I told him he needed help....TinaLuck

Good Evening USM,

Well, Friday night...my ex-husband came to pick up our 5 year old son for the weekend...which was fine with me...I needed the little break even though I would miss Bradley like crazy...

Well, today my ex brought Bradley home...Which was good...cause I missed the little guy...And I called him to bring him home early.

Anyways...He started on a whole lot of things that I didn't want to get into...And I told him..."I don't want to talk about this Joe. It is a little to late". That was fine..he dropped it...And I gave him some things that I took by mistake when I left.

He started to get all "husband" like...And I told him...He might be my husband but we are seperated..And I have no intention on going back with him...And that if I did what he wanted me to do...Then my year would have to start all over to get my divorce.

I have a feeling he wants me to be his "wife" from far away...and I don't want that...I left him for a reason and him trying to do this, is just making it harder on me and him...not to mention our son.

Anyways, I could see that he was trying to control me like he has done for the last 10 years or so...and I couldn't believe that I could see what he was doing to me...cause usually I wouldn't see it...And I would give in.

Well NOT this time...and not anytime. I looked him right in the eye and told him..."YOU NEED HELP...YOU have to talk to someone..because you can not keep doing this to me...It is not fair..I have feelings and I can't have you coming into MY home and telling me what to do and what to think...sure you are my husband but we are seperated...and we are seperated for a reason..You have to talk to a professional...because you Have issues that no regular person can help you with"

He looked at me as if I had three heads..LOL!!...But, it felt great to tell him exactly how I felt...And exactly what I was thinking...

Anyways..To make this long story shorter...He took the hint and left...but, not until I told him...that if he couldn't come and pick Bradley up with respect to me...and my home...Than he can start picking him up at my moms...

I seen him walk away with tears in his eyes...And I did...I admit...I felt a little bad...but, then I thought...he has played head games with me for to long...and he has lied to me way to much ...and this probably was a show..since he is a good actor...

I don't know if I said the right things or not..I know that I don't want him back...I don't love him the way I use to..And the only reason that I have him coming here is because of Bradley...but, if he keeps doing this everytime he is here....then it will have to stop..

Do you think this was the best way to deal with this situation? he kinda caught me off guard and I am not good with choosing the right words or trying to defend myself...especially when it comes to him.

Thanks for listening

**Big Canadian Hugs**

TinaLuck

August 3, 2003

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