Date: 6/17/2003 5:26:00 PM
From Authorid: 41067
Have you tried talking to her about it, and showing her the note you found? It might help her to open up to you if she feels that you already know about it.  |
Date: 6/17/2003 5:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
I would just ask her if she was okay. And remind her that you will always be there for her if she ever needed anything. You know, the regular mommy stuff...I'm sure she'll be okay. Just hang in there!  |
Date: 6/17/2003 5:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 47113
i think probably the only thing you can do is be there for her if she decides to open up...just let her know your there if she needs to talk about anything because you love her and you just want her to be happy,then i'd leave it at that... otherwise if you pry too much, she may become alittle rebellious...remembering my teenage days, i always went through stages of hating my life to loving it again...but if theres one thing i hated,was my mom trying to get me to talk about things i wasn't ready to share with her yet...of course i'm no expert, but sometimes it helps to remember our teen days and all the times we wanted to avoid our parents and all went through stages of hating our life...i hope all goes well for you...sometimes you have to let teenages work things out for themselves until they ask for help...  |
Date: 6/17/2003 5:28:00 PM
From Authorid: 61782
I think these days teenagers tend to hold a lot of things from their parents (Me being one of them). Be careful, she may not like the fact that you found that paper. If you do approach her, just calmly tell her you found the paper and that you think you two should talk. Just take it one step at a time. It may not be as bad as you think...but then again it can so be prepared. I never liked it when my parents would force me to do things like go to couseling so that may not be the way to go. Suggesting would be good but if she doesn't like it then drop the subject. Hopefully if she's not talking to you, then she's talking to a friend or friends about it, which is not a bad thing. As long as she's letting it out somehow. Best wishes~  |
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Date: 6/17/2003 5:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 61782
Yeah AH is right, prying isn't very good. I ALWAYS hated that. |
Date: 6/17/2003 5:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 15228
Teenagers!! I went through the same thing with my daughter several months ago. We knew our moving had been hard on her, but when we found a note left out in the OPEN saying she wanted to take her own life....I can't tell you what that did to her Dad and I. We called the school counseler since she was at school at the time and he pulled her into his office and talked to her. We learned that sometimes kids that age are overly dramatic and overstate things..leaving the note for us to clearly find also meant she wanted us to know how she was feeling. Things have improved a lot since than, but I NEVER want to find anything like that again for as long as I live. Talk to your daughter, she probably wants to since she left the note out in plain sight.  |
Date: 6/17/2003 5:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 13897
oh nooo... ok if one thing you shouldn't do, is mention the paper. seriously.. i would feel so exposed if my mom told me that. and i'd feel like i was in trouble. that is hell. i just agree with ReleaseMe and AngelinesHeart.. tell her that you are there for her and that you care about her. I know as a teen, i go through things like this. i think it's really natural.  |
Date: 6/17/2003 5:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 28125
Well I would ask her about the note...don't make her talk though...that'd be putting pressure on her...she might just be going thru something...just let her know that you care about her and want her to feel good about herself...I will pray for the both of you...especially your daughter...maybe get her a little gift to show her that she's loved...hope this helps...Love and Hugs...ICL~*~*~*~  |
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Date: 6/17/2003 6:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 15228
I have to disagree with some of the others..She left the note out in the open, you weren't snooping. If she didn't want you to see it, it wouldn't have been where you could easily find it. I really do think she wants to talk to you, she may even act mad that you read her note, but in reality she will be relieved. If she is a senior, maybe she is worrying about what to do with her future. |
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Date: 6/17/2003 6:27:00 PM
From Authorid: 41067
Its always possible that she left the note there for you to find on purpose, if she has been hiding it from you and didn't want you to know she would be more careful with what she left lying around. |
Date: 6/17/2003 7:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 8278
it's really hard being a teen. i would just ask her about it and see what she says. she may confide in you if you ask her in a calm manor. tell her you love her and want her to be happy and hate to think she is having problems. let her know that you are always there if she needs you. best of luck too you.  |
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Date: 6/17/2003 9:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 47113
i think CAGE said it all in a nut shell...if you really are worried about the note, just ask her in a calm manner...if she wants to talk about it she will..if not, she'll know your there for her if she needs you...like kelly and some of the others, she could have left the note there on purpose...but of course if she doesn't want to talk about it, i would then definetaly leave it at that and make sure there aren't more serious signs...good luck and god bless... |
Date: 6/17/2003 9:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 56489
First question do you always go in her room on a regular basis? If so she knows you do right there for if she didn't want you to know she would have hid the paper. If you snooped to find it that's different but if it was left out in the open well ask about it, but it all depends onthe question I asked. Good luck!  |
47508 Category:(General Advice) Created:(6/17/2003 5:16:00 PM)