Date: 6/9/2003 9:32:00 PM
From Authorid: 36704
You're not just a backup crush, try not to compare yourself to her, you're two different people. There's always going to be people who are prettier than you, that's life and there's nothing you can do about it, looks aren't everything.  |
Date: 6/9/2003 9:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 19625
All of my best friends are like, 10 million times Prettier than me. It makes me jealous sometimes, but then I realize that it's probably not as great as it seems. Being amazingly beautiful seems like it'd be great, but my friend is (and she knows it) and I've seen her cry so many times because the guys that like her only like her for her looks. Guys will ask her out cuz they think she's hott, go out with her for a while, then when they figure out they're not gonna get what they want from her, they dump her. She's gotten her heart broken so many times, it's horrible, and that's when I realize being pretty isn't all it's cracked up to be. She's the sweetest person ever, but she can never trust guys because she always assumes their intentions are the same. I just hope you can build up your confidence about yourself, and realize that just cuz you think your friend is prettier than you, doesn't mean she's better than you. Good Luck! Erin-  |
Date: 6/9/2003 9:39:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 61472
yeah but guyz like her for her looks AND her personality =/  |
Date: 6/9/2003 9:42:00 PM
From Authorid: 24924
Jealousy and envy destroys lives and relationships and friendships. Stop concentrating on just how someone LOOKS; or how you LOOK. Several of my best and long time friends are wonderful, loving and very intelligent and popular; adored by many people, but they are not physically attractive. By the same token, I have had some drop dead gorgeous people enter my life throughout the years who were very selfish and SHALLOW. Concentrate on doing the best you can with what YOU have, and making yourself ; the REAL you, inside yourself, attractive; and therefore it WILL make you beautiful to others as well.  |
Date: 6/9/2003 9:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 16845
Just be yourself and don't worry about the guys she has falling at her feet.....odds are they ARE just there for her looks and WHY would anyone want someone who is only with them for looks? it's shallow.  |
Date: 6/9/2003 9:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 48689
I know how you feel..my best friend is gorgeous and all the guys I like like her! I haven't really done anything about it..  |
Date: 6/9/2003 10:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 13897
well said, Thinker! author- focus on yourself and what makes you a good person.  |
Date: 6/9/2003 10:36:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
your used to people flocking to you and now they are flocking to her... your very vain!! all you care about is how you look... sorry i'm not being more sugar coated but i don't think i should... i think you need to really look inside yourself and see how ugly being this way is... you should really stop comparing yourself and stop trying to be what your not and accept who you are.. if you want to change... change... stop complaining and pouting about someone else... she has "improved herself" why don't you  |
Date: 6/9/2003 10:39:00 PM
From Authorid: 53558
I agree with the thinker, Honey Bubbles. Great big hugs. Take care.  |
Date: 6/10/2003 6:35:00 AM
From Authorid: 55126
I know how you feel. Soooo many of my friends are beautiful. But try to avoid comparing yourself to your friend. Everyone has something of beauty in themselves. If you stop concentrating on her and focus on yourself, your own beauty will POP, lol. Much love. -Ozzychick  |
Date: 6/10/2003 8:32:00 AM
From Authorid: 62184
I'm in the situation with my friend. She's so much prettier than i am. You really shouldn't be comparing yourself to anyone, because you're who you are and you can't change that. It's easier said than done, i know, i'm still working on that part. Just focus on what makes you who you are. And don't focus on all the guys liking your friend, cuz like what others have said.. the guys are shallow and usually only go for looks. ~EndlessDreamer~  |
Date: 6/10/2003 7:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 21912
deal with saying to yourself looks aren't everything. No one is better than anyone, if the guys are going for her looks then they're just shallow. Just because she seems like she's got it all does mean she does...maybe deep down she feels like she's in a worse situation. I think it's a part of life though with friends, i thought that way very often. I was jealous and compared a lot but i always kept quiet. Till this day i still compare but then i think i like who i am and we don't all have to look like her. Just think u have ur own great personality and you are who are. it's what makes u different.  |
Date: 6/10/2003 9:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 48279
I think everyone has that friend. I have a friend just like that. If she doesnt like the guys, then they come on to me. I get her left overs .. even my ex boyfriend use to tell me she was so "hott" and thats when me and him were together! I know it can be so frustrating, but you need to know and you need to brand this into your head that no one is better than you. Your beautiful in your own way, and any guy who doesnt see that is not worth it. The guy you fall in love with will think your hott, and she not soo cute. My boyfriend who i am with right now, and probably for the rest of my life thinks im am so beautiful, and thinks that friend of mine is cute, but not that cute. He doesnt see what all the fuss is about. You'll find that guy ... you just have to be patient. But dont let yourself think that she is better than you ... she isnt. Ever need to talk message me. ~Hereisanameforyou  |
Date: 6/11/2003 2:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 6050
Midnightly has a very good point of view...Your friend did improve herself, so i believe that she deserves the attention she is getting now, there's no sense in whimpering over it...go and make yourself over..find something else to think about...it may seem that the whole world just revovles around this one person right now..everyone has their own time of glory..let her have hers..with a little patience and confidence..you shall have yours too. If it makes you feel better..go find yourself some ugly friends..but, with this way of thinking that you have right now..you're tarnishing your inner beauty and that's what is important isn't it?  |
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Date: 6/11/2003 2:12:00 PM
From Authorid: 6050
I had a friend that i grew up with since kindergarten. i'm tall, brunette, and brown eyed..she was petite, blonde, and blue eyed...she would throw literal fits, saying how i'm so beautiful and how she's not..and i always looked at her strangely because, hello!!! she's blonde and blue eyed and very attractive, if i could i would've traded places in a heartbeat...for years she always fussed over the same non-sense..it drove me nuts..because, i never really let anything like that go to my head..i didn't think i was beautiful..all i wanted to be was her darn friend...all i'm saying is..this behavior is not only annoying it's pointless..if she just would've walked around with her head held high and atleast pretend as if she didn't feel this way..i would've been extremely envious of her..another odd thing was..she always had the boyfriends..and i was always the single one..but, man did i pay for that!! she would accuse all of her b/f's of wanting me! ugh!! so now she's living with a guy that she has been with for years..and i don't visit her all that much anymore for fear that i might get verbally attacked..lol..it's sad..but, for my own sake i try to avoid the situtation and she has begged for me to come around more often..but, i just can't do it..because i know what i'm in for..and i'm still single!!!! grrrrrrrrrrr |
Date: 6/11/2003 7:16:00 PM
From Authorid: 31048
I know how you feel...my friend Andrea is beautiful and I always feel so inferior next to her, lol. My picture on LSR's site is actually of me and her together if you wanna see, hehe  . I just wanted you to know that you're definitely not the only one to feel this way...I just chalk it up to that fact that my friend is prettier than EVERYONE, including me, and somehow that makes me feel better! Cheer up hon   |
