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Date: 5/29/2003 8:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 32193
i say date him.. if the loosk really bother u then break up with him lol.. the guy i use to like.. had the best personality... but he wasnt the hottest guy iv ever seen... but i know him alot so i started thinking he was gettin hotter and hotter LOL... now he's hott and i luv him to peices lol if anything ever happened to that boy i'd be so sad :-(  |
Date: 5/29/2003 8:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 36766
uhm, looks are not everything...give him a chance  |
Date: 5/29/2003 8:24:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28767
Yeah i know that buety lies within. BUt i duno. we'll see how it goes. Maybe i can pass his face and see his personlity. I think I already kinda am. Peace Out..  |
Date: 5/29/2003 8:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 24319
Holy cow! I was JUST (no lie, like 2 days ago) in the SAME situation. He was/is the sweetest guy around, but I can up you one on the mean scale, the REALLLLLY nice guys annoy the snot out of me. He always said "You're so pretty" "you're so cute" "I love that attitude you got going on". Now he wasn't NASTY looking, however, not my type. But I figured, what the hey, lets give it a shot. So I did.. I wasn't attracted to him at all, but I thought "maybe I could grow into it". I didn't, and as hard as it was, I had to tell him to hit the road. I felt bad, but I didn't want to lead him on, and later down the road when stronger feelings on his side came into play, hurt him even worst. BUT I did give it a try, it didn't work out, but at aleast I gave it a shot. I would say, give it a shot, if it doesn't work, then that's ok. You never know, you MIGHT just be passing up a good thing. But you'll never know if you don't try.  |
Date: 5/29/2003 8:29:00 PM
From Authorid: 53055
Give it a shot. Looks aren't everything, eventually they change. Personality doesn't. You find your significant other where you least expect to find him/her. Good luck to you.   |
Date: 5/29/2003 8:31:00 PM
From Authorid: 31765
It might be time to make a change in tactics. If you've always ended up with jerks that look pretty, maybe it's time to look a little deeper than the superficial. Hey, looks fade in time for even the most beautiful of people. A good personality only gets better in time. I would say go for it and see what happens. |
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Date: 5/29/2003 8:37:00 PM
From Authorid: 24319
Also, when you hang out with someone who, uh, maybe lacks in the looks department, and you really really like and enjoy his personality, you WILL look past his looks. I have done that many times. (not this last time, his personality irked me) |
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Date: 5/29/2003 8:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28767
HAHA yeah i think I"ll just see what happens. But i feel bad lol. Peace Out.. |
Date: 5/29/2003 9:15:00 PM
From Authorid: 61977
You know I think you will find the more you know him and the longer you do know him his looks may start to gat better, that has happened to me several times in life, the man I married I was not initially attracted to him not even in the least bit. I said HELL NO, now I am married to the man, go figure.  |
Date: 5/29/2003 9:35:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
My gut feeling is no, don't see if you can "get past his face". It may sound harsh or mean but accept honest feelings. I don't think I'm shallow but I would never just "settle" for someone because they are nice. They better "knock your socks off" or "rock your boat" whatever the cliche, but be honest with yourself and accept that as your answer. A graet looking guy can be nice too. Honestly, I can't see why people just don't admit that they have true feelings when it comes to whether they are attracted to someone based on looks. I don't care how nice a guy is, if he is hugely overweight, has poor hygiene, nasty teeth, and disgusting looks, I woud run for the hills. If he is ugly to you now, regardless of how nice he is, why would you want a relationship? Friends can be friends but you don't have to marry him.  |
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Date: 5/29/2003 9:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
LOL, sorry about the spelling errors. I wrote fast and furious though because I DO NOT believe for a second anyone can be happy with someone they are not physically attracted to. Why even bother? |
Date: 5/29/2003 9:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
he sounds like a great guy... either give it a chance or stop leading him on...personally looks fade... i would rather have a guy who treated me like a princess any day then a guy what flows sexuality... i find guys who arn't all hot to trot thems to be more attentive and charish thier women to peices  |
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Date: 5/29/2003 9:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
truthfully... if the relationship is a long term one you can tweek a few little physical things... buy a shirt here and there play with his hair... don't set out to change him though... i admit i did this with my BF.... but everything i changed made people go dang!!!and i have to admit he's quite a hottie*L* he just needed what i call updating |
Date: 5/29/2003 10:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 35114
Well, you shouldn't feel bad. There needs to be at least SOME attraction in a relationship. I dunno, I guess maybe one date wouldn't hurt. Maybe you could become attracted to him? It's possible.  |
Date: 5/29/2003 10:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 26452
Outer beauty fades, but inner beauty is forever. Why not give it a try?  |
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Date: 5/29/2003 10:18:00 PM
From Authorid: 12341
You are twenty one, too young to worry about "faded beauty" blah, blah. If you are not attracted to him except as a friend don't settle. Nice people look good too. Sorry I really do not put down anyone but I don't think this relationship will work. Just the comment "if I can get past his face" is the answer. Be friends and whatever happens, happens. Nothing lost or gained. Friends can do things together, even friends of the opposite sex. Friendship can the beginning of just having a good friend, that's okay too. |
Date: 5/29/2003 10:40:00 PM
From Authorid: 11341
I was in this situation with a guy. At first I thought he was a bit strange, stuck up, self absorbed, and TOTALY not my type. Thank god he wasnt my type LOL. Weve been married 5 years now. Why dont you just be the guys friend? No rule saying you have to date someone to get to know them. Who knows you may find out somewhere down the road that he may not be your type, but that could be a good thing. Why do you think you are leading him on?  |
Date: 5/29/2003 10:47:00 PM
From Authorid: 57404
