Date: 7/20/2003 8:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 36994
I would say if you want me out of your sight, quite acting childish, these things belong to your daughter already, let them know that you can't take back a gift you gave, thats a big no no, letting them keep the stuff or not keep it will result the same because they don't want to see her there no more, I hope everythings works out for you, your daughter, and father/mother in laws.Good night._-_->  |
Date: 7/20/2003 8:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 36950
I wouldn't email anyone anything, I go over myself and get the things that belong to my kid. Grandma and Grandpa would also be told thank you for taking care of her things, I will let my daughter know in the future NOT to leave her things at other peoples homes. This is assuming that the child is underage. If she is older than 17-18 she needs to deal with this on her own, and do so in a respectful manner. Why doesn't she want to see her grandma anymore, all families have fights, but they can overcome them. Maybe she doesn't need to go over so often but she still needs to see them.  |
Date: 7/21/2003 12:45:00 AM
From Authorid: 26452
I would go over there and talk to them, they cant do that, they GAVE those things to her as a GIFT they're here property!  |
Date: 7/21/2003 7:43:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Well the only reason why I say I would email him is os it does not turn out t be an argument I can get all my feelings about this out in a calm rational manner without him yelling at me and without any cursing or name calling and without saying something I would regret because I am angry. If I were to confront him directly I know how it would go I would tell him what I think he would get angry and he would curse me out like he did my daughter. I know in my mind that those things were given to her as gifts but for some reason they dont feel the same I guess a gift can only be kept so long as you are in their good graces.  |
Date: 7/21/2003 8:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
I remember my grandparents doing the same thing when I was a child! They wanted me to leave all of the gifts they had bought me at thier house so I would have something to play with when I was there. Thats just the way it was back then, I didnt mind though because when I was there at least I would have stuff to do...Just let that part of it go, but the next time she goes over to see them dont let her take any toys over there since she already has some there. But I would address the issue of grand dad yelling at her and scaring her. You should tell them that by thier actions they are pushing her away, and that she is her own person and if she dont want to go over there she doesnt have to! Tell them to stop making a big deal about it because all they are doing is pushing her further and further away. And besides, you dont want her to feel bad for any of this because its not her fault and she should not be made to feel it is. You should tell them this to thier face too.  |
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Date: 7/21/2003 8:34:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
And the gift thing should apply to only the ones they personally have bought for her not anyone else like a cousin aunt or whatever. I think you should stand up to them. |
Date: 7/21/2003 1:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 21203
Me?...I wouldn't let ANYONE talk to my children that way. NO ONE... I wouldn't let a stranger, let alone a family member hurt my child with words or fists. All the things are materialistic and can be replaced. If the items CAN be replaced...then live an let live. I know sometimes we like to add "fuel to the fire"...just be careful this "fire" doesnt get out of control! illy  |
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Date: 7/21/2003 1:44:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Exactly I was going to go back in last night when she came out but we were in a hurry we had to be somewhere by 9 and it was already 8:45. I told my husband and my daughter to stay outside that I was going to go in and tell him he had no right to yell at her. My daughter stopped me though she said "Mom dont worry about it lets just go" I could tell she was upset though. |
Date: 7/21/2003 10:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 17156
First I would call the cops they can escourt you and your daughter over there to get her belongings. They will do it because that stuff is hers and they have no right to keep her from taking it home. I have to say I would cut contact, that would make me so freakin mad. I think as soon as he yelled at her I would have went off. I'm sorry that this happened all I can think is your poor little girl. Having her grandfather tell her he didn't want to see her again is wrong. You just do what you heart tells you to within the limits of the law  ol. Best of luck to you remind your daughter not the entire world is like this. Love and Hugs,  |
