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Date: 6/28/2003 9:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
ah....I hate that spoiled brat deal....had to deal with it myself....anyway my only real suggestions....don't let grams buy them a bunch of stuff...maybe get yourself a part time job that way it won't look like everything is handed to ya...  |
Date: 6/28/2003 9:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 28767
I duno what to tell you. I had to work for everything I have. Even my new car. My parents had money, they just made me pay for everything I have. What i suggest, if you think your spoiled quit telling people you think you are. And just do stuff for your self, and except what you have. Peace Out..  |
Date: 6/28/2003 9:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 13119
Didn't you do a post similiar to this before about your "friends". Dump them all and start fresh.  |
Date: 6/28/2003 9:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
lol i dont tell them Im spoiled, in fact i never bring up money or anything. I'm a music girl, I love music so thats what I talk bout  . I do try to stop grandma's spoilings but trust me getting this woman to take away her rotary phone and put in a cordless was EASIER then convincing her to quit giving me money. That sounds like im taking it with an argument, but this woman will buy me stuff whether i have a say or not thats what her *care packages* were about. To get a job I need to drive, to drive i need to get my permit this week, i'm working on it lol... Magoo your right, Katie (the friend who was here) has been mentioned before, so has Mandy but i didnt know she used me until it was to late  ...I still dont know the truth on a lot of that and it super hurts because there was a guy involved... Thanks for your help guys.  |
Date: 6/28/2003 9:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 29262
OMG! If I was down there they would be yelled @. It makes me mad cuz I hate bullies. they are not real friends. Just say You know what I don't like to be used and I don't need you around. Go find another flunkie. Then find friends who like you for you. Dont give them anymore money.  Hope everything works out.  |
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Date: 6/28/2003 9:32:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
aww thanks. I did get Mandy out of my life, very throughly. Katie always seems to get me to be her friend again....i hate myself for that....well im done with her after this week i spent with her. |
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Date: 6/29/2003 12:13:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
I don't think your an uptight spoilt brat. I do come from a family that is not rich but we do well I am the only child so I get alot of stuff. And yeah I know how anoying it can be when people think your an uptight snob. I am not a people person also so I seem a bit rude snoby or shy but hey I am just not good with people. Do not make your self look rich could be one thing Like I am not saying you go around hey everyone look at all this money clouths I have got. Just watch out ok cus I use to know this girl who would only act nice when she wanted something. Me and a friend got bagged out because we both come from ok familys some people get jelious though even though I am not rich or uptight or a snob. i can hurt I know for me being conccidered snobby and uptigght Is fadding away. I know it can hurt for people to judge a book by it's cover. try and stay away from these people and maybe even say i have not got any money on me today or sorry I need to save it for after school Like just don't give them money or anything but try not to look uptight about it because your not uptight. Hope these people leave you alone. *Cosmic Freak*  |
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Date: 6/29/2003 12:29:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
thanks Cosmic Freak. Now a days the only one who mooched money off me was Katie, and I'm getting rid of her for good! Seriously I need to do it... At this new school the only friend I really made (i.e. someone who would talk to me outside of school n go hang out with me) was Mandy. I had about 3 girls who will talk to me occasionally outside of school, but in school they usually weren't in my schedule or classes so yeah it did me no good :/... I only talk to 1 of those girls occasionally online now. I say to heck with it I'm gonna be home schooled! I guess the only way I looked rich was that I had a lot of clothes n jewlery, but jeesh none of it was really RICHY ya know? I shop at Claires, Icing, Hot Topics, AE, Gadzooks, so forth...notin the average teen dont shop at around these parts. I think half the problem is my size. Its almost like if your not a size 11 you should be shopping at Wal Mart and you'll be osterized either way so your danged if you do danged if you dont... I give up with teenagers I really do! |
Date: 6/29/2003 6:33:00 AM
From Authorid: 53961
I have heard it said, be the kind of person you want to find in a friend yourself and you will find people who share your interests and ideals. Don't bend to peer pressure. Be your own kind of person and be an honest, compassionate one at that. It is not the QUANITY of friends that you have that is important; it is the QUALITY. I have fought with weight, money and moral issues all my life. My TRUE friends (and I have very few I can call TRUE) accept me no matter what my size, bank account balance or past. Good luck!  |
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Date: 6/29/2003 6:52:00 AM
From Authorid: 53961
I just ran across this and thought about you and others who are searching for acceptance: "Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. The remarkable thing is, we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude." from Strengthening Your Grip by Charles Swindoll |
