No Worries!!!!!!!!!.............Zema

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Have you ever lain in bed at night worrying about something? Money problems, your marriage, a work project, your kids or a friendship?

Everyone worries about something at some time. But some people worry about absolutely everything - that they might miss the bus the next morning, that the cat might be outside killing wildlife, what to cook for dinner tomorrow or even their friend's job interview. Before long they are worrying about worrying.

At the rare moment when their mind is at peace they will go through an anxious check for something to worry about: "What was it that was worrying me?"

Women are more likely to get caught in this trap than men, because men are better at blocking things out. People who worry a lot do not have more to worry about - rather, they are caught in a worrying habit. Breaking this habit involves a conscious and concerted effort. Here are a few things that can help:

1...List all the benefits and downsides of worrying. Does it offer you anything positive, or simply heartache and no real gain?

2...Those worries that are more serious should be shared with someone, because a worry shared is a worry halved.

3...Whenever you find yourself searching for things to worry about, visualise a red stop-sign, sing a song, pick up a magazine - do anything that distracts you.

4...Review the important things in life - the big issues like the health and safety of your family - to put your worries into perspective. Will the issue that is concerning you make any difference to your life in two years?

5...Look for positive ways to occupy your mind, like reading or becoming more involved with others. An active mind has less room for minor worries.

6...Take up yoga, meditation or relaxation. This increases your calmness and peace of mind.

7...Check out calming herbal treatments.

8...If there is a pattern to your worries, such as worrying about your health or how you interact with people, there may be an underlying issue that you need to uncover. See your local doctor if this is the case or if your worries just won't budge. Your doctor might prescribe anti-anxiety medication, but consider a referral to a psychologist ahead of a medicinal approach.

9...Remember that the worrying pattern will take time to shift. Approach it from a number of angles, including learning to calm your mind, dealing with any underlying reasons and managing the anxiety as it comes up...

FOOTNOTE:

I know myself from experience that at night when I go to bed, that is the time I do worry about different problems... and because I cannot sleep, I worry that I wont be able to function to the best of my ability the next day, because of lack of sleep...it just seems like a vicious circle....I'm trying to do what is suggested here...and maybe...just maybe...it may help you as well..



Luv and Peace....Zema

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