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Date: 4/20/2003 3:44:00 PM ( Admin-FA )
You are insane for questioning if you overreacted because you DIDN'T! I'd say the next family get together heck hold one at your home and confront every one whom talks behind your back make them feel small and childish.. Because they are adults and they need to act like adults not 10 year olds.. |
Date: 4/20/2003 3:49:00 PM
From Authorid: 54826
I dont think you overreacted. If someone says something that hurts you even if it was ment as a joke, of course you should tell!!  |
Date: 4/20/2003 3:57:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
Yea I didnt think I did either. I guess some people just dont think about how much power their words have. Even if it is meant as a joke it can still hurt. I just wosh I could get my husband to understand that he thinks I like conflict and that is why I said something to him but he does not understand how much them saying things like thsat hurts my feelings no matter how much I tell him  |
Date: 4/20/2003 3:58:00 PM
From Authorid: 33925
Perfect example of why I HATE jokes made at another person's expense..THEY may think its funny, but they are idiots..they dont even bother to realise that what they may say can be very hurtful..NO you werent overreacting and your husband owes you an apology..He should be supporting you, not ridiculing you for having real honest to goodness hurt feelings.  |
Date: 4/20/2003 4:05:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
i think they need to stop treating you like a second class person in the family they should respect you and yoru feelings and you need to voice this.. even if it comes down to not going over there  |
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Date: 4/20/2003 4:06:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
and if they do this in your home you have every right to tell them you don't appreciate it and to stop or to leave |
Date: 4/20/2003 4:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
Why would you question if you over reacted. In my book I don't think you did.  |
Date: 4/20/2003 4:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 47699
I agree with you. The behavior they exhibit towards you is both rude and uncalled for. I think your husband is the one who was being childish for standing by while they talked about you like that. If the truth were known, he was probably laughing right along with them. After all, they ARE his family. I think it's ridiculous that you are treated that way and I don't think you should put up with it anymore. If I were in your position, I would tell each and every one of them that if wanted or needed their opinions, I would ask for them. Tell them that they might not care for your appearance but they aren't exactly works of art, either. Be strong. Take up for yourself and stand your ground. If your husband doesn't like it, I'm sure he knows where the door is. I know I'm being rough here but I think it's called for. You deserve to be treated like a human being who has feelings. Even more, you deserve to be treated like a valued and loved family member. Whew! I'm out of breath! LOL!  |
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Date: 4/20/2003 4:12:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 53900
My husband always makes me feel like crap if I say anything to his family about what they say adn do he thinks I should just laugh along with them even if it hurts my feelings. His family is always saying mean spirited things like that to everyone |
Date: 4/20/2003 4:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 57721
You definatly did not overreact. If something bothers you, SPEAK UP! I hate it when people pretend like there's nothing wrong. If you don't speak up, don't expect change!  |
Date: 4/20/2003 5:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 50193
You didn't overreact at all  |
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Date: 4/20/2003 5:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
you have to also speak to yoru husband and be strong let him know how much it hurts you and tears you apart and how it belittles you... if he loves you he should understand and realise what it's doing to you... he hasen't yet and you need to speak up or allow it to keep hurting you.... |
Date: 4/20/2003 5:44:00 PM
From Authorid: 44321
You did NOT overreact one bit!!! I hate it when people hide behind so called jokes,they are just mean spirited people that get laughs at others expense and try to pawn off their nastiness to hey I was only joking.That husband of yours should not be making you feel bad because you spoke up and told the brother about what you did not like,he should have backed you up ,not made you feel bad!  |
Date: 4/20/2003 6:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 60162
I think your family are in the wrong. They should respect you for who you are, no matter your size, they should support you in your loss of weight and they should know that it obviously makes you feel bad for you to want to lose the weight in the first place. People just dont think and family is no exception. You need to make it clear to all of them that you dont appreciate these so called jokes and that they do hurt your feelings, if they still dont stop then they are obviously picking on you to make themselves feel better about their own insecurities. Hang in there, you did the right thing.  |
Date: 4/20/2003 9:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
You should've told your husband that you married him for better or worse not, what your family says about is always right!! I think it is unacceptable behaviour and it should'nt have to be tolerated. Maybe, next time you could say "Oh, look you have a receding hairline" Lol, that would be funny  |
Date: 4/20/2003 11:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 42945
you stand up for yourself hun, people like that know exactly what they are saying and how it will affect you, thats why they are doing it, because you reacted and you played right into their hands unfortunately..your hubby sounds like he needs a kick in the rear end for not standing up for you....they all sound so childish to me....good on you sweetie and you stand up for yourself whenever it happens and hopefully they will leave you alone...hugs  |
Date: 4/21/2003 5:58:00 AM
From Authorid: 57726
You did not over react. Even if only a joke, a human can only can take so much... You acted alot calmer than I would have lol...  |
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Date: 4/21/2003 11:26:00 AM
From Authorid: 47699
I really think you need to read my reply again and give it all some serious thought. |
Date: 6/2/2003 9:04:00 PM
From Authorid: 29262
No, I don't think uo overeacted at all, I would have stuck up for myself too  |
Date: 6/18/2003 2:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 18527
you were right to tell them how you feel!  |
