Date: 5/19/2003 3:59:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
So, are you still planning on getting married to the man who almost killed your son?  |
Date: 5/19/2003 4:07:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
Well, I am putting the marriage on hold until he cleans his act up, I told him that and that I told him if he doesn't straight up and this will be over.  |
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Date: 5/19/2003 4:09:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
I understand your point wildbob, he needs help lots of it and he already called the AA and called to make an appt with his doctor to request about the pills hat make him sick if he drinks. He said that Tyler could have been killed and that woke him up and he knew he did wrong. |
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Date: 5/19/2003 4:09:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
Good for you. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't have anything to do with him till he'd been straight and sober for at least a year. Even then, I think that your taking a serious risk both for your future and your sons' |
Date: 5/19/2003 4:13:00 PM
From Authorid: 28767
Maybe this is had to happend for him to get his butt in gear. I am so glad no one got killed. All i can say is I hope he gets on teh right track after this happend. He seems lucky to have someone like you. Peace Out..  |
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Date: 5/19/2003 4:14:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
Yeap, I know. I wouldn't want to marry a drunken like this. Whenhe woke up in hospital he asked for Tyler and was crying and was very upset about letting Tyler down. now he s in bedroom all day depressed so I think he finally realized he has a drinking problem and is going to do something about it. I am going to sit back and see. I would never let this happen again. |
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Date: 5/19/2003 4:15:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
Thank you Monkie. My family are his only family. His family doesnt really give a crap about him and he have alot of support from us. |
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Date: 5/19/2003 4:23:00 PM
From Authorid: 53284
I am really happy that no one was seriously hurt by his drinking. Hopefully this will be the jolt that he needed to stop drinking for good. |
Date: 5/19/2003 4:54:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
Honey..all the excuses in the world are NOT going to change the fact that this man could easily have killed himself and your son, along with other people because he chose to get behind the wheel drunk..Dont make excuses for him..by doing so, you are enabling him..He screwed up BIG time here..  |
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Date: 5/19/2003 5:05:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
Ladyluck, you are right he screwed big time, I definely agree with you. that is why i put the marriage on hold until he proves he will clean up his act. thanks for commenting. |
Date: 5/19/2003 5:34:00 PM
From Authorid: 53909
I'm so glad to hear that the accident wasn't anything worse. I'm glad that no one was killed, real glad. I really hope that your fiancee will get the help that he needs. This was one real bad screw up and maybe it will help him not to drink much or at all...at least behind the well. But I do hope that he will get enough help to stop drinking, I know after all those years, it will be reall yard but he needs a lot of help. Im glad that Tyler is okay and it will take him time to get back into cars and trucks and what not. Keep us posted.  |
Date: 5/19/2003 5:43:00 PM
From Authorid: 46069
.. Thank goodness your son was ok... i hope your fiance does get help and that this has been his "rock bottom".... he was lucky to be alive.... but he does need one heck of a slap.... i bet this will change your sons opinion about him.... especially when he is a little older and understands more about what happened  |
Date: 5/19/2003 6:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
Why wasn't he arrested? Not only was he drinking and driving which is against the law but he endangered the welfare of a minor also, which happens to be a felony. I mean at least I know here if you are driving down the highway speeding in your car and doing more than 15-20 miles over the speed limit and you get pulled over with your kids in the car you get arrested and charged with felony endangering the welfare of a minor. I cannot imagine that he was not arrested for the DWI let alone having a child in the car with him. I am glad that your son was okay and he just got a bump on his head. He will probably be nervous about getting into a car for a while that is normal and happens to adults alike that have had accidents.  |
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Date: 5/20/2003 8:46:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
this is his first offense for dui and he got one day of jail, and 300 dollars for fines. i know i dot know why he is not punished more than that. |
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Date: 5/21/2003 4:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 27046
Panther Lover I can understand first offense leniency, what I don't understand is first offense leniency with a child in the car. It just blows my mind that they didn't arrest him I guess. |
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Date: 5/21/2003 6:42:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
Az, I know! I was upset about that. I think it was probably because my son was wearing seat belt?? |
Date: 5/22/2003 5:47:00 AM
From Authorid: 27046
It's just that you still have to wonder IF he REALLY learned his lesson for the whole thing and seriousness of his actions. I have to say it's less likely to set in because the law didn't come down on him. You came down on him but he knows he just has to grovel and beg and he can fix all that. Everyone got mad him, slapped on the wrist and now he needs to spend some time sucking up. But there haven't been any real consequences? Ya know what I mean? Is just WHAT happened enough to remind him the next time he goes to pick up a drink of what he did and knock some sense into him that he CAN'T do that again. My sister is going through something similiar right now with her boyfriend..it's not a good situation to be in.. |
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Date: 5/24/2003 7:25:00 AM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
Az, Yeah i know what you mean. Josh has had many talks with Tyler and talked about how wrong he was and did. Promised him that he will change and He has been trying real hard and going well. He has not touched a drink for a week which is good start. He said that it is a mircale Tyler is alive and he tahnk god for that, and he promised him that he will be a better dad. I think this woke him up and that wants to clean up his act. |
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Date: 5/25/2003 9:31:00 AM
From Authorid: 27046
Panther I hope it works out for you. My sister just went through a domestic violence situation with her boyfriend who was drunk and beat her pretty severly about the head and face for a good hour. Of course she is taking him back and I don't think he has done enough to deserve her back. I think that if he truly loved her the morning after he got out of jail he would have been to an AA meeting and gone every day twice, three times a day, ya know what I mean? Or he would have walked into a rehab and said ya know what I need help and admitted himself into an alcohol program....he hasn't drank since but he did that before...he went two years without one drink...drank and beat her up..I dunno...it's a hard situation to deal with.. |
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Date: 5/25/2003 7:42:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 40145
Az, sounds like your sister should leave him no matter what no man has the rights to lay a hand on women. Josh is not abusive, he is "too gentle" i know it sounds odd, i think it is because he has been drinking so long and it is hard for him to stop drinking. I told him a while ago that if he ever lay a hand on me he is out of picture in a heartheart. besides his drinking, he is ver y good to me and my son. and he knows he only have ONE chance and no more. |
