When a loved one is suffering from depression...

Hello to my readers. I am writing this to maybe help someone who is dealing

with someone close to them who is depressed or is depressed themselves.

Suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems.

Things may seem so bad and the moments may be dark, but they are just

that: moments. The difficult times will pass. Think of it as a

learning experience that you will come out of stronger! If you are

young, you have a whole life ahead of you to experience and once you're

an adult, you make things better for yourself. I'm sorry you are going

through such hard times and I feel for you, really. I understand what

you might be going through. Especially those of you who have someone

close to you who is depressed. It can be very hard and you can feel

get down yourself because of this. But the best thing you can do is BE

THERE for that person; remain optimistic and surround this person with

positive words, gestures of love and good things. Even if they try to

push you away, don't give up on them! It may seem hopeless but it's

not. They need you and you need them, since you love and care for them

so much and are willing to be there for them. To the depressed people,

please don't push you're loved ones away. You’re not a burden, those who are there for you don’t pity you, they’re there because they care about you.

There’s nothing wrong with you at all. If you feel SO bad then I suggest

professional help, but I think your loved ones can be enough to help you but

you have to allow them to.Even if it seems like no one

cares, open your eyes and LOOK at the person who's right there that

you may not be seeing because of how you're feeling. You're not alone

and you don't have to be. There is someone there for you. I don't want

to sound like a lecturer and corny but I am serious about the advice I

am giving now. I have a friend who gets depressed frequently and my

mother also suffers from this; therefore, I am speaking from

experience. I,too, do not know how to help these people at times and I

get frustrated, but be as understanding as you can be. I know you're

only human so it's okay to feel like you do. I'm not saying force

yourself on them and be they're saviour. These people, too, have to

help themselves. They need to open up and talk. When they feel there's

nothing to live for and contradict all the things you say, keep saying

the good things anyway. They hear you though it may not seem to get

through or process in them. Tell them, that as depressed and hurt as

they feel, how bad they may want to die, that's how much you love them

and would be devistated to lose them. Maybe, just maybe, you can reason

with them and bring sense to them. If you don't seem to get through,

don't get discouraged or feel hurt and depressed yourself, at least

you are there for them and are trying. Don't give up at all! I know

this is all easier said than done. Remind them of things they love. To

the depressed, think about life and what you do love about it. When

you're feeling down, all can seem lost and hopeless. I have a post

here that lists a few things about life that are great: http://www.unsolvedmysteries.com/usm335364.html

Tell these significant others what you like about life. There's so much about life to experience and living is all life is about. Learning from your

experiences, becoming stronger, having friends and family and spending

time with them and doing good things you enjoy, etc. Get into

activities like sports, art, writing, a pet,(or USM lol), to keep

yourself destracted and busy; don't worry about trying to be perfect,

or if you're not the good at something, everyone has that. I know a

lot of what I am saying doesn't apply to everything nor is a solution,

so if any of you here have anything to add, please do! Thank you for

your time, checking this out. There's so much more I can say but I'm

sure (and hope) you get my message, so I'll stop here. But first,

AuthorID 15904 (Lighthouse) made a very good point, he said: "I think the best way to help a person with depression is to leave them alone. be there when they ask for you, and leave them alone when they want to be alone."

I think that is very true, so keep that in mind, too.

Well, Take care all

and thanks again! Lots of Luv from *~*Mayuka-<3

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