Go for it. You can't expect a guy to have every single quality you want in one person. Who knows after spending time with him, getting to know him and everything you may think he is the most handsome man alive. Let me tell ya.. As much as this sounds mean.. My husband isn't the best looking man around, but his heart and everything was so sweet and wonderful. I never thought I could be attracted to him. I learned really fast that looks weren't everything and what was in their heart was more important. I completely fell in love with him and who he was on the inside and the outside didn't mean anything anymore and I was attracted to him because I feel inlove with who he is and now I think he is the handsomest man around. :-) I need sleep.. I hope that made sense. LOL God Bless  |
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Date: 5/29/2003 10:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 11341
I guess I should add something. When I was single I would look at a man and tink would I want to have a child with him (as far as looks go) If the answer was no I didnt date him. Looks arent everything, but there has to be SOMETHING. Hubby may not be my type, but boy have we got some cute kids lol. |
Date: 5/30/2003 3:38:00 AM
From Authorid: 46527
The first time I actually saw my husband in the flesh (we met on the internet)I took one look and thought 'OMG! He is REALLY not my type, however after I had mentally slapped myself for being so shallow I decided to give it a chance....as we are now married you can see that it worked...LOL!  |
Date: 5/30/2003 7:06:00 AM
From Authorid: 58611
How can you like him alot but not be attracted to him at the same time? I would leave him alone, you will probably never "get past his face." And he doesnt deserve someone who kinda,but not really likes him. Dont lead him on, go and find someone you are really attracted to so there is no confusion even if he is a jerk.  |
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Date: 5/30/2003 10:57:00 AM
From Authorid: 46139
I'd have to say try going on one date with him and go from there.Trust what your heart is telling you, just maybe you can turn a frog into a prince(in your eyes).  |
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Date: 5/30/2003 2:19:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28767
OK this is what my conclusion came too. I am going to just "be friends" with him. I am not going to try to date him. I'l just see what happens. Maybe I can get passed his looks. We'll see. Peace Out.. |
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Date: 5/30/2003 9:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
It's ok don't feel asamed. Just see it like this if you are with someone for their looks then as the years go on the thing you love about them will fad away. If you are with someone for what you see with in then the thing you love about them will never fad away. Just love with your heart and not your eyes is what I am saying. May it all work out with this guy you like. *Cosmic Freak*  |
Date: 5/30/2003 9:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 6050
LOL..you talk like me..hehe...if it were me..this wouldn't be a problem..because i definately would date someone who had a great personality over a person who was gorgeous and lacking in that department..i believe it's the personality that draws you in and keeps you interested..i would chose brains over beauty any day..the only thing i think that would become a problem is if his personality were to change after you began dating..because that does tend to happen..jealousy might kick-in ect..In fact..you don't have to even date him..just be with him as long as you darn well please..I was a bit shallow thinking in high school..because everyone always focused in on that sort of stuff..but, once that's all done with and you're out in the vast community pety things like that don't matter or shouldn't matter..who cares if he got beat with an ugly stick..i suppose you can put it like this, what if you were with the most gorgeous man you could possibly be with, he was nice and everything, but not all that spectacular, and this average personality guy got into an accident and his face was disfigured..heck..what if he had an awesome personality..same scenerio..would you stay with him?If it's true love this shouldn't be that tough of a question..if you just loved him for his looks..then..uh oh..sorry...it's just something to think about.  |
Date: 5/31/2003 6:48:00 PM
From Authorid: 21912
well i dunno give him a chance, usually if it's meant to be a good relationship, you'll see pass the looks, they'll be attractive to you because of there personality. like i have to say my ex that i dated for 4 years, he wasn't the best looking even from the start i thought i would never date him but we became best friends and then i really liked him because of the way he was. a guys personality makes it so much more. i know guys that i thought were hot but then i found out they were jerks, and i didnt' think that anymore. they became ugly to me. so yeah give it a chance become good friends b4 maybe or just date and see that way if u dont ever become attracted, you don't really have to break it off.  |
Date: 5/31/2003 10:30:00 PM
From Authorid: 5252
it sounds like your heart is talking,you just wont listen...  |
Date: 6/1/2003 11:30:00 AM
From Authorid: 60395
give him a chance, how would you feel in 20 years wondering"maybe it would have worked"  |
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Date: 6/1/2003 6:40:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28767
Yea sometimes its just to complicated to do. But we hing out last night. And i had a lot of fun. So I am gona give him a chance. Peace Out.. |
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Date: 6/1/2003 6:41:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28767
And I also realize that I'm no miss. perfect either. So ya get what I mean. Peace Out.. |
Date: 6/2/2003 8:41:00 PM
From Authorid: 31048
Awwww, I know how you feel...to put it plainly, there's no point in dating someone you're not physically attracted to. BUT, before everyone thinks I'm shallow, sometimes it's not their looks that turn you off. I'm friends with this guy that's really sweet, and funny, and cute. But for some reason whenever he tries to get a little too friendly with me, I just get this icky feeling! I'm just not attracted to him at all...it's like he's secretly my brother or something! I can't figure it out. All I know is that I don't want to be ANYTHING more than friends. Anyways, have you ever met a guy that you didn't really find that attractive...but then you got to know him, and found out he was REALLY cool, and you got along so well...so then you started to see him as the hottest guy ever?? I do that all the time! Maybe that'll happen with this guy. Let us know how it works out  |
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Date: 6/2/2003 11:05:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 28767
Yeah i think thats startingt to kinda happen to me. But will see. Peace Out.. |
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