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Date: 6/29/2003 11:11:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
aww thanks Paula. When I came to this new school I tried so hard ya know to be myself, to be nice to people, to not be shy....but apparently it didnt work |
Date: 6/29/2003 4:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
it is very unfortunate that you have to go throught this(dude hey you actually paragraphed!!*L*) people are looking at you and wanting to be spoiled... you have to be careful with who you befriend money can equal power to alot of people... highschool is almost like showing another person up in fashion make-up personal belongings(you get the idea) become independant.. i know you like to sing... join a club of two... a small theatre group might be alot of fun... who says you need to drive to get everywhere... cab it or bus it or walk... i walked to and from work every day for 2 years before i moved to a larger town where i could actually get a bus to work(grr my internet connection is going flippy i'll try and write more when it's better)  |
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Date: 6/29/2003 4:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
OK GOT a working connection on the laptop now lets see if i can get used to this(oy this is wierd!!) ok, you should start telling people when they ask to borrow money that you have none or your broke or you don;t have any to spare... when you wave a wallet around people will come running thinking "hey i wanna get a peice of that" and that is sort of what has been happening they are taking advantage of your good will(i've been screwed by people in my lifetime too your not the only one) i have been in your situation before... no friends and the friend who are there you wonder if they are actually your friends... you wanna know what i ended up doing?? i ended up going to school just for the sake of the classes and left the first moment i could to get away.... school was like a workplace i came in did the job and left... i didn't socialize heck i didn't fit in... i hung around with adults(people who were already outta high school) and spent alot of time working on personal hobbies and online high school was hell... so i only was there when i needed to be... i tuned out people... when i left highschool i had a few aquantances but not really any real friends... and i don't look back.... i moved away the first chance i could get and honestly now... after everything what has been said about me and how horrid people treated me i'm still me... i figured out who i am.. and refused to let those kids change it...i have a life now and no one can change that... no one can take it away from me... |
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Date: 6/29/2003 4:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
if you ever want to talk... just message me... i'm usually always around... people have told me i have had a few intersting life experinces... and remember you can't change how people act towards you... but you can change how you act towards them |
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Date: 6/29/2003 4:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
aww thanks Midnightly. Lol Paula helped me paragraph . Hehe a taxi/bus would be highly expensive because to work I'd need to be about 40 minutes away... I did join choir at my new school but thats where mandy and all her friends and then the uppity freshmen are... Trust me minus who I thought were my friends choir wouldn't have been good for me. I remember one day when Mandy wasnt there (it was toward the end of the school year) some girls who sat behind me took my magickal almanac which had a note to a guy I liked in it, when i wasnt looking and they read it and the note! I wouldnt have known except I turned around in time to see them slip it back, and then they had the NERVE 10 minutes later to ask me who John was! Other instances were I wore a shirt that was a butterfly neck shirt (its like a v neck and it had a ring in the cleavage where it tyed together, it was like a tshirt cut that way) and every other girl told me that was nasty and eww and stuff (though it didnt show anything and I'd worn it many times before to school, only difference was I had a colored bra on that day.) *sighs* so yeah the *theatrical and musical* people at this school dont fancy me... |
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Date: 6/29/2003 4:25:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
ehhe oopsy added before u rereplied...lemme read now |
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Date: 6/29/2003 4:30:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
ohh Midnightly im sorry people treated you like that! I dont have an open wallet lol so to speak, the money usuing thing that usually happens comes from my *friends* like they'll come over or invite me over or go somewhere and thats where my money nowadays gets taken. Its like their your *friend* and sometimes friends do things for each other its just I never have any favors returned to me, I can give and treat them good and they never even barely invite me over. My *friend* Katie has been my friend since I was 9....I'm 16 now and I have been over to her house about 4 times and never spent the night. I think things like that speak numbers... I cant wait to get out of here I really cant... |
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Date: 6/29/2003 5:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
