Date: 8/26/2003 2:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 27583
whenever you tell the truth about things you don't have to try to remember who you told what and you never have to look back and wonder what would have hapened if you did. i respect your honesty and that you have the parents that care. sometimes it's hard to do but it is the right thing to do. your friend , wooden nickel  |
Date: 8/26/2003 2:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 57404
I think you did the right thing. Although Nick may not be proud of his past and it isn't an issue anymore in his or your eyes.. it is to anyone who loves and cares about you and your well being. So if Nick cares and loves you then he will understand that your parents will worry about you and that their worries are founded. Hopefully he will come around. :-) God Bless  |
Date: 8/26/2003 2:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
Honesty is the best policy....If nick is truly over his drug addictions he shouldnt have a big issue with it all..  |
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Date: 8/26/2003 2:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
I mean if he's done with drugs then he has nothing to hide right? |
Date: 8/26/2003 2:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 45684
I agree with the others- You did the right thing. It's better to tell the truth than to get caught up in a bunch of lies. I can understand why Nick is angry, but since he doesn't do drugs anymore, he shouldn't have to worry. I say, let your parents meet him. You obviously like him a lot, and after they meet him, I'm sure your parents will be able to see why.  |
Date: 8/26/2003 2:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
It's best to not lie to your parents. I also think that it is reasonable for your parents to meet your BF. If he's not mature enough to deal honestly with his past in front of your parents then you might wonder why. Drug use, even past drug use, is an issue. If he truely is over it, then he should be able to talk to your parents about it.  |
Date: 8/26/2003 3:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
well if he is past it all then he should be open with his past not hiding it... and i think your parents have a right to see him and meet him... like any parents want to meet the guy there baby girl is going out with  |
Date: 8/26/2003 3:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 31531
I am very proud of you telling your Dad the truth.Like he says take it slow.If your friend is honest to you about not doing drugs anymore then he shouldn't be angry at you.You go girl>>>>HUGS>>>  |
Date: 8/26/2003 3:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
I think that you did the right thing also. Honesty is really good.  |
Date: 8/26/2003 4:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 5252
i think you did, and if he should understand the respect that you have for you parents. i'm sure it'd be the same if the situations were reversed, and you had a past and his parents wanted to know, i mean it doesn't change the way YOU feel about him, does it??  |
Date: 8/26/2003 4:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 13546
I think you did the right thing. One way or another, it would be bound to come up. I think your parents just want to get to know this guy (which is a very good thing). They are willing to give him a chance.  |
Date: 8/26/2003 4:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 34865
i totally agree with everyone beth. it is not your fault at all. Nick did drugs and i think he needs to earn ur parents trust. i know they should trust your decision, but i know if i am ever a mother and i find out the guy my daughter is dating used to do "illegal" drugs i would want to talk to him too. though he doesn't do them anymore, his past is still a part of him. For this situation i think your dad is just afraid, of what i'm not really sure, and i know that nick would never pressure u into doing anything u didn't want to, but maybe your dad is just afraid that if he experimented with drugs, he'll want to with other stuff too. I know this isn't exactly what you wanted to hear, but none of it was your fault. i think you made the right choice and your dad i think is trying to respect that, and just talk to your mom before hand so she can try to keep him under control lol ttyl, i'm always around...love (but not in the gross way) your friend ~Christine  |
Date: 8/26/2003 4:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 16705
you should always be honest to your parents for they are there to help you and in all honesty i think that your dad had a good idea about everyone getting together to talk, all he probably wanted to tell nick is how much he cares about you and what he expects from nick. if nick doesn't do drugs anymore then it shouldn't bother him to go and talk to your parents cause it helps to talk and who knows maybe your parents could end up being someone nick can talk too if he has the urge to want to do drugs again. everybody needs someone to talk too but once again i say please always be honest. Hamb918  |
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Date: 8/26/2003 4:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 53029
I also had a problem with drugs at one time it is important that you support him i dont blame him from wanting to hide his past it is not a good feeling knowing that somone knows that you had a drug problem |
Date: 8/26/2003 5:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 13428
I believe you did the right thing hun and it sounds like your dad is trying to be fair by wanting to sit and talk with Nick sounds like a very loving dad to me.  |
Date: 8/26/2003 5:52:00 PM
From Authorid: 38256
Beth I already told you that I think your parents had a right to know. Whether or not he still does them it still matters, you have a right to know, and your parents have a right to know until you're at least 18. He shouldn't be mad at you, he should understand that your parents have a right to know what kind of person your bf is. Best of luck with the BIG TALK lol.  |
Date: 8/26/2003 6:51:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 39139
Thanx so much for all of your replies everyone. i think i always knew that telling my parents was the right thing to do, but hearing everyone telling me it was right really helps and makes me feel more confident about my decision. i talked to nick again today and he said that he's really not mad at me, just mad at the fact that he has to talk about something he no longer does and will never do again, which i can perfectly understand. thank you again so much to everyone who replied.   |
Date: 8/26/2003 7:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 38601
Yeah, you should tell your parents, because would you rather face it in the beginning or have them find out you lied to them later? My boyfriend smoked weed for a long time and stopped around the time we met, and he used to drink and he smoked up until 2 weeks ago, and my parents knew all of this, but while it freaked them out a bit, they know he doesn't do those things anymore and he obviously cares about me and is a good person so they're ok.  |
Date: 11/15/2003 8:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 62085
although it may not seem ok now, your parents really love you, they just want to make sure you will be ok.. Nick should just step up & lay it out, upfront & honest will put your parents at ease. Trying to hide something that any parent would be concerned about-- will not. Good Luck, hope it will work out...  |
