Date: 7/22/2003 7:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 14780
It is sooo extremely hard to live and see what happens...Its truly a viscious disease...My thoughts and prayers are with her, you the friends and family..Stay Strong...  |
Date: 7/22/2003 7:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 23796
I can understand your heartache with your aunts "giving up" but you also need to look at things from her perspective. Maybe I have my own outlook because I currently have a Friend who is dying from 3 Forms of cancer. The Treatments are painful, long, and often unsuccessful. Many people experience faulse hopes, thinking they'll be spared and feel devistated when treatment fails. Your Aunt also has much Grief she has to work through, give her the time to work through it. After she deals with her own grief and trauma she may chose to get treatment. Guilt isn't anything she needs right now, your unconditional love is. I hope all turns out well for your aunt.  |
Date: 7/22/2003 7:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34865
thank you katsho and lady shamon, i'm not trying to guilt her, i know that the treatments are painful and that maybe she knows what she is doing, but i'm scared. do u think i should give her the poem or would it be too depressing for her?  |
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Date: 7/22/2003 7:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 23796
Intuitivly, I think maybe the poem isn't ment for her at this time. They'll be a time for when she's ready for it. I feel, for some reason, you will know instinctively when that time is. |
Date: 7/22/2003 7:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
well unfortunately you have to ask yourself with a case like this is it worth the quality of life?? if your are doing nothing but treatments and getting a horrible backlash(making you nutten but sick) is it really worth it for a few extra weeks??  |
Date: 7/22/2003 10:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 17014
If the treatments no longer relieve any form of the cancer and there is nothing more that can be done, it's her choice. Support is the key. As for the eating-- with the types of treatment and meds that she's taken, she may not taste very well anymore and nothing may seem very good....  |
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Date: 7/23/2003 7:18:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34865
thank you everyone for replying, i just there was something i could do to make her better |
Date: 7/24/2003 7:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 38256
O Christine I'm so sorry! I know you love your Aunt and want her to be healthy but if the treatments aren't working there's nothing you can do but spend as much time with her as possible. That's the thing about cancer you seem perfectly healthy until you start treatment, maybe if she knows it won't help her she wants to at least feel healthy. I hope they do find something that can help! Remember you can always talk to me if you need to! Love ~ your bestest bestest friend ~  |
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Date: 7/24/2003 7:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 38256
btw, really really good poem i think you should give it to her. It would really mean a lot for her to know how much you care. |
Date: 7/24/2003 7:40:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 34865
thank you erica  |
