Date: 12/19/2003 7:15:00 AM
From Authorid: 28848
Just do what you think is right for you. You are the one that has to attend the school and go to the classes everyday, not him. He'll eventually get over it. Best of luck to you in school.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 7:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 60052
Well, all I can say is do what you think is best for you. You're dad can be disappointed all he wants, but it's your life. Maybe going to one of those "big colleges" just isn't for you. Do what you want. You're dad will eventually come around.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 7:21:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
Well you don't sound like a failure to me your dad should not say that he probbly dose not really think this he just says stuff to try and make you do more I know that is not the best way to do it though calling you a failure with you are not is not going to help. but your not so don't belive him.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 7:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 15394
you know I think this is really sad... your father is probably SOOOO proud of you and wants ONLY the best... He probably sees some value to other schools above what this one has to offer... You are obviously on your way to an incredible future, and daddy only wants the absolute best for you.... I'm sorry he chose those hurtful words to make his point... Good luck with your wonderful future!!!  |
Date: 12/19/2003 7:40:00 AM
From Authorid: 54532
He doesn't think that you are a failure. He just wants the best for you and maybe this college isn't his idea of a "good" college. Just talk to him and tell him why you want to go to this school. Maybe u can go to this college for two years and one of the colleges he wants u to go to for another two years. Best of luck.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 7:44:00 AM
From Authorid: 62222
Wow, I don't think calling you a failure is called for. I think you are far from a failure. He's just upset because he thinks there is something wrong with going to a "regular" college when you could get into a place like Duke, or Northwestern. There is nothing wrong with the college you have chosen, I knew several kids in my High School who went to North Carolina, it is a wonderful school. You are the one who has to go there, pick the one that suits YOU. He will just have to deal. Oh and incidentally, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE. <RegretfulHalo>  |
Date: 12/19/2003 8:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 61946
In my opinion the only one that has failed is your father, he has failed in many ways, the most important way is not letting you make your own decisions in life. I say if you are happy with where you want to go to college don't let anyone stand in your way. I have a very favorite quote and that is...Don't let anyone EVER steal your dreams! A good friend once told me that and it has stuck with me ever since. I can't say that I know you on a personal level but I can say that I am very proud of you for getting grades like that and just for being you!....((((HUGS))))  |
Date: 12/19/2003 8:10:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Just leave it at that, "dad is being a jerk". It sounds like dear old dad is having a hard time figuring out that he cant live his dreams through you and that you are your own independent person with your own dreams and desires. You go where you feel is best for you. This is your life anyways, and he should be proud of you for just going to college alone!  |
Date: 12/19/2003 8:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 54987
What university did your father go to? It may be that he feels that he failed and doesn't want you to fail because it make his failure even more painful. It's no excuse for saying that to you though.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 8:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 52546
parents can be really harsh at times but it shouldnt matter what college you got beacuse it is your choice and not his.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 8:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 38601
...at times like these I usually just tell people that say things like that to me to go do certain things...but since i don't think you should do that to your dad, tell him to back off, it's YOUR choice, it's what YOU want to do, and it will make YOU happy *hugs*,  |
Date: 12/19/2003 9:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 2030
People motivate in different ways. His way may not be a good way but maybe it's all he knows.  |
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Date: 12/19/2003 9:36:00 AM ( Admin-FA )
I agree with BCAR. |
Date: 12/19/2003 9:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 58078
I think your father just wants what is best for you. I don't think he mean failure as harsh as it came out...pops choose the wrong word for what I think he meant...but I could be wrong. It is your life and your destination. You do what you want to do. But with grades like that...you can go anywhere and it will look so much better on your resume when applying for jobs. jmo.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 9:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
I think that he just wanted you to go to one of the other schools that you mentioned. You certainly arn't a failure. You are at a point in your life where you need to make and be responsible for your own decisions. GOing to University is a good decision. Whether or not there was a better decision to be made is not something that is easy to see. Best of luck to you. Bob  |
Date: 12/19/2003 11:29:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 12966
Koolade, my daddy didnt go to college, neither did my mom. UNCG is a really good school and they have an AWESOME education program! Why cant he just let me be happy?  |
Date: 12/19/2003 11:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 61966
Omg, how dare he diss my future school! LoL! I've always wanted to go to UNC, its not a community college either and I think its a really great school. Congrats on getting excepted!! You should convince him that this is what YOU want and its better for YOU, your the one who has to go to school, not him.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 12:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 62344
Congrats! and have fun at school! Hopefully your Dad will come to the realization that you are doing what is best for you.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 12:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 35720
You're obviously not a failure.. good luck with what you do.. he'll get over it.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 1:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
My dad has called me names as well. He's always telling me how stupid I am and he's even called my bf stupid. It always got me made when he would say that but I would just ignore those words. It doesn't sound like you're a failure at all. I'm sure that you're dad will come around. He needs to realize that it's your life what you want to do, not his and he should respect it, in my opinion. He should be very proud of you for even making it that far. Congrats and have fun at school   |
Date: 12/19/2003 2:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 62367
I am so sorry that your father said such a thing to you when you were so happy. Don't let it affect your happiness. Congratulations on your acceptance at the school of your choice. My mother actually apologized for sending me to the school I went to when I could have gone to more well known "better" universities. I loved my university and have no regrets about missing out on Ivy League caliber schools. I hope you enjoy college as much. Chances are that if you went to any of the schools you mentioned, most of your undergraduate classes would be taught by graduate students. Smaller schools usally have more classes taught by PhD's. Best wishes.  |
Date: 12/19/2003 6:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 1225
Do what you think is best for you, and just remember that he's only upset because he wants the very best for you (albeit his idea of what's best).  |
Date: 12/19/2003 6:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
Im sorry he acted this way and said those things, but honey you know what? You just proved with this post you are NOT a failure! His words hurt I know, but there is no truth to them. *hugs*  |
