to people with my voice. I have never known why and probably never will. I don't have any answers for you on how to solve what you see as a problem. I see your speech as a gift because it makes you who you are. If you were deaf or blind, it would not make you any different. What I know of you, Absz, shows me a picture of someone whose brain is so active, you sometimes get so far ahead of yourself, the words are difficult to come. You are a gift to the world, Absz, just as my Mom taught me that I am a gift to the world. You will do great things with that creative brain of yours, and the trials you suffer now will only strengthen that purpose. If anyone has a problem with the way you speak, simply tell them this is who you are. You can't change yourself to suit others and you don't want to. Be proud of who you are. It took me a long time to be able to say that I am proud of who I am, tongue tied and all, but I got there and today, I find that I gain confidence from simply saying to myself that no-one is without some impediment. Unfortunately, for some the impediment is their personality... lol. If you need to talk, message me, I hope what I said here was clear enough for you to understand. I love you the way you are, I wouldn't want you any different. I know your heart, not your tongue.   |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
Can you visualize yourself speaking properly, without hinderance? Old philosophy we often use in the martial arts, if you can see yourself doing it in your mind, you can make it happen. |
Date: 12/24/2003 3:38:00 PM
From Authorid: 13283
Abszy , i believe in the all out power of prayer . I will be attending midnight mass tonite and I promise to dedicate it to you . It is my belief that others have always made you feel inferior . They like to use you as a whipping post and it needs to stop ! I do care and I hope with meditation and lots of prayer , you can overcome this . This is your biggest obstacle and you just need to start believing in yourself a lil bit more . I will pray hard and I will pray often for you Abszy . I want you to feel whole . Amen . Razzy aka  |
Date: 12/24/2003 3:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Have Wooden Nickel purchase SPEECHEASY for you, and then mail it to you! You can send him the cost, plus s/h.  |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:42:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
TheJay, yes because I do speak properly when Im whispering or singing..Other than that, no. My tongue gets too heavy for me to lift and get the words out. MonkeyLuver, check your PM. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:43:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
Raz..thanks. Arion..I don't really know if he would mind..Plus I don't know him that well so I'm not sure he'd feel alright about me asking him. |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
Like I said....if you can visualize it, you can make it happen. As for Speech Easy, you'd have to make the call, as part of it is making a speech accessment ( that's what the website said ). |
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Date: 12/24/2003 4:00:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 21266
AuthorOnly..Hon, I sent you an msg..Thank you so much.. I'm off to bed now it's nearly 4 AM. I'll come back tomorrow and reply to the rest of the comments. Thanks all. |
Date: 12/24/2003 4:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 62486
you made me cry. this is not an "i'm sorry for you" or anything like that. Honey, you are you, know it in your heart, that no matter what people say to you or about you, God loves you, and we love you, and even if you don't believe it, your parents love you. I luv you for who you are. It is the fact that you get nerves and affraid, I do it to, I don't stutter, but I know the feeling of embarrassment and harrassment by fellow students and it stinks. Don't worry about them, ignore them, you are you. * gives a big hug* luv you honey, Rose |
Date: 12/24/2003 5:14:00 PM
From Authorid: 51827
I saw on a television show of people who had a stutter in their speech and they have a device that they place in their ear. It is virtually invisible. It will let you some how hear yourself speak and let you hear your own voice and somehow without any effort you speak clearly. I am not sure the logic behind it but I saw people on television go from not being able to get one word out to talking for minutes non-stop, which you can talk forever clearly with the device in. I do not know the name of the device but it is out there and probably is in a decent price range also. Ask a professional, and dont let them say there is nothing like that, cause there is. Keep us posted if you find anything out.  |
| Date: 12/24/2003 5:22:00 PM From Authorid: 52978 One of the best engineers at the company I work for stutters. When we listen to him, we don't even hear it. I'm not sure if this is any consolation but when people get older, they tend to see more deeply the value that others have to give. This engineers stuttering isn't even an issue for us anymore. I also know, though, that when you're younger and struggling to make a place for yourself in your world, these setbacks can be traumatic. I hope you realize that it won't last. There is a chance if you believe in yourself. |
Date: 12/25/2003 7:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 18527
Absz I don't stutter persay but I do garble my speech a lot so the vowels from one word end up in the next word. It's annoying, but I try and laugh it off. ((HUGS)) I for one would LOVE to hear you speak, you can always call me!  |
Date: 12/25/2003 8:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 25756
My cousin stutters too....I know how embarrassing it can be...I don't know much about how to stop it, but, I'm thinking, maybe when you're all alone, practice speaking in the mirror, or right before you go to sleep, practice saying certain words or phrases, or pretend you're having a conversation with a friend and actually whisper/mouth the words. Or when you're reading a book, read the words out loud to yourself. I don't know how good my advice is, but practice makes (almost!) perfect.  |
Date: 1/21/2004 6:28:00 AM
From Authorid: 23886
I have the same problem cuz!!! *Hugz* I have a speech problem too..In class when i need to present a project, the teacher tells me to speak louder and i end up speaking lower, and get a bad mark! =/ I think ill be going to that chatroom now....lol  |
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