Date: 7/24/2003 9:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 20956
I am still friends with my ex, BUT you have to make sure that you both ONLY WANT FRIENDS, especially if you are in another relationship. For example, my current boyfriend was aware that i was still friends with my ex. They knew each other and everything was cool. But then my ex started acting strange and was telling me he wanted me back, etc. My bf had already picked up on the fact that my ex had feelings for me alot sooner than i did. My bf was ok because he trusted me but it obviously made him feel a little weary and protective over me when my ex was all over me and stuff. I made it very clear and my ex has since backed off. Couldnt have been a lot worse if my bf wasnt so cool ~ i couldnt have lost the love of my life over an ex. Definatley not worth it  |
Date: 7/24/2003 9:17:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 24319
SA, I totally know what you are talkin about. When I first spilt with my ex, it was Soooo hard to talk to him and not have all those emotions come slap me in my face. So what I did was (after taking some good advice from my friend bb  ) I decided not to talk to him till I knew I was over him and when I talked to him I wouldn't feel the pain of not being with him. I had to think about things. I KNEW that if I ever wanted to get back with him, he would get back with me in a heartbeat. However, we both were goin in seperate directions with different idea's on what we wanted. Then, one day I talked to him and... Nothing.. there was no strong love feelings, there wasn't any pain. And now we are great friends who talk on a regular basis. And other guys that I date or get to know, i let them know that he is a very good friend and always will be. We don't want to be anything more then just friends. And if they have a problem with that, well, they know where the door is. lol  |
Date: 7/24/2003 9:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 56840
For me, my situation's just about like yours.. But I don't know if I could stand being friends with him after, though.. Because I know I have deep feelings for him that'll take a while to come out. But missing him in the meantime, while not speaking to him is awful.. Though, he asked for the space to think..so I am honoring his wishes. I'm not exlaining everything about my situation, I know, but your post set something off so I had to reply with something.. I just hope that if I do not end up with the guy, there will be closure. Because I wouldn't be able to stand it if I didn't have that. Anyway, thanks for reading my rambling. Take care,  |
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Date: 7/24/2003 9:59:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 24319
I think when the other person asks for space to think and such it is possibly harder then just breaking up with someone. The first time me and my ex split he wanted "time" and of course me being a hot head when I get upset I just ended it with him. I didn't want him to have the time to think while I sat around and wondered what was going to happen. So I ended it, it was hard, but I didn't think about whether it was going to continue after he had his "time" and I healed and triend to move on. of course a couple of months later we were back together. My best friend is in a situation where she is still very good friends with her ex (her first love) and she still has feelings for him, but not sure how he feels, he is one who doesn't show much affection or talk about his feelings. She said something about soulmates and I told her, you could very well be the soulmates like Dawson and Joey and will end up with Pacey (from Dawsons creek, I know I am a dork! lol). I wish you luck, Lady |
Date: 7/24/2003 10:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
I agree with you, becaue for number one if you are truly friends with someone, you will respect their feelings...To me that would seem very awkward, & would steer clear of a friend's ex regardless of whether the friend was happily re married or not or wouldn't have a problem with it....Have a Great weekend!! T/C.....  |
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Date: 7/24/2003 10:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 48250
I was answering your question # 2 lol T/C..... |
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Date: 7/24/2003 10:48:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 24319
Thanks, Ky You have a good weekend too! |
Date: 7/24/2003 10:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
well.. yes it's possible to still be friends with an ex... i am still close frieds with my ex... and as for date a friends ex.. yes and no... you have to get permission FROM the friend first.... and if the friend says no... RESPECT THAT(i find it low and disgusting a friend dating thier ex and disrespecting thier feelings on the issue)  |
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Date: 7/29/2003 10:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 56840
Hey, just wanted to say, thanks for replying to me. In all truth, you helped me figure out some stuff! Take care, |
