Date: 3/24/2003 4:00:00 PM
From Authorid: 31707
ok i completely understand that you are very disappointed, BUT forget about asking her anymore about it. pretend it doesnt exist, pretend she never promised this present. If you want to get your hair done, and you have the money for it, and you do not need parental permission, just do it. Dont ask for payment back. What she is probably thinking is, geez, i didnt have to give you anything. and even if your intensions were not in the negative, a gift is a GIFT, it is a priveledge not a right. and complaining about "i want my present NOW" comes off as being a spoiled brat, EVEN THOUGH you are not intending, and I am NOT calling you one. Just learn from MY mistakes, back away!!!!  |
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Date: 3/24/2003 4:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 31707
AND, DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT use boxed highlights, TRUST ME, another mistake I have made!! |
Date: 3/24/2003 4:06:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36757
lol thanks for the advice. if i do go out and get it done, don't expect me to be here anytime soon. seriously. my brother got a 'c' in a SUPERLY hard class at the semester (ohhh about january 17th) and he's grounded until june. DEAD SERIOUS! he can't go to comic world (they obviously sell comics but they sell mtg cards...he's obsessed with em) or hang out with friends. she's a strict lady!  |
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Date: 3/24/2003 4:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 31707
Snowy Moon, I certainly understand, my mom was so bad when I was grounded I had to give up my makeup, jewelry, music, tv, phone, I was not allowed to wear anything but my uniform, she took my jeans and tshirts, my sneakers, I only had my school shoes, all my hair accessories, EVERYTHING, I understand what you mean. I guess just grin and bear it, moms can be rough!! |
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Date: 3/24/2003 4:20:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36757
ya..i'm ready to leave though...i hate it here so much... |
Date: 3/24/2003 4:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
Maybe she is actually planning a trip for the two of you in June...I dunno. How much does it cost to get your hair done? Maybe you could just go do it yourself instead of waiting. Good Luck.  |
Date: 3/24/2003 4:21:00 PM
From Authorid: 13897
oh i KNOW how you are feeling! it seems like your mom doesn't want you to be growing up and getting your hair done... i wanted to dye my hair but my mom said no no no... just take a deep breath and ask yourself why it's so important.. is it worth arguing over? if it is, stick to it.. if not, let it go. moms can be VERY difficult, but hopefully things will all work out. =)  |
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Date: 3/24/2003 4:33:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36757
the thing i'm going to in june is to iowa city to see my friends again. i've been saving up for that...it costs a TON of money $1200 and i'm over half way there. i've been saving up since last summer when i got back from the last camp there. i'm planning to stay there for 2 weeks...i had such a great time last summer. a lot of people there i'm really close to now and i've formed sooo many many many friendships in iowa city. one of my best friends lives in ames and now i might not get to see him - not only becuase of this, but he might have to go to china over the summer and study violin more. then there's a camp in ames at isu and he lives 5 min away and he said by then (end of july) he'd be back from china if he'd go anyway and he'd come visit me...getting my hair done..i'm not exactly sure how much it'll cost, but i'm thinking maybe $75 give or take a few dollars. i DO have the money for it though. my only problem is transportation. i really don't feel like walking over 2 miles TO the place and then 2 miles back from there. there is one place by my house that's 1.5 miles away, but they don't do it good i hear. the one my mom was trying to get is way way wayyy downtown which is WAY over walking distance. it was worth arguing over becuase i gave her $25 for her birthday and now i have nothing from her. ok anyway, i'm really sick of waiting to get it done but all my friends think i'm a freak...having to pay to get it professionally done. i know i'm gonna have to get it done professionally though becuase i don't have bleach and i know red fades sooo fast. 2 of my korean friends had their hair streaked red and it faded quick but now it's a brown color and they both look really cool. my mom thought they did too until she asked one girl and she told my mom that it was originally red. mom kinda went 'oh...' and then said nothing about it later. so anyway, yea i'm probably gonna go get it done myself...thanks for the replies everyone... |
Date: 3/24/2003 5:02:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
a presant is a gift and you can't expect a gift.. i'm sorry.. if you give a gift you can't expect to get it back...so unfortunately you can either wait until she decides to put up the cash or just forget about it  |
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Date: 3/24/2003 5:07:00 PM
From Authorid: 53052
"it was worth arguing over becuase i gave her $25 for her birthday and now i have nothing from her" you gave your mom money for her birthday... just ebcause you give a gift doesn't mean your going to get one in return.. a gift is a privilage not a right... you shouldn't keep expecting a gift what may never come... |
Date: 3/24/2003 5:56:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
LOL! Ohhh, this brought back some memories. I had the same problem! I have medium blonde hair, and I wanted to go light blonde. My mom said I had to wait until I was older, then she said I had to wait until I was older than that, and so on. She stalled and stalled. She finally did say that she was worried my hair would be ruined so she didn't want to let me do it. Eventually, I was allowed to get highlights from a salon that she trusted. Getting highlights from a professional does not damage hair at all, and that is what I have been doing for years. I also have really long hair, that is still very healthy even after getting highlighted many times. I would suggest that you have your mom read this post, because then she will see how much this really does bother you. I used to always say to my mom, "It's MY hair!" and it's true! Let her know that this is something that you really want to do and it would mean a lot to you to have it done. Let her know that nothing will change once you have it done. If she is still antsy, call the professionals yourself and get her to talk to them. They will surely let her know that highlights are no big deal and maybe then she will loosen up. If all else fails, tell her you want to dye your hair blue instead and maybe then she will see that highlights are no big deal!  |
Date: 3/24/2003 6:10:00 PM
From Authorid: 25756
Well, for one thing, if you get it done right, your hair won't dry out from the dye/highlights...aside from that...I'm really sorry about you maybe not getting your b-day present...maybe you should just leave the subject alone for a while, then in a week or so bring it up in a nice way...?  |
Date: 3/24/2003 9:50:00 PM
From Authorid: 11721
I think you are just gonna have to wait on this one parents are stubborn! btw hey how long is your hair - you getting it cut? donate it to locks of love  |
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Date: 3/25/2003 12:50:00 PM ( From Author )
From Authorid: 36757
thanks for the replies everyone. i told my mom last night if it wasn't done by april 10th, then i'm going out and getting it done myself. i'm sick of waiting :-p!!! |
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Date: 3/30/2003 5:24:00 PM
From Authorid: 30786
I'm not sure if giving her an ultimatum will help matters. Threatening your mom with going out yourself is probably going to make her even more resistant to the idea. Try a more delicate approach |