find a personal hobby... a nice quiet area to work on your singing.. pick up a camera and do some photography vollenteer just do anything you can to be away from the people at school... school isnt your only place to be.... there are other places.... a small theatre group(non-school related) i looked at school as a workplace i went did my classes and left(heck like you sould at college) i read alot and got into books.. met a BF who was in college.. everyone made fun of him and was rude to him when he picked me up... but hey i'm still with him... i didn't listen and didn't respond to what those kids had to say... i well i outgrew them.. and i think they didn't like that... but it's a good thing to do... |
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Date: 6/29/2003 5:40:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
awww. From what I know of this town unless its church related it dont exist ... i dont think they have a theatre group outside of school, hehe Im not good with photos *reminds herself her moms bf needs to fix her camera* I think right now I dont know what I'll do... This is Iowa there isnt many singing things that arent church or school related...I dunno.... |
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Date: 6/29/2003 6:53:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
maybe you could see about some form of exchange program or find a relitive in a larger town in more of a diverse area....i think you would get along great in an area like mine.... very diverse and always things happening |
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Date: 6/29/2003 7:31:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 15675
aww Midnightly thats what I tried. I came from that town of 11,000 hick farmers and I moved 5 hours away to my grandparents. They live in a town a little smaller then that but its more diverese, and 30 mins away from this town is about like 4 big (well Iowa big lol) cities... So yeah this is as good as its gonna get. When I was 13 I always looked to 16 as the big #. I was gonna drop out and be free. I still want to do that but my family wants me to be homeschooled. School is a very soar area for me. Like you say it was like a job you just do and get out of there. But to me its an extra slap in the face no matter what I do because I always get screwed over friend wise and now Im 16. Next year is prom, and a whole bunch of dances and formals (we didnt have those at my old school.) Then the year later is senior prom and graduation. I've done less in my life then my 14 year old sister and it really rubs me wrong but its like i can try tell im blue in the face it dont matter. I decided earlier this year that hey I got awhile I'm just gonna go slow with music. But now I feel maybe just try harder at it, ignore everything else. To me its like I wanted a teen life and Im just not gonna have it and Im outta places to go .... |
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Date: 6/30/2003 12:05:00 AM
From Authorid: 62146
Don't worry I am like you in some ways because the people at my school treat me bad and their is no where for me to go. I do not have a huge scoile life although I do not want alot of friends and partys I just want good friends. And yeah their is a formal comeing up at my school and no one is going to ask me to go with them I do not want BF but still it is kinda disapointing. People just don't like me I don't really like people after the way I have been treted but people say I am still nice to others because I just don't want to be like all thoughs that treat me bad. And yeah their are some people younger that have done more scoily than me. I am not commpareing us by the way. But You can still Message me if you ever want to talk Queen Crazy. *Cosmic Ffreak* |
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Date: 6/30/2003 10:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i know the feeling school was hell.. the only dance i went to... was my senior prom... with my BF(who i might add i'm STILL WITH!) don't participate in all the "school stuff" i just did the work and left... and had practically a full time afterschool job just to keep me occupied... i figured i wanted to get out and what i wanted to do with my life...don't keep looking for excuses look for loopholes and ways to further yoruself... have you figured what you want to do as a future(other then singing... you gotta have some sort of backup... i'd love to be a photographer... but i need a day job to keep myself from going into debt) |
Date: 7/5/2003 2:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 31048
Awwww...you're not odd at all! You sound like me in a lot of ways. I'm probably one of the biggest spoiled brats you'd ever meet in your life...I could wear a different shirt everyday for the next 3 years, lol. I'm guessing you've lived in a lot of places with kids that had to make their own money and pay for everything themselves. Even if you're friends with people like that, they'll always have some resentment towards you because they envy you. They never got anything handed to them on a silver platter, they had to work their butts off for it. I guess the only solution is to find friends that are just as spoiled as you! Hehe...oh yeah, and I pretty much had to have my Barbies pried from me with a crowbar. I LOVED those things...I had 34 different Barbies and they all had special names that I'd made up for them. Anyways, I just wanted to you to know that you're not odd and you're not alone Good luck   |
Date: 7/5/2003 5:17:00 PM
From Authorid: 18516
Yeah I had that spoiled label when I was younger in school..mainly because I am an only child 'so when your an only child your automatically spoiled' <~~(I think thats how the people in school thought of kids who had no sibs) But I won't lie I am spoiled. lol Those kids are not the kinda people you want as friends. Number one rule do not give your money to your friends...(unless it was an emergency) a true friend does not use you! I'd rather be a loner than to hang out with these people your talking about. Do something after school to keep you busy..like volunteer or get a part time job.  |
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