Date: 9/25/2003 10:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i think now that you have gotten some closure.... walk away.... give some time apart... why keep going and tearing yourself up  |
Date: 9/25/2003 10:34:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
I have walken away but something told me to talk to him. Like something would happen if I did. So I did. I try really really really hard to forget about him. He urt me so bad that I have this anger built up in me that I can't seem to get out.  |
Date: 9/25/2003 11:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
why do you have to say you are sorry hun if he is the one who done the hurting???? forget him baby and walk away...there's plenty of other fish in the sea....so go fishing hun....hugs  |
Date: 9/26/2003 12:37:00 AM
From Authorid: 53961
Forgiveness takes time. Forgetting requires a lot more that many of us are capable of, but we have to at least try. If we don't forgive, forget and go on, then we can become stuck in a non-progressive state. My first husband hurt me like no other. I was 17 and now I am 52. It still hurts, but I have forgiven him in my heart, but am still working on the forgetting. Time and the absence of his presence are the only things that will ever make it go away, if that is possible. Hang in there. Hugs,  |
Date: 9/26/2003 5:01:00 AM
From Authorid: 3648
First of all why do you feel like you have to say you're sorry for? Especially since he was the one who caused you the pain! There is always a right time to forgive and forget. I'm sure that time will come soon for you. You just have to learn let go, but allowing the anger to take hold will only cause you more pain in the long run. Time will heal your heart, I know that's easier said then done. But it will happen. In the meantime you need to get on with your life. There are other guys out there that will treat you with respect and love you for you.  |
Date: 9/26/2003 6:07:00 AM
From Authorid: 24924
>>>"I went through 2 years of constant break ups, cheating, hate and anger. Nothing he can do or say will make me forgive him."<<<<< LOOKS LIKE YOU GAVE HIM plenty of time to ask YOUR forgiveness. >>>>>"I am sitting here crying wondering if I am ever gonna be forgiven"<<<<<STOP beating yourself up and living in the past and dwelling on what WAS and what you WISH something to be. Accept what IS; move on; you'll get over it. I do not see YOU as the one who needs forgiveness here; and HE has shown that he obviously doesn't know or care about any forgiveness. Painful as it is; you need to just put it all behind you.
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Date: 9/26/2003 7:36:00 AM
From Authorid: 56293
Sometimes, you can't forgive and you will never probably forget it.  |
Date: 9/26/2003 7:56:00 AM
From Authorid: 54987
The point of forgiveness is different in everyone. It requires serious examination of your beliefs about love and your part in it. Real love is unconditional, and anything that is called 'love' and is not unconditional is a counterfeit version. Love is freedom, love is lack of pain, love is lack of fear. When you give someone a gift, you don't give it to get one back from them. You give the gift without conditions. There is a saying which goes, 'True love means never having to say you're sorry'. To me, what that means is that true love requires no forgiveness. Forgiving and forgetting do not really go together. You cannot forget, but you can forgive someone a hurt they did to you. But also there is a need to forgive yourself for allowing someone to hurt you. Then you will have reached that point and its a very freeing moment.  |
Date: 9/26/2003 10:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 53284
Forgiveness, is not for the other person, it is for you. It is releasing all the negative feelings that you are holding inside. It allows you to move on. Maybe it's time that you forgive him, so that you can be free. Bob  |
Date: 9/26/2003 11:49:00 AM
From Authorid: 53909
I know how you feel. It takes a long time to forgive and forget. It doesn't hurt me as much as it used to. But it killed my trust in people and I blame myself even though I wasn't the one that cheated. I had three guys cheat on me so I blame myself. Gotta be a reason for them to cheat on me I know I"m icky and the others we're better lookers than me...lol I dont know..Im rambling.. But I know how you feel. I went through that same thing several times in the past. It sucks.  |
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Date: 9/26/2003 4:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
IO have moved on. I dated after him but got hurt like e hurt me. But for the last uhh 8 months I've grown to this guy who, like you said Koolade, I love unconditionally. And we never fight or even argue. And again, like you said koolade, we never have to say sorry. I feel totally different towards Chris then I did Michael. I've never had that "unconditional love" feeling till I fell for Chris. The things I do with Chris, laughing, joking etc...I'd never do with Michael. And with Michael I was always tell him sorry for not being enough for him, for he has to go find another girl to get his pleasure out of both of us. Like I wasn't enough for him so he had to go find another girl to please him. What I have with Chris makes me feel like I know in my heart his ios the one for me. I recently did a report on the quote "My stiff heart makes me know that I am yours." or in english terms "My heart is hard and it will not let anyone in till it finds the right one, then my heart will tell me your the one for me." |
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Date: 9/26/2003 4:10:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
PSC, I had the same guy cheat on me 15 times. Don't ask me why I even went back to that Dirtbag!! My heart told me not to, but my mind told me to. So you can guess why I took his srry butt back! |
Date: 9/26/2003 10:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
Why would you tell him you're sorry since it sounds like he hurt you? Forgiveness, generally takes time and you possibly aren't there yet. At least you're trying to get there and eventually you will. You're still healing though, when you're ready, you can forgive but one never forgets. Good luck and stay strong.  |
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Date: 9/27/2003 7:12:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
Thanx so much You Choose *hugs* *+*Sarah*+* |
Date: 9/28/2003 9:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 34487
No problem...  |
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Date: 9/29/2003 9:15:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 49091
:-D I guess I am doing all better. I talked to Chris bout it and he told me he'd never do that to me and I deserve more then that and made me feel better then ever LOL Made me feel all betta!! :-D LOL |
