Date: 8/3/2003 8:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 60080
im not trying to blame thison you or anything, ut did you tell her you wanted it between her and you? and does she knoe that you everheard her? maybe you should tell her how you feel?  |
Date: 8/3/2003 8:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 49037
Yikes, that's terrible. I was never close enough to my mom to talk about stuff like that. Mostly because I knew she would go and tell my dad everything that I said, even if I asked her not to. But thats not as bad as telling her friend! Maybe you should tell your mom you accidently heard her, and ask why she was telling her friend all that you talked about, and tell her you feel betrayed. I'm curious to know why she thought that it was okay to do that!  |
Date: 8/3/2003 8:53:00 AM
From Authorid: 53961
Sometimes as a parent when we are faced with problems with our chilren into "unknown waters" we may confide in a close friend as a source of help or understanding, just as you did with your mother. These issues also need to be discussed with your father. That is what marriage and a family is about - helping one another to grow and survive in a challenging world. Please don't be hard on her. She loves you. Otherwise she would not have made the time to listen and then let it bother her enough to discuss it with a close friend. I can imagine how much sleep she lost that night. Children don't come with a "How to" manual when they are born. It is all "trial and error". Please don't shut your parents out. It will be them you will need to call in the middle of the night if you are stranded in "unknown places" with "unfamiliar threats".  |
Date: 8/3/2003 9:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 28767
Sometimes parents might coincide with a close friend. But I would feel anger and resentment too. Go tell her you are mad at her. And if you can't feel you can trust her, than go talk to someone else. I find that I prefer to talk to my friends online about my problems. Just because some of them don't know anyone I know ehhee...If ya ever need to talk IM me. My mom is hte same way. Peace Out..  |
Date: 8/3/2003 9:24:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
Moms are humans too, teenagers need people to share their problems with and moms are no different. She didn't break your trust, she would not have told a friend that she knew would not keep it to herself. Stop expecting your mom to be perfect and love her for the person she is, faults and all.  |
Date: 8/3/2003 11:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 3321
I think that you need to be a bit more understanding. Just like you need a sort of "sounding board" for your ideas and problems, so does your mom. She is a person as well...  |
Date: 8/3/2003 11:48:00 AM
From Authorid: 40979
Maybe your mom's friend has a daughter and she is having a problem. Maybe your mom was trying to help her out with it. Mom's will do that. U can't say u have never told any thing to someone else that was not supposed to be talked about . Bottom line, everyone shares secrets with other people.  |
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Date: 8/3/2003 11:50:00 AM
From Authorid: 40979
Oh and, youare getting mad about he telling her friend about your problems and stuff, why did u sit on the phone and lisen to her conversation ? That was pretty rude too. |
Date: 8/3/2003 12:40:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56297
#1 look i didnt sit on the phone and listen to her conversating! i checked to see if anyone was on the phone cuzz i needed the net and i heard her...re read the story and ur the one who was being kinda rude...and her friend deosnt have daughters cuzz i no her and she isnt supposed to tell stuff like that cuzz it could get around! but watever  |
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Date: 8/3/2003 2:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 46527
I think perhaps when you calm down and look at this rationally you may feel a little differently about the whole situation. Do try not to alienate your mom, you only get one of them! |
Date: 8/3/2003 5:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 39737
yea my mom is like that too. I just tell a friend and that is it. My mom is like "if you ever like someone you can go ahead and tell me. IF you wanna talk about boys...drugs...sex... any of that you can come to me... im your mother and im your best friend.." thats nice and all but i dont trust her, plus when i do try to she doesn't seem all that interested probably because im not an adult and she doesn't think much of what im telling her...  |
Date: 8/3/2003 5:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 62100
I can understand that you are hurt because your mother was discussing your problems with a friend, but like others have said..your mother may be having a hard time dealing with what you told her and isn't quite sure what to do, so she asked a friend advice. Like someone else so wisely said..children don't come with a manual, and as your kids get older it is VERY hard to know how to handle some of their actions. I have an 11 year old and she is starting to rebel and act up and I frequently turn to my mom or friends for advice on what to do..then I absorb all of that and decide what I should do. My daughter also gets upset when I tell my fiance what she has done and we decide on a punishment..she has told me that I enjoy getting her in trouble..it's not that..it's just that good parents don't keep "secrets" or handle situations with their children alone, it's a partnership and a family is a team..you all have to work together. Try to be understanding with your mom like she has done with you..someday you will be in her position.   |
Date: 8/5/2003 9:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
I know you are feeling betrayed at the moment, but honestly hun, your mother will be the best friend you'll ever have..and also...whoever said us mothers are perfect....we need to talk about things with our friends, maybe she was looking for another opinion so she could maybe get back to you about whatever you were discussing....love your mother hun....hugs  |
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Date: 8/9/2003 2:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 61646
Doesn't seem like u trust your mom very much either if you listen in on her convos...*second-hand rose* |
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Date: 8/9/2003 2:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 56297
I DIDNT LISTEN TO HER CONVERSATION!!!!!! re read the post god! I just checked the phone to see if anyone was on cuzz i needed the net and i heard her say it before i hung up.....sheez! |
Date: 8/24/2003 9:46:00 AM
From Authorid: 35720
I go through the same crap.. my mom tells me she "won't tell anyone" and then I overhear her telling my Aunt or Grammy!! I'm like "HELLO?" lol  |
