Date: 12/11/2003 12:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 42519
that is certainly a big dream. best thing you can if you really love him is to support him in all he does, and in the meantime, get yourself a career, or graduate, or whatever, for I dont know how old you are or who you are for that matter, but get yourself stable financially so when he realizes he may not be able to make it, you will still be able to stand tall and support yourself. Love ya tonz  |
Date: 12/11/2003 1:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
Dump him and move on if you're not happy.  |
Date: 12/11/2003 1:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 58611
Just try not to give your opinion on it anymore, sometimes it is good to talk about things without getting advice, especially when it comes to dreams you have cause there is always someone out there with a reason why not to do it.  |
Date: 12/11/2003 1:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 62424
hmm...I dont really know much about relationships...((Im 13)) but I would sit him down and say someting like "I believe that you will make it...youre a strong person,you can acheive all things,and I know you can and will acheive this...but until you do...it will help to have another job...try not to aproach it as a backup plan...but more of a job that he's working on his dream...I think the reason why he gets mad is because hes depending on you for encuragment...and when he only gets 90% it gets him disscuraged...so make it seem that you have 100% faith in him even if you dont...you might be hiding your feelings...but at least you will keep your relationship...and thats the important thing...I hope things will work out with you and your bf! bye *big hugs*  |
Date: 12/11/2003 2:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
I would encourage him. He'll figure out that he needs a backup plan soon enough. I just wouldn't pay any bills for him...  |
Date: 12/11/2003 2:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 15394
maybe the let downs in life will add to who he is to become in the future... we all have to reach and experience, can't take that away from him and I know you really wouldn't want to... be supportive, and let him find his way... your not married, if it isn't want you want in life, then move on   |
Date: 12/11/2003 3:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I think it would be better if you would step off of him, as good as your intentions are. He is obviously going to do his own thing, and will take offence to your suggestions no matter how delicately you bring it up to him. Be supportive, and be there when and if he falls. It is a very competitive business out there, and I hope that reality can set in for him  |
Date: 12/11/2003 5:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
Maybe just leave him you are trying to tell him the truth that it is hard to get in. But if he doise not understand or he will not belive you then you have got to just lwrt him try and fail for himself tell him when you told him it was hard that you are supoting him you just don't wanna get his hopes up.  |
Date: 12/12/2003 8:01:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61930
Thanks for the replies. I do want to see him make it, but I just think he's moving into it too quick. He doesn't have a job other than wrestling, he doesn't even have furniture in his aparment yet! I think he should take care of some things first before he tries to accompolish this goal. I just recently lost my job, so I know I couldn't support him financially even if I wanted too. I'm just not going to give my opinions on the topic anymore. It doesn't do any good anyways. He's too set in his ways and stubborn. He'll learn sooner or later.  |
Date: 12/12/2003 12:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 52489
Well, here's a winning strategy: tell him to hope for the best, but expect the worst! That way you're covered in either event. And don't just hope, go into the event with a strategy and impress them. A good book for personal success is called "Winning Through Intimidation", by Robert J. Ringer. Finally, you should remember that people wrestling is about crowd-pleasing; it's all scripted and planned out. If he's hot on it, and not about you, maybe it's time to look for a different boyfriend. People who refuse to work are definitely not crowd-pleasers themselves!  |
Date: 12/12/2003 9:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 42519
its the way to be. they learn sooner or later, and the only thing you can do is comfort them and in the back of your mind, you can chant "I told you so, I told you so" and thats all that you can do. sorry. love ya tonz
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Date: 12/19/2003 4:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 38601
eh, i can identify a little with your boyfriend...I really want to be a professional wrestler, but being a girl, people think i won't make it far, and i get really defensive...but i do have back up plans...back up plans are a good thing to have.  |
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Date: 12/19/2003 4:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 38601
i believe me i understand about not wanting to argue with the b/f anymore...i hate men right now...lol |
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Date: 12/20/2003 8:19:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61930
Roxie, you could make it if you really work at it. I've been managing wrestlers for 2 years now. I'd like to get into training and actually wrestle, but back up plans are good to have. I mean, if he does make it and something happens to where he can't wrestle anymore then he has nothing. If you don't have any job experience you aren't going to get anywhere. That's what I wanted him to realize. I know he's a good wrestler and could make it, but you can't wrestle forever. |
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Date: 12/20/2003 11:16:00 AM
From Authorid: 38601
Sit him and down and tell him that, or find someone he looks up to, even if it's another wrestler and have them tell him...it just might work |
Date: 12/23/2003 8:54:00 AM
From Authorid: 40145
he is being insecure about his dreams coming true, dont pick on him about getting a real job.. hon.. let him do his own thing, and let him find out on his own. trust me, it works.. *hugs*  |
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Date: 12/24/2003 3:13:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61930
I've tried sitting down and talking calmly. It didn't work, so now I say nothing. He's going to do what he wants anyway, so he'll learn as he goes. Maybe he'll make it, maybe he won't. I just didn't want him to get disappointed, but sometimes that's what it takes for people to realize things. You never know, he may prove me wrong. I was just trying to look out for him, and I hope he knows that. |
Date: 1/20/2004 7:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 57232
This is really a hard one, don't know what to say, I would say come up with a stupid job you'd aspire to have and then, but seriously make it stupid and let him talk you out of it, and then go SEE that's what I was trying to say to you! I just wanted to add that I don't think his aspirations are stupid, but just the not having a fall-back plan aspect of it.  |
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Date: 1/29/2004 12:02:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61930
Thanks B. Monkey. I've just realized that I am no competition with wrestling. He would choose it over me any day. So, he'll have to learn on his own, but I don't think I want to sit around and wait on him to figure it out. |
