Date: 6/30/2003 2:42:00 AM
From Authorid: 28946
Again, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's so hard on the children and you, for your sadness comes through the screen. My son's wife threw him out last week as she wanted to be single again. She kept everything and only gave him one outfit of clothes. The children they have are devastated and they are almost 3 and 5 years old. I watch my boy cry because his world has changed and he misses his children as he was was always with them. I think your children will be better off staying with you because of the stability and because you are just a short distance away at work. I wish I could say something to offer comfort for you and your children but only time can help heal this terrible pain you all have. I'm so sorry.  |
Date: 6/30/2003 3:39:00 AM
From Authorid: 30747
Wow this is tough but it sounds like your handling it wonderfully and I admire that. I really think you, the wife and kids need to sit down and discuss this. In my opinion your daughter should remain with you to continue in the school she's in. That sounds like the best situation for her all around. She will come to understand eventually. Kids adapt faster then we think. But perhaps she could spend more quality time with her mom to ease the pain a little. Things like this are never easy on a kid but sometimes the hardest lessons in life are the ones that make us the better person for it. She'll be alright. Best of luck to you.  |
Date: 6/30/2003 6:57:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 27360
Thank you Penny and SoulDrifter for the response. Penny I hope your sons wife like minerealizes that love and family are what matters. Soul those sound like some wise words. thanks  |
Date: 6/30/2003 8:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
Maybe the 6 yr old is scared that she will never see her mom anymore, so, maybe if you and your wife can work it out, you guys could make sure that the mom spends more time with the kids and comes over to visit as well as taking them over there to see her more. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this, I can only imagine how hard this must be...Just keep your head up and try to make the best of the situation. Take Care!  |
Date: 6/30/2003 8:22:00 AM
From Authorid: 15228
How sad! I think Aqua Rose said it the best. Hopefully your wife can come over most nights and on weekends to make it easier on your little girl. Divorce (or seperation) is never easy on children. Some children seem to handle it better than others. I know, I was your daughters age when my parents divorced. I still get a sick feeling just thinking about it. Have you considered some kind of counseling for all of you?  |
Date: 6/30/2003 8:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 54987
Sounds like you got it taped. Your daughter finds it hard to understand. Whatever you do, don't didrespect her mother (I'm sure you're not that type) because if you do it will have far reaching consequences for your children. Let the mother have visits, keep her informed of the children. Falling out of love happens and I won't judge as everyone has their stories and, given the same circumstances, it could happen to any of us. It is sad that your little daughter was there to see her Mom leave. Such things can leave an indelible scar on a child. I wish you well.  |
