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Date: 10/10/2003 2:08:00 PM ( Admin-FA )
It's a crappy situation to be in... You can be there for him.. but you need to be there for yourself too, especially if it seems its draining you, which I can understand how it would be. Be there for him still, but remember that you need to be there for yourself too.. So if you are feeling like you are being emotionally drained then just break for a while from him, a day or two and regain everything back. Probably not the best of advice... |
Date: 10/10/2003 3:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
Maybe you could talk to a school counsilor or something and find out what resources are available for your friend. I don't think that you should have to carry that burden by yourself.  |
Date: 10/10/2003 5:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
I agree with Wild Bob, see a councellor maybe they can help you. You don't have to go to one at your school there are children's helplines available.  |
Date: 10/10/2003 7:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 53054
this is not a good situation to be in...you really need to take some time out...maybe like wildbob has suggested talk to someone like a school councellor....you dont have to feeel drained if you dont want to! your friend needs help and it doesnt (well not here) cost any money to see a school councellor or who ever else at school! (i dont know about there) at first if you promised not to tell he might feel betayed but he will get over it! *hugz* best of luck...but please talk to soemone able this as i can tell and what you said it is affecting you and first and for most you need to be looking after yourself! *hugz* take care  |
Date: 9/24/2007 4:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 63400
If you really have tried to help him a few times and he does not respond. Assume he is not going too. Helping someone is a about communicating to them that if they need you, you will be there for them. Offer to be there do not speak or talk if you would like to really help. Just be present and say nothing. He might like that and if not offer him a shoulder and then go and let him find you if he wants a shoulder... Do not let something like his story mess you up for life.. What he is doing could be considered a form of reverse manipulation. He is probably not doing it but remember men love to play that game the hunter likes to play the prey and lure the prey in. Maybe his situation is legite and he is really depressed. do not get mad at him because men are animals and though just remember that men are animals... I am one of them I know!
You could try and fix his problem for him and you already have and now you see he is going to have to do it himself...Tell him this next time you see him say to him " you know if your going to be kind enough not too blame others then it is only fair not to blame yourself either" and if you do blame yourself thats not fair to the others.. tell him that being upset is expected and even ok! being mad is different and it is still ok! and if he is not blaming anyone it should be ok to get upset and vent! but too blame is were the line gets crosses.. good luck!  |
Date: 9/24/2007 4:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 63400
If you really have tried to help him a few times and he does not respond. Assume he is not going too. Helping someone is a about communicating to them that if they need you, you will be there for them. Offer to be there do not speak or talk if you would like to really help. Just be present and say nothing. He might like that and if not offer him a shoulder and then go and let him find you if he wants a shoulder... Do not let something like his story mess you up for life.. What he is doing could be considered a form of reverse manipulation. He is probably not doing it but remember men love to play that game the hunter likes to play the prey and lure the prey in. Maybe his situation is legite and he is really depressed. do not get mad at him because men are animals and though just remember that men are animals... I am one of them I know!
You could try and fix his problem for him and you already have and now you see he is going to have to do it himself...Tell him this next time you see him say to him " you know if your going to be kind enough not too blame others then it is only fair not to blame yourself either" and if you do blame yourself thats not fair to the others.. tell him that being upset is expected and even ok! being mad is different and it is still ok! and if he is not blaming anyone it should be ok to get upset and vent! but too blame is were the line gets crosses.. good luck! |
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